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So how many of you have asked for a sign?

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I've asked for signs before, I think it's something we all do. I think God still works his stuff with or without signs. I don't think I've systematically figured out a way to deduce what god's trying to tell me, and I don't really expect to get anything out of that either, God's too mysterious for me to compartmentalize him like that.

The one time God communicated something regarding relationships to me, he was pretty direct and didn't use any sort of sign. He told me at the time that the girl I wanted to date wasn't the girl I was supposed to marry. I wasn't particularly excited about that one, but in hindsight it's been shown to me that God knew what was best for me.
 
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Once, about six years ago, I asked for a sign, but I asked for a very obscure sign. I said (not out loud) "God, if this is the girl you think would be right for me, show me a sign, show me a LEAF WITH LEGS" I don't know where I came up with that one, perhaps the Holy Spirit, I don't know.

Two days later, I saw the movie A Bugs Life. I can't explain how I felt when I saw those little ants wearing leaves as costumes when they did their little play, but it was surreal.

She was actually dating someone at the time, so I said to God "If you want this for me, then make a way"

The guy she was with moved a couple thousand miles away a month after that.

The only problem is, this girl isn't saved, but has some curiosity about God. But about 2 years ago I had a dream of being in church with her, and watched her as she approached the alter, to accept Christ.

We've been together for about 5 years now, but it's getting very rocky now, because of her debt, her worldly flesh, and me being at the same nowhere Job for about six years.

I would actually like to take this opportunity to ask you guys to pray for my situation with this girl.
 
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I think I sort of asked God to provide me with a specific sign...I came up with something my future husband will do and I'll know it's him. I'm not sure if it will work though, but it would be cool if it would. I think if the person is the one you'll have many signs over time that it's meant to be. I don't think God gives you one sign and if you miss it too bad lol. I would tell what the sign is, but then if guys read this they could do what I've said on here and then I'd get a false sign lol. :)

If you really must know about it, PM me :)
 
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Yeah I asked for a sign, thought I got it and it turned out that I didn't. Very painful experience. Interesting how we think we can manipulate God and we wind up manipulating our own minds. She wasn't everything on the list, but she had most of it and I still thought it was a yes. Probably because I wanted her so much. And me believing that God said yes only fueled it, so I hit that brick wall harder.

Here's a good sign. Listen to your close friends and your parents. Otherwise you'll be earning yourself a "stupid" sign (had to put that Bill Engvoll reference in there).
 
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Yeah, I have. I suggested to God that if this man was the one for me that a mutual acquaintance of ours, who had no clue we even knew of each other's existence, would do the "There's someone I think you should meet" routine. And she did!!!

Then I suggested to God that two specific non-Christmas songs would show up at a Christmas concert we attended together. And they did!!!

And then his middle name turned out to be my all-time favorite boys' name, and he liked an obscure activity I always thought I'd like to do with my husband. I could go on, but you get the idea.

Guess what: We're not together any more. I don't know why God allowed those "signs" to happen, but I know He had his reasons. But if He wants this guy and me to marry each other, He is going to have to move some MAJOR mountains.

It seems like lately there have been quite a few threads around here relating to asking God for signs, looking for them, interpreting them, etc. God is pleased when we sincerely desire to do His will for our lives, and it sure would be wonderful if He'd always give us extremely specific instructions through signs. But instead, as a general rule, He gives us common sense and the freedom to make choices. I don't know of any place in the Bible where He says we should look for signs, but there are plenty where He asks us to trust Him, obey Him, and seek His guidance daily. I think looking for signs instead is kind of a cop-out. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's late and I can't think of a better way to put it at the moment. :sorry: Maybe I'll try editing tomorrow, unless someone understands my meaning and can put it in better words. :)
 
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KeilCoppes said:
Often the sign we think we have shimmers and then we read...

"Wake up, silly! What makes you think .you. set signs and conditions for your all-sovereign Lord? You have scripture and a good mind - use them and get busy!" :^)


Yes! That's what I was fumbling around trying to say! :)
 
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Many people may find this presumptuous; if it is let God make it clear to me now; but I have met the man I will marry.
How do I know? Many small things. Many enormous points. I believe it. I am following God on this one. And I think what is most important is that I am honoring God and this man as if he WERE to become my husband. Because he deserves my respect, my faithfulness, and especially my devotion to God.

signs though? God has, in his gentle way, shown me that this is good. Does it need to be a drastic sign? No. Because I think if we need to ask God for one of those... we may be trying too hard to get it our way... we assume we can know His timing... we want to be fully aware of every move God is making in our lives (well at least the good moves) because our romantic relationships are possibly the most important thing EVER and so of COURSE God would show me a sign saying in bright flashing neon: "THIS IS THE ONE!!!"

hehe.
i wish.

i think it's the corny line "you just....know."
 
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I've come to the conclusion that asking for signs isn't what we should be doing. Although there have been plenty of times that I have asked or looked for signs. If you are looking for signs, you will be constantly focused on whether or not something random was meant for you. Your focus would be in the wrong place... our focus needs to be on God at all times.

Matthew 16:1-4 and Luke 11:29-32 both say that it is a wicked generation that ask for a miraculous sign; but the only sign that they will get, is the life example set by Christ.

To me, asking for a specific sign is a lot like drawing lots. In Acts 1:23-26, it says that the disciples cast lots to replace Judas. I was taught in a Christian school that casting lots was simliar to "drawing straws." But to me, it sounds like it's voting. Either way, this was how they decided Matthias would replace Judas. But this is the last mention in the Bible of "casting lots." Because after Pentecost, the disciples relied directly on the Holy Spirit for guidance.

My point being, that we need to rely on the Holy Spirit and focus on God; we don't need signs anymore. If something is supposed to be, and God is your focus; then He will let you know, one way or another.
 
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Yes, I've done it.

Yes, I got some ridiculously obvious signs (including the guy's LAST NAME and the word FIANCE on a random blackboard the day I asked).

No, I'll never do it again.

I believe "signs" can come from three places: God, satan, or our own wacked-out imagination. Asking for signs is just opening a Pandora's box of problems. Even if you think you "know" something because of a sign, you really don't.
 
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KeilCoppes said:
Often the sign we think we have shimmers and then we read...

"Wake up, silly! What makes you think .you. set signs and conditions for your all-sovereign Lord? You have scripture and a good mind - use them and get busy!" :^)
I pray for signs. I do not believe that i am superior to God, nor that I put him to the test. I respect him and his decision, regardless of the answer. I thank him for his guidance.
 
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In regard to my sign, as I said it has something to do with something he will do. No other guy has done this for me and if he is the type of guy to do this for me and think of it all on his own, he is a keeper. There are other things, that I wouldn't say are signs, but eventually I think you just know this is the person you want and God wants you to spend the rest of your life with, ya know?
 
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twistedsketch said:
Yeah I asked for a sign, thought I got it and it turned out that I didn't. Very painful experience. Interesting how we think we can manipulate God and we wind up manipulating our own minds. She wasn't everything on the list, but she had most of it and I still thought it was a yes. Probably because I wanted her so much. And me believing that God said yes only fueled it, so I hit that brick wall harder.
Exactly. I thought the same thing. He was so perfect in my eyes. He wasn't everything on my list, but he did meet the major requirements I wanted. The other things I decided I could live with. I thought, "This has got to be the one!!! It does not get any more perfect than him!!!" I realized he wasn't the one when he rejected me. It hurts, but you live and learn and then get luvs.;)
 
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