So, does wealth matter/effect you?

[MrDude]

Let me start off and say I don't want any "if he/she cares about money, they aren't worth your time" because that's just detached thinking. This is a real world discussion. And, BE HONEST. For the love of God almighty be honest.

Ladies, does money matter to do? If you're in the wealthier category (upper middle class, high class, etc.), would you date a guy who is lower (very lower) middle class? What about just flat out poor white trash?

Men, does a woman's wealth intimidate you if you're less blessed in the financial department? If you're in a lower middle/low/white trash class, does it keep you from pursueing those women with money/come from a wealthy family?

Discuss.

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[chanis]

Let me start off and say I don't want any "if he/she cares about money, they aren't worth your time" because that's just detached thinking. This is a real world discussion. And, BE HONEST. For the love of God almighty be honest.

Ladies, does money matter to do? If you're in the wealthier category (upper middle class, high class, etc.), would you date a guy who is lower (very lower) middle class? What about just flat out poor white trash?

Men, does a woman's wealth intimidate you if you're less blessed in the financial department? If you're in a lower middle/low/white trash class, does it keep you from pursueing those women with money/come from a wealthy family?

Discuss.

I think when it comes to finances I would want some one who is stable and is able to be a good steward of their money I wouldn't go for someone who wasn't good with money...wealthy or not I think it's how you administrate money that counts with me...now if some dude was dirt poor and I was the one with money umm it just doesn't go with me at all...nope, not at all...

 

[none the wiser]

That's about how I feel in the matter too, Chanis. A hard-working man who manages his money well but just doesn't have the income, I wouldn't think twice about pursuing him because of his financial situation.

But when you say "white trash" I tend to think of the people who don't really have the drive to work or try at all...so if that's what you mean, then no, I can't say I would date someone like that.

 

[chanis]

another thought on the matter...I like good things...I think you really get what you pay for, therefore it would be important to me that the individual I'd be hooking up with would agree with me in that area...let's be honest here money is everything in "this" world...and so yeah...I don't wanna sound too materialistic but you said to be REAL...

 

[Niels]

Coming from a middle class suburban family, with parents who always lived below their means, money wasn't something that really impressed me either way. So long as there's enough to pay for the basics, I'll be alright. A Toyota will get me wherever a Lexus can, while costing far less. I've also done the starving artist thing (while working at a bookstore as my day job). It was an incredibly enriching experience, one that money alone could never buy. If she's rich, that's cool with me, but I'd be more impressed if she's writing a novel. If she's poor, that's also cool with me, as long as she's a classy person, treats others well and has decent manners etc. Money's just a number. 'White trash', however, is an attitude... one that doesn't change if one lives in a trailer park or a mansion (like Paris Hilton, in my opinion,... I'm *not* particularly interested in her type).


However, I think it's totally ok for someone to want a spouse who has (or aspires to) a lot of money. This is a subjective thing. I don't think there's a right or a wrong answer.

 

[Blank123]

money does not matter.

Just because someone is dirt poor now doesn't mean they will always be and just because someone may be incredibly wealthy doesn't mean they will always be.

If I knew God wanted me to be with a poor guy I would be, because I know God would provide for our needs.

 

[chanis]

However, I think it's totally ok for someone to want a spouse who has (or aspires to) a lot of money. This is a subjective thing. I don't think there's a right or a wrong answer.

exactly...I think some tend to look down upon people like that because they might be seen as materialistic...

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Great questoin!!! LOL I don't have money, I grew up in a family with not much money so for me as long as we have enough to live on and occasionally splash out that is fine by me!!!

 

[fishstix]

I think that a person's attitude towards money is more important than how much they have in their bank account. For example, it would be a bad thing if they put money ahead of all else. It would also be a bad thing if they habitually live beyond their means, constantly going into debt. It wouldn't be good if they were excessively stingy with their money either. Both rich people and poor people can have good or bad attitudes toward money, which often are a reflection of their character in general.

 

[HoneyComb Son]

wealth for me doenst matter..honestly it doesnt..

 

[JPPT1974]

I used to wanted to be rich when I was younger and admit I still do. But no more as much as I used to since I am now an adult. Just as long as you have enough to make ends meet and to get by is ok by me and all that matters.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Wealth does not matter to me, although in my experience I have run into many men that are intimidated by a woman that makes more than him (preconceived notions I guess).

I grew up in a typical middle-class southern lady so I'm not accustomed to a "Hollywood lifestyle" or anything even close to that. As long as he is a hardworking man with a steady job (ie store manager, fireman, whatever), ambitions and goals (and doesn't mind dating someone that made more than them), we'd be ok.

Money is so fleeting anyway. The majority of us are all a job loss or market crash away from being poor anyway, which is why Paul tells us to be content and happy, regardless if you have a little or a lot.

It would matter more if we are talking in terms of marriage though. Even though I work now, once I have children I plan to be a stay at home mom, so he will have to have a job that will be able to support a family.

 

[WITNESS8]

Hmmm...Money is earthly, my life is heavenly. My eyes are looking towards home.

 

[MrDude]

Well I guess I'll contribute to my own thread.

First, I'll say that I'm lower middle class/borderline white trash. I personally am very neat, organized, punctual, and clean, however I'm the exception of my family. The rest are very much the opposite. I can't stand it. I want to acheive a nice middle middle class status with the ability to buy nice things every so often. But currently, I'm white trash.

I'm very intimidated by women with money. It's not that I'm jealous or anything. But a woman having money, and myself/my family being dirt poor, well, it just kinda zaps my confidence. Unfortunatly, pretty much every girl my age in my church that I'm interested in/attracted to, well, I find out they're rich and just give up any and all hope. Unfortunatly for me as well, 90% of the people in my church are somewhat wealthy.

Anyway, that's just my perspective/2 cents.

 

[Terri12345]

I would not consider "seriously dating" a man that had a job that would not support (or help support) a future family. ie: man working retail and not going to school and having no plans of going to school or moving up the corporate ladder.

People need to be responsile and I think that being financially stable or at least striving to be financially stable is a VERY responsible and admirable/attractive quality.

That said, wealth doesn't really matter. As long as a guy is willing to work and to apply himself, I'd be fine with whatever income he contributes

In fact....super wealthy...is kind of a turn off for me.

 

[JeremiahJ]

Woman's wealth certainly does not intimidate me. I think as little as I can about money. I'm a good steward, and I can manage it, but it has so little hold over my life that a rich woman would not impress me at all. She better be ready to live frugally though. Not that we can't have nice things, but my focus is ministering to others in whatever way I can, and very often in today's world, that takes money.

 

[Sketcher]

If I were to date a rich woman, first I would wonder where her values are: Was she spoiled or not? Second, I would wonder if she's a good steward. I mean, when you've got a cool million, what's another thousand on the latest dress? (That turns me off). But if those two were out of the way and she was interested, I would wonder third: Where are we going to go for dates? What gifts can I get her that will really impress her? With my limited budget, I honestly wonder about that. Especially since rich girls are used to dating rich guys.

 

[Yody]

It matters to me in the sense of I wont date someone who has too much of it

 

[Sketcher]

But if she's a keeper, you'll be set for life .