So angry

[angrySCORCH62]

Hi

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this


I find that I get very wound up and angry over very small things, I don't lash out at other people too often but I normally start thinking very bad thoughts, sometimes I think I bite down on the inside of my mounth and shake with anger though I don't remember everything I do when I get angry.



Anyhow, there's some examples I want to write down of these experiences in the hopes for some advice among other things.


The first example is my Uncle, I think he hurt his leg a few years ago, anyhow he grunts alot when he gets up the stairs or moves around in his bedroom among other things as well as this he snores very loudly and I often hear him at night when I try to go to sleep. When I start to get angry I think some really bad thoughts, I don't want to write them down here as they are really bad but now I'm a bit calmer I feel bad about this.




The second example is another relative, now she really looks after me, gives me a place to live, makes the food, gives me a place to live as well as other things and she doesn't even ask for rent. Writing it down it's obvious how good to me she is and how easy I have it,sometimes I will throw a dirty towel down that I don't want to use again and I think I have seen her take the towel out of the dirty pile and fold it up and put it back on the clean pile, this is the thing that really angers me and I start to think bad thoughts about her that I don't want to write down.


I think there are other things that set me off but I think thats enough information.


Thank you

 

[JCFantasy23]

There could be a number of reasons. One could be hormonal imbalance...Im serious here, it can cause irrational anger and sometimes violence. There could also be some deep seated issues you haven't dealt with and this is a way they project themselves. Is there anyway you can consult a therapist or maybe be checked out to make sure it's not an easy fix?

 

[Somber]

I think you're going through a lot of stress, for some years I was going through constant stress; not enough sleep, besides that I had trouble with my thyroid, a verbally abusive parent....everything builds up and then anger boils. It doesn't even always show up until after the stress is gone. God has helped to heal me, it takes a lot to get me angry now...also if you aren't an expressive person always, that can cause some of the trouble( I use to have trouble expressing myself for a while). Go to God's word study Jesus' life, Paul's...1 Corinthians 4:12 And labour, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it:
Remember the golden rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do to you."

 

[elenore]

the bible tells us it's ok to be angry, but just not to sin in that anger. I agree with the above posters in that it could be stress or hormones. But internalised anger isn't a healthy thing. Particularly as a long term habit.

I find forgiveness is very helpful (regardless of whether it's deserved). Repressing anger can cause it to turn into violence or violent outbursts so it can be really helpful to defuse and localise it when possible.

 

[Spiritlight]

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. -Buddha

 

[Luther073082]

I think you have an anger problem that you should perhaps get some counciling for. Because you seem to get far too upset over trival things.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Spunds like you might be frustrated over feeling like a lack of control is w/in your
graps. At any rate it is the result of some sort of insecureness.

REMEMBER ANGER is only one letter away from Danger.

You have made the 1st positive step in identifying the problem as well as the
2nd step in learning that gratitude is the cure. The rest is a matter of focus.
Now what that takes is practice.

Counseling or a self help (12-step or others are free) program will do absolutely NO Harm. Get a handle on this now & you will be way ahead of the game. Remember
to put on the shoes of peace when dealing with relatives and that when you loose control the devil wins-don't be easily defeated.

Strive for progress not perfection. Good for you for admitting this; most of us let so called "little" things fester until there is some BIG blow up. Prayers
Grace

 

[Emp]

Cm Punk! Cm Punk!

 

[Pologie]

Being angry is part of being human. You can feel a lot of emotions but how you handle them might be hard. I think its okay to be angry and its even more okay recognize why and how it is causing it. Also, what you can do to get through it.
I know that I have gone through periods of being upset with many people and the easiest of targets have been my own family members. Its easy to take it out on them, but is it right, no? I had to really stop and think about what I was doing and how I was hurting them because I was hurting.
One of the things that helped me through it was talking to someone I trusted.
I hope you get through this.

 

[peckaboo]

I was having similar problems to you earlier in the year. It took a long time and lots of trial-and-error to address it; I saw a psychiatrist, I went on a weekend retreat for post-abortion women, I talked to my pastor about it, I changed my contraceptive pill... each of those things helped a tiny bit, but in the end the psychiatrist suggested Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which is a very practical form of counselling where you and the counsellor work together to figure out practical strategies for managing your anger. This has been immensly helpful to me. I see you're in England - you can get CBT on the NHS through your GP or through the 'Healthy Minds' service.

The fact that you don't remember what you do when you're angry is a little bit disturbing though, as this can be (though often isn't) a symptom of a more serious problem. I'd definitely suggest going to your GP or to your local mental health clinic just to see what they think of it. Do you self-harm at all, beyond biting the inside of your mouth?

 

[Tollsuur]

Turn that negative energy into something constructive. Preferably with safety scissors and glue. Yeah, that sounds nice.