So angry I could SCREAM!!!

[Cright]

In 2003 I worked for a lady who owned a temp angency.

She bounced my 1st check, under paid me on my 2nd and by the time I realised it wasn't getting better and quit, she had skiped paying me on my 3rd and 4th check.

I took her to small claims so that she would pay me my wages because she was refusing to.. and of course won.

She still continued to pay me, she closed her checking account so it couldn't be garnished. She had no job so I had no way to garnish wages.

Then about a month ago I got a letter that I was listed as a creditor on her bankruptcy.

So I called the Bankruptcy Trustee (the guy that's supposed to try to help me out) and he said that he needed to find out if there were assets and to call him back...

so today after calling 3 times I finally got ahold of him, he said he closed it as a "non-asset" case. There is no money to be distribuited, there is nothing I can do about it. I'm stuck with out my pay, and WITH the bounced check fees she caused.

At one point I emailed her and asked her to pay me and she told me that she doesn't have money and I'm a rotten liar because I had told her I was a Chrisitan and she said that I'm obviously not because I wouldn't be trying to pump money out of her if I was! AS IF!!

The thing that sucks the most about it is that I do have some debt, and it could be paid off if I just got that months pay! Instead I'm stuck doing monthy payments! Grrr

Is it wrong for me to feel this anger toward her? I can't help it... It's not like I can do anything with the anger.. I'm sure in a couple days it'll be forgotten again.. this totally stinks!!!

 

[seebs]

If she's in bankruptcy, I'd say write it off; she's probably even worse off than you are.

If it makes you feel any better, I am currently looking at about 6 months' worth of accounts receivable for my freelance writing.

 

[SumTinWong]

Is it wrong for me to feel this anger toward her? I can't help it... It's not like I can do anything with the anger.. I'm sure in a couple days it'll be forgotten again.. this totally stinks!!!

Be angry but do not sin.,

In a similar situation a local pastor recommended that I do a website for a local artist who also owns a resturant. So right away I spent a few hours creating this thing, and put it up online, everyone liked it, and no money.

I was ticked off. Do I still want that money? Oh yeah. Will I ever get it? probably not. I am in debt as well and this money would have helped. Then the Holy Spirit reminded me of the story of the man who was forgiven a huge debt then tried to collect debts from delinquent people when he was forgiven.

Not saying this is what you should do, but I gave that $350 to God, and if I don't get it back, so be it, it is His anyway. Now I am at peace with her and will not do any work unless I get half the money up front and the rest before I publish the site.

Hope this helps in some small way.

 

[ZiSunka]

Lord, please bring CR more money than she was owed by this woman. Give her an overflowing amount, so much that she can write off this bad debt knowing that You repaid her.

 

[RED that's ME]

Life stinks sometimes and this is one for you. I agree with the rest of the posts that you just need to let it go. God is keeping record and he can take care of the punishment and your daily needs better than how we think we could. Pray for God's Will to be done in this situation. I will be praying too.

 

[Matthan]

Better yet, say a heart-felt prayer for your debtor, that she might discover that money and stuff is never as important as a pure heart...

Matthan

 

[akascottb]

Better yet, say a heart-felt prayer for your debtor, that she might discover that money and stuff is never as important as a pure heart...

Matthan

i agree, pray for her.

 

[SonOfThunder]

money has a way of eating at people. You have a right to be paid due wages and your anger is justifiable right now.

1. May I suggest you pray for God to help you in this area of your life.

2. Dont allow it to plant bitter seeds that come out in sin.

3. Buy a punching bag

 

[Wakeup2god]

Vengeance is the Lords.

Put it down to experiance. Good advice has already been given. Bless your enemies. God and only God can give you the increase. Don't expect Him to miraculously bail you out of debts though. He'll help you work through them most often. He's a wise councillor not a sugar daddy.

He is Jehovah Jirah

 

[Cright]

Well,

I'm over the angry part now... I just need to let it run it's cycle.. sleep on it and done.

One of the things that made it worse for me yesterday is that my mom said I shouldn't be angry, and rehersed the serinity prayer to me. UGH!!

Why can't I be angry? It's not like I wasn't "slow to wrath". This has been going on for a year and 4 months... so what if I'm angry for a day? I did get frustrated and disappointed during the last 4 months, but not angry.

I RARELY get angry, is it so bad to be angry if it's not negatively affecting my relationships with work or people around me? Is it okay that I boil inside for a little bit and let off some steam?

I just don't get why people want to fix anger when it feels natural on the rare occasion I feel it...


anyway.. I guess it doesn't matter until next time I'm angry...

 

[seebs]

Anger allowed to pass over you and through you can be a healthy response. Anger dwelt upon and nourished eats at you, and is dangerous.

 

[lczell]

As Christians we are saints and sinners at the same time. The anger will gradually go away, but we still are commanded by God to forgive from the heart. HOwever, you were still perfectly within your rights as a Christain to try to obtain the wages you were due. I would mark this down as an expensive lesson. Next time someone doesn't pay you for working for them, stop right then and there. Don't keep working for them.

 

[FreeinChrist]

Why can't I be angry? It's not like I wasn't "slow to wrath". This has been going on for a year and 4 months... so what if I'm angry for a day? I did get frustrated and disappointed during the last 4 months, but not angry.

I RARELY get angry, is it so bad to be angry if it's not negatively affecting my relationships with work or people around me? Is it okay that I boil inside for a little bit and let off some steam?

I just don't get why people want to fix anger when it feels natural on the rare occasion I feel it...


anyway.. I guess it doesn't matter until next time I'm angry...

Good questions and points!

No - it is not bad to be angry. It is not bad to feel hurt, or violated, either.
It is only bad when it stops you from letting the Spirit work in your life.

I wish folks would get angry about many things. For instance, I wish people had gotten angry (angrier) at the slownessness, nonchalance and plain inaction of the Reagan Administration and the National Institutes of Health in regards to the AIDS epidemic prior to 1986. Sometimes it is anger that causes the needful things to actually get done.

And I think that God can use anger. For instance:
Rev 3:16 'So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth.

God can use/influence the angry (hot) person, and can influence the cold person, but the apathetic (lukewarm) person is hard to reach.

And we do gain wisdom in going through the stages of grief( as in dying, have lost a loved one, loss of limb, suffering a violent attack or rape), and in feeling anger (like understanding how others can be hurt by something)...and it takes some time to go through these things.
Telling a person "Just forgive them" falls short of actually understanding what the person needs to go through.

I am sorry you have been cheated of pay that you rightfullly earned. It was wrong of that lady. In time, forgiveness can come. Also, you have more wisdom on how important character is in business and an unerstanding of how those who have to deal with unfairness feel. My own personal experience has shown me that money troubles can seem overwhelming, but once dealt with, thee is a sense of accomplishment. I would rather deal with money problems than some of the other things I have had to deal with.

 

[Cright]

Thanks for the responces!

I don't get angry very often. When I do get angry I don't yell or scream or get rude (sometimes I cry)... mostly I just FEEL angry... and it passes. I'm not a person to hold a grudge. That's why I figured it must be okay to be angry once in awhile.. because it's a feeling I can't control. It comes, and then it goes. If I can resolve a problem I do, if I can't I let it go... but the anger is just there sometimes.

I'm glad to have the affirmation I felt to know that anger is okay once in awhile.