smacking children

[Macca]

Again the push is on to prevent parents smacking their children, it is a move to further reduce parent's opportunity to discipline children.
Prov 13: 24 says "he who spares the rod hates his child"
Please join in a protest to prevent this tool of training away from parents.
Macca.

 

[KristianJ]

I'll happily join the protest. I'm a beneficiary of spanking (sounds weird, but I'd never have been where I am now if my parents didn't give me sound discipline)

 

[Sanguine]

Aren't they just trying to stop parents from striking above the shoulders? Which seems fair enough.

 

[Bevlina]

And, I too will happily join the protest. As long as they don't hit too hard. Sound discipline never hurt any child.

 

[refusethemark]

I am also joining the protest. Take a look around at the youth of today. Children are so coddled today it's not funny and look at the results we get when they turn into teenagers and young adults. Go the smacking! Spare the rod and spoil the child.

 

[†Neil†]

i was never disciplined and i turned out 300% better than kids that were. discipline is not necessary. the whole whoever doesnt discipline hates his child is a load of bullocks because my dad loves me more than any parent i have seen yet he has never layed a hand on me or disciplined me.

 

[Miss Mayberry]

Proverbs 23:13 - "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."

 

[mamaneenie]

I think they are just trying to ban parents from smacking above the shoulders. The case recently where a mother was charged for smacking her three yo in the supermarket (I was really worried until I heard the full story, I have a 2 yo who occasionally has a smack in the supermarket!! ) She was abusive to the child and literally whacked her child in the head/face 3 times, then when the child was lying on the floor she kicked into him/her in the stomach. I was in tears when I heard the full story because I can't imagine anyone being so horrible and no-one around intervening to protect the child.

I support smacking children in an age appropriate manner. My son was not smacked until he was walking and touching things he shouldn't. He was asked not to touch, and if he obeyed, then a smack was given. Nothing to hurt too badly because even at 2, I consider him a bit of a baby really. He is still learning what is going on around him, and he needs to have firm guidelines and boundaries.

 

[Kira Faye]

I am for smacking, but agree guide lines should be set, my idea of what smackign a child should be is an open handed light smack on the child that should leave nothign bit a light red mark. The smack shoudn't hurt. I hardly remember being smacked except for the fact that yes it did happen and I deserved it, I think I got a total of 3 smacks in my life time.

My mum is a teacher and some fo the kids u see u just want to smack the parents for not disciplinign their own children.

 

[Crusader]

Although I am not against parents smacking and agree that it is necessary in some cases, I personally gave up smacking my 4 children over 8 yrs ago because I came to the conclusion that I didn’t need to smack them because I am older and smarter than them and I can beat them at there own game without physically hurting them.

So, I decided to never smack my children again and even told my children that I would not do it. Not because I used to smack them hard at all but simply because I knew I was older and smarter than them and therefore I could play them at there own game and win. I also teach them, discipline and correction go a long way. Punishment however is for the disobedient and there are many ways to punish a child without physically hurting them.

My oldest has just left home and I have no problems with my other children at all. Stopping smacking them was one of the best decisions I have made as a parent and it has payed of for me.

So, I am sorry, I wont be joining any protest.

Let me say, “40 yrs ago it was ok to smack a woman’s face if she got irrational” although that is classed as outrages today.

Why is it wrong for a man to hit a woman?? Because he is far stronger. Some would say, it is wrong to hit anyone???

I would say, why hit a small child who is 5 times more feeble than a woman??

Those of you with children, I ask you, are you smarter than your children and if so, why do you need to hit them? There are other ways to get the job done without sticking out at a small child.

Were does abuse start and end????

hmmm, have I gone against the grain hear

 

[Kira Faye]

I agree that at a certian age smacking shoudl stop and 8 seems abotu the age my mum did, thoguh like I said 3 time in my life. I do see where ur comming from Crusader, but giving a child a quick pat on the bum that leaves no mark and and barly hurts past a slight sting for 5 sec is different from beating a woman. I can see hwo some abuse some parents give is exactly the same thing. But a quick smack on the [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] and being sent to ur room does better then talkign to a 3 yr old cause then ur giving thr child what it wants, which is attention for their negative behavior. I mean I got 3 smacks and remeber nothign except I deserve them and am happy that my mum brought me up this well.

However if u found this didn't work and ur way works then thats great good for u, but some kids do need a little smack once or twice in their childhood.

I do realise I'm only 18 and never really had my own children to discipline, so all of this comes from what I have witnessed and not from experianced, so I wont put up a battle with people who have experianced it.

 

[whymelord]

Well, here in the great state of Georgia, it is well known that you can smack your child in any isle at any Wal-Mart store. I have seen this countless times! FYI

 

[Sharky]

Smacking isn't too bad. Except when you hit them in dangerous places.

You just need to know your limits.

 

[mamaneenie]

Crusader, I do see your point. However, I smack my 2 yo, because I agree with what it says in the Bible about spare the rod, spoil the child. I am still new at this parenting thing and that is why I ask guidance from God every day.

 

[Bevlina]

I see Crusader is oldfashioned. I agree that once a child is about 8, the child should have learned by the guidance given, the difference between right and wrong.
If a child is going to put it's hand in the fire. Do we stand there and let it? No. A sharp smack and the word "No" does the trick.
It's the early years which train the child to the future. But, a little one is a little one and I agree that there are limitations. A smack on the bottom, the leg, or the hand does not hurt. If we don't do it...we get a generation of "I'll do as I want" morons who can often end up in jail.
I know a child who went to a ladies place, got the broom and started smashing her glassware, buffet everything by the handle.... What did the mother do? Nothing. She sat and ate. No way to bring a child up!
The child was about 5.

 

[mamaneenie]

Wow, even my 2 yo knows better than that. He knows the boundaries at other people houses most of the time.

 

[Crusader]

As I said, I can’t see anything wrong with smacking a child, especially a toddler. I was only saying that I and my wife have stopped doing it and we are better of for it as a family.

Kira, I haven't said anything about beating a woman, I said that in the old days it was sociably acceptable to slap the face of an irrational woman, a little like we smack our children to wake them up to there stupidity.

Bevlina, how am I old fashion ? I am the only one hear that has changed those old fashion ways for what is new thinking in our day and age. Was it the scenario of the woman 40 yrs ago? I am not in agreement with that scenario mate, it was a point to show how wrong that was and so will smacking children be the same within the next decade, regardless of what the bible says. E.g. the bible says woman should have there head covered but that changed a few hundred years ago regardless of what the bible taught woman to do. That was my point.

Not old fashion rather always changing to what god opens me up to, that’s why I stopped smacking my children, because I could no longer see the wisdom in it for my children which are never rebellious, and already polite and respectful people. Young Adults instead of childish teenagers. My youngest is now 7 yrs and she never needs a smack, most children run on wanting to please there parents and they do not need to be smacked. There are those children that are only motivated by punishment and they need strong discipline and consequences for there actions.

 

[Bevlina]

What I mean't by old fashioned crusader, was, you seem to think as we did when we were rearing our children back in the 60's. We didn't smack them after they were about 7 or 8 because by that time they had learned right from wrong.
And, it certainly was acceptable to slap the face of an hysterical woman back in those days. It was known as a sort of medical cure for female hysteria I think? It was said to have worked too!

 

[Macca]

If enough of us write to our political representatives we can get acceptable guidelines put in place and allow parents to discipline their children.
Pray and write.
Macca.

 

[bigg]

I won't be writing at all. I think it is not right to smack children - especially past a certain age. I was smacked as a child and it certainly caused a rift between myself and my parents. If you guys think of discipline as purely physical you are in a lot of trouble.