Hi
It's been quite a while since i posted on this forum, but it seems i don't have many other places to turn to. About 6 months ago, my g/f and I broke up because i went off to college and the seperation ultimately deteriorated the relationship. It seemed like the logical thing to do at the time and we seperated "contently".
Unfortunately, i started to feel the effects a few weeks later and realising how much i love her still, i approached her again. She was stronger than me, and so she (with difficulty) declined my plea. This happened three times over a month. At the end of the month (and the month holiday) we got back together again. I was extremely happy but it was sadly time to return to college and thus any building-progress-time was wasted on pouring my heart out and pleading for her to take me back.
But then it seemed like all the old distractions came back by October. I imagined what it would be like to meet other girls (and she guys), faith played quite a significant role (since we disagree on key factors like degrees of dedication to God) and i actually started to regret the weekends (the only time i see her). There was so much pressure to perform as a boyfriend and vice versa for her. It collapsed again. The strange thing is for a whole month everything seemed great. I went out more frequently at college and tried to meet other people. Last week, however, going to her birthday, ALL the old feelings of regret and intense love rushed back into my mind and heart.
I cannot describe the feeling of pure morbid vanity that envelops me at this moment. I want to call her all the time (as she wants to call me) but we know we should hold out. There seems no good reason to remain seperated other than not to get hurt again and because next year she will go to another college and we'll be seperated again (despite any efforts that might be put into the relationship were we to get back together now and see eachother frequently during the holidays).
My faith has suffered immensely. Last night i broke three personal rules by getting drunk, smoking a cig and swearing horribly. I feel like God has left me to handle the situation on my own to grow or something. I was very close to Him since we broke up, but at the party it is as if He left me like an open wound to heal. I've even questioned core faith structures that have sustained me the past year and a half since i converted.
If anything, i've realised how weak i am and nothing, no comforting friend, beautiful music (or angry music for that matter) or prayers have helped me significantly. I know i'll not give up my faith, but i fear that something evil might return to me and taint the progress my walk of faith. Last year i went through three sessions of demonic expulsion and although i don't fear the devils, i fear the setbacks. My clock is ticking.
Any help would be appreciated. And don't spare the blunt answers and advice. I couldn't be kicked in a worse position already.
Thanks..
God bless.
It's been quite a while since i posted on this forum, but it seems i don't have many other places to turn to. About 6 months ago, my g/f and I broke up because i went off to college and the seperation ultimately deteriorated the relationship. It seemed like the logical thing to do at the time and we seperated "contently".
Unfortunately, i started to feel the effects a few weeks later and realising how much i love her still, i approached her again. She was stronger than me, and so she (with difficulty) declined my plea. This happened three times over a month. At the end of the month (and the month holiday) we got back together again. I was extremely happy but it was sadly time to return to college and thus any building-progress-time was wasted on pouring my heart out and pleading for her to take me back.
But then it seemed like all the old distractions came back by October. I imagined what it would be like to meet other girls (and she guys), faith played quite a significant role (since we disagree on key factors like degrees of dedication to God) and i actually started to regret the weekends (the only time i see her). There was so much pressure to perform as a boyfriend and vice versa for her. It collapsed again. The strange thing is for a whole month everything seemed great. I went out more frequently at college and tried to meet other people. Last week, however, going to her birthday, ALL the old feelings of regret and intense love rushed back into my mind and heart.
I cannot describe the feeling of pure morbid vanity that envelops me at this moment. I want to call her all the time (as she wants to call me) but we know we should hold out. There seems no good reason to remain seperated other than not to get hurt again and because next year she will go to another college and we'll be seperated again (despite any efforts that might be put into the relationship were we to get back together now and see eachother frequently during the holidays).
My faith has suffered immensely. Last night i broke three personal rules by getting drunk, smoking a cig and swearing horribly. I feel like God has left me to handle the situation on my own to grow or something. I was very close to Him since we broke up, but at the party it is as if He left me like an open wound to heal. I've even questioned core faith structures that have sustained me the past year and a half since i converted.
If anything, i've realised how weak i am and nothing, no comforting friend, beautiful music (or angry music for that matter) or prayers have helped me significantly. I know i'll not give up my faith, but i fear that something evil might return to me and taint the progress my walk of faith. Last year i went through three sessions of demonic expulsion and although i don't fear the devils, i fear the setbacks. My clock is ticking.
Any help would be appreciated. And don't spare the blunt answers and advice. I couldn't be kicked in a worse position already.
Thanks..
God bless.