Slipping away

[TheStack]

I'm really not that great these days. I've been going through some rough times and it doesn't help with this recent situation. For starters, I broke up with my girlfriend because I thought she was cheating on me. She ran off with another guy in front of my eyes. Which isn't fair because she was lying to me when I asked her if something was wrong, I could tell something was bothering her. So, she needs to talk to another guy about this when she knew she was with me? Alone? That's just plain inconsiderate.


So, the next thing that happens is I meet someone nice. I tell my best friend that I'm going to be dating her. So, what does he do? He asked her out last night and she said yes. I respect her decision, but my friend knew I was going to ask her out!

It flares me up and tears my heart to assume things with my previous girlfriend and to be treated like this from a friend. I don't think I'll ever meet some who was this special or even date again.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Perhaps a break from dating would be good for you. Any time anyone has a big change in their life, like dating someone new, it causes stress. It is too bad that you have been treated the way you were, but that sort of thing happens to a lot of people at some point during their lives. One day, you will encounter people with better morals than that. For now, try to enjoy other aspects of life besides dating. If you throw yourself into a new hobby, volunteering, spending time with family, school, work etc -- you won't have much time to dwell on being hurt and soon you will be feeling better!

 

[fallupchik]

you'll meet someone special, trust me...the whole girl running away with guy thing happened to me too, except my guy ran away with my best freind...but i got over it, it took forever, but i got over it and so will you

 

[snowy27]

You did the right thing, sounds like your ex-girlfriend was not treating you with proper respect. I'm glad you realised and stood up for yourself because I put up with a guy who didn't respect me for way too long (about 8 years too long). After I left him I didn't date anyone for about 6 months and I actually enjoyed being single. I never thought that within two years I would have met a wonderful man, bought a house and got married. Things can change when you least expect it.

 

[bfly]

I know it is hard to understand now, but may be a blessing in disguise. Given time, you will find the one God has for you. Turn it over to Him and enjoy life. You have been give good advice from the other poster. Think about it. Do you really want someon that will fall for anything that walks by. Not good material for a wife.

 

[TheStack]

Perhaps a break from dating would be good for you. Any time anyone has a big change in their life, like dating someone new, it causes stress. It is too bad that you have been treated the way you were, but that sort of thing happens to a lot of people at some point during their lives. One day, you will encounter people with better morals than that. For now, try to enjoy other aspects of life besides dating. If you throw yourself into a new hobby, volunteering, spending time with family, school, work etc -- you won't have much time to dwell on being hurt and soon you will be feeling better!

Yeah, besides I need a break from everything in life and I need to spend some time to enjoy it when I'm young.

 

[TheStack]

you'll meet someone special, trust me...the whole girl running away with guy thing happened to me too, except my guy ran away with my best freind...but i got over it, it took forever, but i got over it and so will you

I know, I just have to open up and wait for my time to come.

 

[TheStack]

You did the right thing, sounds like your ex-girlfriend was not treating you with proper respect. I'm glad you realised and stood up for yourself because I put up with a guy who didn't respect me for way too long (about 8 years too long). After I left him I didn't date anyone for about 6 months and I actually enjoyed being single. I never thought that within two years I would have met a wonderful man, bought a house and got married. Things can change when you least expect it.

Yeah, I'm sure I did do the right thing. Besides, I know I'll meet someone that's right for me....someday.

 

[TheStack]

I know it is hard to understand now, but may be a blessing in disguise. Given time, you will find the one God has for you. Turn it over to Him and enjoy life. You have been give good advice from the other poster. Think about it. Do you really want someon that will fall for anything that walks by. Not good material for a wife.

You know, for some reason I felt really proud of myself when I broke it off with her. Really weird for me but, I'll survive. To tell you the truth I'm clingy myself and I have been desperate in the past to have someone I love but I think I've learned my lesson from this. Take a break and take it slow. I'll find someone when I least expect it.