Sleeping with your SO

[California Dreamin']

Yeah, but not very often.

We fell asleep on the couch in the basement before, it was sooooo uncomfortable so it was not a good sleep.

Then today we were quite tired so had a nap for like an hour, made a huge difference.

We are going on vacation together next week.

 

[alacarius]

i dont think there is anything wrong with sleeping with your SO.

 

[holo]

I sleep with you SO all the time

 

[Maeyken]

I voted no, because before we were married, we never fell asleep together. Now that we're married, of course we do!

 

[Ceris]

WOW, the results are shocking!

hah, well maybe not shocking enough for a drool-face..
anyway,
these posts are very important to me because i will be seeing my long-distance boyfriend in 2 weeks. we're going to be staying in the same house and have decided to stay away from falling asleep together at night, however, we're both a vote to having fallen asleep together before.

as far as whether it is morally wrong to do so.. i'm still not sure (that's where you guys come in). the replies are helpful. i liked what one person said, that it's not a moral issue.

but when my SO is in pajama shorts and that's pretty much all.. it becomes a moral issue to myself. i mean. hello! i want to fall asleep with him with pure thoughts but is that possible when you're extrememly attracted?

mm. as long as i can still kiss him i'm ok with giving up falling asleep together. especially if it helps guarantee our strength in purity.

Hi feesha - I used to be in a similar situation as you - however I probably wasn't as smart about it.

My girlfriend and I went to different colleges and due to time constraints, it wasn't something where either of us could come and visit in a single day and then leave. We normally saw each other every other weekend and well . . . I could give plenty of excuses, but sufficient to say - things lead up to where our regular routine when visiting each other was to fall together asleep at night. We did this for about a year and a half and while we're still virgins, it lead to plenty of other things that crossed the line (like big time). Now that I've moved out to the same city as her, we're no longer falling asleep together at night (as she lives only 15 minutes away now) and things are MUCH better in our relationship I feel.

So how does this relate to you? Well, I want to say first of all - very good idea (both of you) to decide to not sleep together at night when visiting. That alone will help against doing stuff that you would regret later. As for falling asleep together (while taking a nap, etc) many people here don't have a problem with it - and if I said I had a real problem with it, well then man - just shoot me now for being the world's biggest hypocrite. If this hypocrite may offer a little advice . . .

I assume from your age that your bf has his own apartment? If he has a roomate, then I'd say if you fell asleep on the bed together, just try to leave the door open. If he doesn't have a roomate, then it really doesn't matter if the door is wide open or not now does it? If there's no one else living in the place, I'd say just try not to get too used to being on the bed.