Sleeping with your SO

[feesha]

Alright, simple question derived from a previous thread.
Do you fall asleep with your SO? on a bed, on a bus, in a car, under a tree, lol.. anywhere.

and whether you do or do not, do you think it is morally wrong to do so? why?

thanks!

 

[Chan1976]

I've fallen asleep with him when we were reading together. I don't see it as a big deal.

 

[holo]

I don't think sleep is a moral thing, really.

 

[Morrighan]

In a bed I can see where it can cause problems. A bed is generally in a bedroom, and you're tempted to shut the door.

However he and I liked taking naps on the couch. He would semi- sit up and I'll kinda cuddle into him.
Another place we were allowed to sleep together was on the floor in the living room. As long as we were not in a place where we could genuinely be alone (such as a bedroom) it was considered okay.

 

[peanutbutter12]

http://www.christianforums.com/t3090649-sleeping-with-sharing-a-bed-sofa.html

 

[plum]

yes i have. i enjoy napping with him

 

[Briseis]

It is not morally wrong and no one can say it is. They can say that they do not think it should be done, but they cant say it is wrong. There is no basis for such an idea. It is only wrong if there is temptation and lust in your heart.

As for me, we have napped a couple of times, including in his room. When I stayed at his house over christmas we spent a lot of time in his room, hanging out, watching TV, falling asleep. But I personally would not sleep with him overnight. Napping was an accident (not saying I wouldnt do it intentionally though) and just does not seem the same to me as snuggling close in preparation for a night together.

 

[miss_klara]

To be honest, I think making out on a couch can lead you into more temptation than dozing off whilst cuddling. I find that my boyfriend's arms are the most comfortable, peaceful place to be when we're alone, and when we get to a point where we're falling asleep with each other on the couch, sex does not rate highly in the train of thought!! Falling asleep whilst cuddling is just a genuinely... nice feeling. It's so intimate I can hear his heart beat, but that intimacy doesn't extend to wanting to get any more physical... Sure, it might be too tempting for some people, but if it's just a principle thing, I don't think it should be an issue...

 

[feesha]

WOW, the results are shocking!

hah, well maybe not shocking enough for a drool-face..
anyway,
these posts are very important to me because i will be seeing my long-distance boyfriend in 2 weeks. we're going to be staying in the same house and have decided to stay away from falling asleep together at night, however, we're both a vote to having fallen asleep together before.

as far as whether it is morally wrong to do so.. i'm still not sure (that's where you guys come in). the replies are helpful. i liked what one person said, that it's not a moral issue.

but when my SO is in pajama shorts and that's pretty much all.. it becomes a moral issue to myself. i mean. hello! i want to fall asleep with him with pure thoughts but is that possible when you're extrememly attracted?

mm. as long as i can still kiss him i'm ok with giving up falling asleep together. especially if it helps guarantee our strength in purity.

 

[Briseis]

but when my SO is in pajama shorts and that's pretty much all.. it becomes a moral issue to myself. i mean. hello!

I personally choose not to spend a night with my bf, but I have no right to tell anyone not to do it. But I would like to point out that the bigger moral issue in this situation isnt sleeping together, its him wearing so little.

 

[Tim114]

I would avoid it personally. I myself have thought control problems and my mind tends to wonder into a 'dream' state when not careful. Although I've worked through this with other people and prayed about it heaps I don't overly trust myself in that sort of situation... but in the past couple of months I find I'm think that way less and less.

 

[holo]

"Falling asleep with pure thoughts"?

What's that? You want him, right? You like him, you want to kiss him, to hold him, touch him, sleep with him? Is that "unpure"? Is it wrong? Why? It's natural, it's good, it means you're alive and healthy. God created you to feel that way.

You might not want to entertain certain thoughts, though, if you plan on not doing certain things before you're married. But if you want him, enjoy wanting him.

 

[The Princess Bride]

In a bed I can see where it can cause problems. A bed is generally in a bedroom, and you're tempted to shut the door.

However he and I liked taking naps on the couch. He would semi- sit up and I'll kinda cuddle into him.
Another place we were allowed to sleep together was on the floor in the living room. As long as we were not in a place where we could genuinely be alone (such as a bedroom) it was considered okay.

 

[Rin4Christ]

I have on occation, but not often, and certainly not for the night. I am not someone who tends to nap- for me sleep comes when I am laying in my bed with covers up to my chin, and gennerally no where else.

We won't sleep together for the night because the genneral rule is tht we don't stay the same place for the night. The exception is when I am visiting his family- we both stay at his parents place, but diffrent bedrooms.

it is nice to fall asleep in your SO's arms, and I don't see anything wrong with it. As was mentioned before, it is a very peaceful feeling, and for me is a sign of trust.

 

[tayshodd]

Hey, as long as you arent doing anything wrong, then it should be a-ok...i mean if you are really so worried that u might be tempted to do "something" then you probably arent ready for a serious relationship or any at all, part of that kind of commitment is taking on added responsibility to yourself and your SO

 

[The Julikenz]

I've slept in the same place as someone i was courting, it wasn't a big deal for us, because we had very clear boundries and were fully clothed.

 

[...butterfly...]

we've fallen asleep together and naped together ...
if your heart is in the right place and stays there...I think its fine.

 

[littlemrs]

I've fallen asleep with my fiance many times before. It's not and has never been an issue for us. Sunday afternoons in between church services, we like to take an hour or so to nap bc our schedules during the week are always so busy, leaving us pretty much exhausted! I feel so peaceful, safe, and protected when I am in his arms, and simply cannot see how those feelings can be negative.

 

[ItalianAngel]

Yes, my SO and I have slept in the same bed together. We've kissed and held each other and at times gone further, although there is this unspoken "line" between us that we've yet to cross, and most likely won't cross until we are married.

 

[princessellie]

although i dont fall alseep with my SO i dont think that there is anything wrong with doing so, the only reason i havent fallen asleep with him is the fact that i do not get to spend much time with him as it is and if i spent the time i do have falling asleep well whats the point