My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3months now with one of those months being long distance... and it's still long distance. When were with each other, it was amazing. We'd talk and laugh and everything feels so normal and natural. However, now all we have to interact is skype... and it's definitely not the same. It's hard to come up with things to talk about, but when we do we laugh and have a good time. But it's always the initial stalls where you're just sitting there and instantly talking about the weather is the best idea in the world. Can anyone out there relate to this? And if so, what have you done to make the situation better?
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I would say while still keeping the chats regular, you may consider cutting back on them. If the conversation is forced, you could just as easily NOT talk on that particular night, and then you'd have more to talk about at fewer intervals. When you do talk, start planning trips for when you will see each other next, to make sure you're able to have regular in-person time as well (and by "regular" sometimes for some long distance couples this may only be once every several months, but still, it's good to focus on those in-person times together as a goal).
When my husband used to go away for work, I thought I wanted him to call me every single night.. what I found out very quickly is that we had literally nothing to talk about every single night. When I look at our lives now, I see why: Sometimes we just do our own thing, or we watch TV quietly, we're not ALWAYS talking.. every night is not filled with dedicated spirited conversation, sometimes we just.. chill.
It's very hard to "chill" on the phone
So we'd chat via text which makes it very easy to only talk when you have something to say, and once in awhile we'd get on the phone or voice chat.
Sometimes less is more.
When my husband used to go away for work, I thought I wanted him to call me every single night.. what I found out very quickly is that we had literally nothing to talk about every single night. When I look at our lives now, I see why: Sometimes we just do our own thing, or we watch TV quietly, we're not ALWAYS talking.. every night is not filled with dedicated spirited conversation, sometimes we just.. chill.
It's very hard to "chill" on the phone
So we'd chat via text which makes it very easy to only talk when you have something to say, and once in awhile we'd get on the phone or voice chat.Sometimes less is more.
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