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Sister got Raped

wmc1982

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Guy broke in when we were all gone to the beach. It was one of my[ex] best friends who did it. He's being held in jail now and she's in the hospital. He's 26 and she is only 11.

I just feel I should be the one to give justice to him. I am responsible to end his life, not the government. Yall just don't understand.
 

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Hey Wmc,

I am praying for you and your family :prayer:

the fact that the police is saying she could have consented sounds a little wrong because of the age difference - your sister is a minor and the man is clearly over age.

In the matter of justice , i know how much you want to hurt him for hurting your baby sister but what good are you going to be to your sister if you are in jail for murdering her perp. It doesn't change what happened to her and she has now lost her brother when she needs him the most. Its not worth it.

- Shaz.
 
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As a victim of rape I kind of understand you feel for vengance. But its not up to you what happens to this animal. This is where you have to truely give to to God, lay it at Gods feet and TRUST that God will take care of him. I know that it is going to be one of the .. if not the hardest thing you will have to do. Take you focus off him have put it on your sister. She needs your support more then that animal need a hole in the head. God will give him his... it may not be today, it may not be tomorrow... but know that someday God will make him pay for what he did! I will pray for your family.
 
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Oh no I am so sorry, for all of you this is terrible.

Like the others said, please dont do anything that will get you into trouble with the police. You are right, we dont understand what it is like to have out friend rape our little sister, but we do understand rape.

You know, your sister knows, and he knows that it was rape, no matter what the police say. When something like this happens, we need our family around for support and unconditional love. While it may make you feel better to have justice on this guy, I can imagine that it will only hurt your sister more to see you in trouble.

Please think it over before you do anything rash.
 
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In bygone days, it was the brother's job to exact vengeance upon a perpetrator. But those were lawless days--even godless days.

Even in the Old Testament, where rapists were put to death, there was judicial review before the sentence was carried out. Then, the whole community carried out the execution. It was not just one person's responsibility.

You need to get this rage out of you somehow. If you must destroy something, take a pillow and pound it to feathers. Chop some wood, do pushups, whatever helps to get the rage out. Share your feelings with your parents. They probably feel just like you do.

Your sister's life has been forever changed. But please do not feel like it has been ruined. Think of it more as some kind of terrible accident that she must somehow now recover from. She is going to come home with a lot of emotional scars. Try to concentrate on what you can do for her. Make caring for her a full-time occupation rather than plotting what kind of revenge your ex-friend deserves.

Just remember, God will exact his judgment one way or another. Remember, child rapists do not do well in prison. Unless he repents, he could be destined to hell, as well.

God loves you and your little sister. He even loves the idiot cop who made a comment like that within earshot of a relative. Your family has become a victim of the negative side of free will. Please choose the positive side of free will to please God. He will bless you for it.
 
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stupid police are saying she could of been in agreeance to it. She has a freakin black eye and bruises

Even if she was in agreeance(which she obviosuly wasn't), this is still considered rape. What are the next legal steps? Is he going to trial for rape?

Can you keep us informed?
 
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Oh wow.
I can't speak from your point of view, but as a rape survivor I can speak from your sisters.
What you sister needs right now is for you to be there for her. She needs your unconditional love and support. That’s going to be a little hard if you’re locked up for killing this guy. I really do understand your want for revenge. But please know that God isn't just going to let this guy get away with what he did.
I know that doesn't seem like enough, but think about it. God’s wrath is so much worse than what we could give this creep. And if he does go to prison… prison isn’t the most fun place for a child rapist.
I'm sorry the cop made such a stupid remark. She obviously didn’t consent. And even if she did it would still be illegal because of the ages.
I’m praying for your sister, you, and your family. Please give your sister a :hug: for me. And please keep us updated.
 
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Well the guy will be in jail no matter what. 1) she is under 16 its CLEARLY rape, 2) even if she had consented it wouldn't matter because she is not yet 16, also, I really hope things go well for you and your sister. I know its hard on both of you. I will be praying for you and know we all love and care about you! *HUGE HUGS*

Chloe
 
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you are in my prayers... so is your sister... i don't have advice, cos like others i can only speak from your sister's point of view... be there for her, and if she doesn't wanna talk, leave her... just let her know you're there, always. yes, her life has been horribly changed... but she is blessed to have a brother like you, who cares and will be there for her. keep it that way.

God Bless
stay strong
love always

:prayer:
 
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