No, just feels like I'm spinning my wheels. I have male friends & don't mind meeting other men, it just NEVER leads to GF & rarely leads to meeting single women.
My local church has a single ministry and there are about 400 young people involved in it, varies from age 17 to 30. We meet once a month for The Singles Meeting on the second Friday of the month. The Singles' Pastor usually preaches about topics that are common for young people such as relationships, clubbing, drinking, clothing, media, etc. It's basically learning about practical ways to honor God with our daily youthful life
And we also have a weekly meeting on Tuesdays for caregroup accountibility. This is a smaller setting like 10-20 people in a group. We discuss various things like Sunday messages, confess sins to one another, fellowship and learning topics straight from the Bible. It's lotsa fun and very informative, I get to build real friendships with my caregroup fellow members while deepening my understanding about God and His words.
I honestly don't see this Singles Ministry as a matchmaking service. Even if God allows me to meet my future spouse in this Ministry, I don't see anything wrong with it. I actually prefer to meet my future hubby in this Ministry (where we can grow & serve together in the same church) rather than meeting him in random places like bars or parties, u know... But of course, my primary intention to be involved in this ministry is not to find a "potential spouse".
I thank God for my church and the leaders in my church because they give a strong emphasize on relationship and Godly roles of man and women...and the reason why we are at church and involve in this Singles Ministry is because of Cross. I do not feel like the guys at my church are out there looking for girls to date. They are so humble and serving the girls. No one have ever served me better than these Godly guys at my church! And their attitude just provoking me to love my Savior more. It is simply awesome!
correctRight, because chances are...those men want to also date the women YOU want to date. LOL
Do you mean my post? No, nothing I've been part of fizzled, that I'm aware of.Funny you mentioned this, and with the previous poster saying that their group fizzled, well, that's pretty much common when it comes to singles, some for obvious reasons. They typically last a 1 year or 2 tops, then it dies off
I don't think I'd ever get involved in a singles' group simply because that sounds too much like a matchmaking service, which is not something that I'd be interested in. In fact, I would have stayed away from this board except that it specifically said that it isn't to be used for matchmaking purposes.
For a man, it’s easier to get her attention at church than outside of it and less risky. Fellowship provides a reason for contact and hides your motives more so than approaching her elsewhere.
I'm no so really sure about that, women in church can have the same amount of stranger danger going on for them regardless of where it is.
Like if you take notice of a woman, by herself, at services on a weekly basis, I mean, would it be kind of creepy in an attempt to try to sit in the same area she is, until you eventually wind up next to each other. Or...following her out to the parking lot and introducing yourself after services? (creepy).
Women don’t have to work hard to be noticed. From the time you step out until you return someone will look your way. Her potential for contact is demonstratively higher.
It isn’t do or die for most. You don’t have to be on the lookout for the person eyeing you while grabbing coffee or grocery. It happens so frequently. Many are oblivious unless you say something or she notices you.
For a man, it’s easier to get her attention at church than outside of it and less risky. Fellowship provides a reason for contact and hides your motives more so than approaching her elsewhere.
I'm no so really sure about that, women in church can have the same amount of stranger danger going on for them regardless of where it is.
Like if you take notice of a woman, by herself, at services on a weekly basis, I mean, would it be kind of creepy in an attempt to try to sit in the same area she is, until you eventually wind up next to each other. Or...following her out to the parking lot and introducing yourself after services? (creepy).
Is this really true? I very rarely get approached or noticed by guys out in public. Maybe I'm just oblivious, though. Or maybe Canadians don't do this sort of thing very often. Women on the internet constantly complain about being catcalled, but I've only ever been catcalled when I was abroad or in the States. Never, never at home in Canada.
I never see men approach women or say hi to them in public, & I'm constantly going to restaurants, the mall, the gym, etc.Is this really true? I very rarely get approached or noticed by guys out in public. Maybe I'm just oblivious, though. Or maybe Canadians don't do this sort of thing very often. Women on the internet constantly complain about being catcalled, but I've only ever been catcalled when I was abroad or in the States. Never, never at home in Canada.
All correct.I get what you mean, but really...since whenever was a venue not a place to meet other singles. I mean even in situations outside of church.
Some people (not to be sexist, but women) say "I don't go to the gym to date, I go there to work out, not get hit on" even though some men have made attempts.
Or when they are out grocery shopping, they say that they aren't there to be hit on, they are there to get in and get out with their product.
So where and/or when can a guy approach a woman these days?...outside of online dating of course.
Of course, she may instantly switch gears if he's cute enough. LOL
So where and/or when can a guy approach a woman these days?...outside of online dating of course.
Of course, she may instantly switch gears if he's cute enough. LOL
Men were more forward and women were more receptive. You didn't ignore gestures of kindness like eye contact, smiles, and nods. You reciprocated. People weren't tuned out. They didn't limit responses to physical attraction. You were polite regardless of interest. Courtesy was a big deal.
People are less forthcoming now. They don't want to be embarrassed or ignored.
They were KIND of receptive, as they it wasn't as creepy because we all were there for the same thing (all of us students).
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