is anyone involved in a singles ministry at a church or school? What does the group do and what seems to be the focus of the group? Is it difficult not to use it as a dating service? How large is the group?
I'm not exactly invovled in a singles ministry...I'm a leader in a college/career group. Most of us are single. (side bar: there are going to be 5 weddings in the next 6 months).missju said:is anyone involved in a singles ministry at a church or school? What does the group do and what seems to be the focus of the group? Is it difficult not to use it as a dating service? How large is the group?
I was involved in a young adults ministry. It was good for a few years but it fizzled out as the church made a misstep in how young adults should be reached out to which affected what we were doing, and as certain people got into relationships and eventually married. Eventually there weren't people with the time and interest to continue leading it. Also, over time, people had moved away for jobs or medical school or whatnot.Another topic I'm bumping. I wonder if others here are currently are involved in a singles ministry if you will be seeking that out once the pandemic dies down. I plan to, I was in contact with a leader of a church for singles ministry right before the pandemic started because I had just moved.
And also wondering if others have had experience or what their experience was in the past with singles ministry. Myself I have good solid Brothers and sisters in Christ that I maintain friendships with even though the singles ministry were in is gone.
Been 2 weeks in a row. All menI start one this Sunday. It's a 'starting career' group, targeted to 18 to 29 year olds. I'll probably be on the older end. I hope it's a good fit for me, that the primary social topic isn't homework, & that they do more than meet on Sunday, whether it be fun times or ministry work
Very frustrating. Of the 3 churches I go to (my friends church, my family's church, & the one by me that I go to when my family & friends don't go) only one has a single woman my age rangeBeen 2 weeks in a row. All men
Is it a bad thing to make friends with other men? I have some great friends that are women from some years ago (2011-2013). They have been a great support in my walk and growth. I also have a couple of male friends from that time.Very frustrating. Of the 3 churches I go to (my friends church, my family's church, & the one by me that I go to when my family & friends don't go) only one has a single woman my age range
No, just feels like I'm spinning my wheels. I have male friends & don't mind meeting other men, it just NEVER leads to GF & rarely leads to meeting single women.Is it a bad thing to make friends with other men? I have some great friends that are women from some years ago (2011-2013). They have been a great support in my walk and growth. I also have a couple of male friends from that time.
Do you already have a good group of men that you surround yourself with? At the same time, I don't know the dynamics, if they are unhealthy Christians (only looking for a date/ potential mate), it might be better to have that fellowship with your own church (married/single mix). The more healthy Christian friends you have, the more you grow your network and opportunities to meet that potential match. Who knows, maybe even being discipled by someone of grandpa age might have a nice granddaughter you get to meet. Not that that should be your focus though.
I'm not exactly invovled in a singles ministry...I'm a leader in a college/career group. Most of us are single. (side bar: there are going to be 5 weddings in the next 6 months).
The community is about 100 strong and the focus is exactly that...building a community. Instilling a lifestyle with a focus on Christ. Our reasoning is taking the mistakes we had in junior high/HS group where, okay we meet on sundays and wednesdays...if for some reason the gatherings are canceled, then we dont' get followship for that week. So we've decided to focus on instilling a lifestyle in ourselves so that even if you move, you are still having family dinners, you still have ppl to go into the word with, you still are serving the least last and the lost, you are staying accountable to others and so on.
We have had a guy that I will label a serial dater. He asked about 7 girls out and expressed romantic feelings for them...in the span of 4 weeks. A few of us guys in the group confronted him and that hasn't happened since. On the other hand, we've had people that have dated and are getting married this fall. How do we balance the two extremes? We can't say that we can't have dating within the group...it is the season in life and where better to find a mate who is on fire for Christ than in the church? At the same time, we don't advertise the community as a singles group. The way we view dating and so on...it's part of life, we deal with it as it comes...as a community.
Hope that helps.