Singles - help me out!

[Ariadne_GR]

How does your faith and church culture affect your perceptions of being single? Does your own cultural heritage play a role?


I am interested as I am currently working on a book on this very subject.

 

[MorkandMindy]

Hi Ariadne

Culture, basically the people around me has a big affect on what I am proud of and what I am ashamed of. It is what Freud called the 'Super ego' as I understand it.

In terms of practicality being single is better if you are very short of time and not prone to loneliness. My children, right now down to just a son or two, are here each weekend and I'm busy helping with homework. I really don't have time for a PMT woman as well.

If down at my end of the economic spectrum we weren't all fighting each other for jobs then I would have more time for a woman and do a lot more to be supportive, but she has more than enough money and I have less and my priority is my career and my childrens'.

I really am struggling to keep my head above water here in the
English part of the EU.

I have no faith, but did spend 10 years as an Evangelical Christian, and it is partly those lost years I'm having to make up for now and my failure to advance career-wise during that time led to my present singleness.

I hope this was helpful, do respond or PM me if you have any questions.

kindest regards, Morklet

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well the church I go to has a mixture of people, but I would say mostly married people. I was married for almost 25 years before my husband died. In fact this past Sunday would have been my 32nd wedding anniversary, had he lived and we stayed married.

Widows are the outcasts that no one seems to know what to do with. And women and men over 50 is just that much harder to find someone that is compatible with your mindset, since it is just that, pretty much "set".

I am in a bible study with mostly married couples. For me it's nothing new, I have felt like an outcast my whole life anyway. Never really felt like I fit in even if I did, but I could socialize between any groups in my opinion. I wouldn't care if they were married, single, widowed, rich, poor, or otherwise.

But I DO think in my "culture" of so called middle class people in my area, being married is "preferred" but I am independent and will not hunt or settle, so I'm not going to get married because that is the status quo. It is very hard being a widow AND a single mother, but God made me and He knows where I am so.....

 

[Ariadne_GR]

Thank you both for your responses!