Singles (guys especially): a tip to ease the fear of rejection

[ImperialPhantom]

Be a salesman, at least once in your life. You will take a pounding as far as rejection goes, but after the first few, it will barely sting, and eventually, it will not sting at all, whatsoever. I worked as a car salesman for a month or two. The experience was short - the fearlessness lasts forever (unless you get vastly out of practice, but it comes back fairly quickly)

 

[ecuison]

Well time for me to go out there and put those 3 months of selling Cutco to work LOL. No seriously, I need to go out there and get rejected a few hundred times to build the callus.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Heh awhile back some guy called into the number 1 rated morning radio show in San Diego, to give his Cutco presentation to the host on the air. The host surprisingly decided to buy a few hundred dollars worth and donate them to the military, then the producer busted out the OJ Simpson impersonation, and it all went downhill from there.

 

[Luther073082]

I don't think I could ever live on straight commission work.

 

[kingoffools13]

IP this is actually some pretty decent advice. I used to work retail for 3.5 years at RadioShack ... while i hated the company they do teach you how to sell effectively.

I remember one training meeting i was in where the district manager was telling a story about her brother. She said a sales man should be like her brother, and then told this story about how her brother back in high school used to ask a girl out, get turned down and be devastated ... she said he eventually progressed to the point that he had a little book of numbers and he would call up a girl and be like "hey wanna go out? ... no? ... ok" ... *hang up call the next girl* "hey wanna go out?"

He learned to be undaunted by the rejection and to keep talking to girls until he found one that was interested in spending time with him. I'm not saying to ask girl after girl out ... should be somewhat serious about them before trying to start a relationship, but the salesman part ... the learning to accept a defeat as a part of the greater victory ... good way to look at it.

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[esseJ]

I saw this thread and was thinking "rum and coke"...LOL

Tongue firmly planted in cheek...

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

IP this is actually some pretty decent advice. I used to work retail for 3.5 years at RadioShack ... while i hated the company they do teach you how to sell effectively.

I remember one training meeting i was in where the district manager was telling a story about her brother. She said a sales man should be like her brother, and then told this story about how her brother back in high school used to ask a girl out, get turned down and be devastated ... she said he eventually progressed to the point that he had a little book of numbers and he would call up a girl and be like "hey wanna go out? ... no? ... ok" ... *hang up call the next girl* "hey wanna go out?"

He learned to be undaunted by the rejection and to keep talking to girls until he found one that was interested in spending time with him. I'm not saying to ask girl after girl out ... should be somewhat serious about them before trying to start a relationship, but the salesman part ... the learning to accept a defeat as a part of the greater victory ... good way to look at it.

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if mot guys did this, they wouldn't be single.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I saw this thread and was thinking "rum and coke"...LOL

Tongue firmly planted in cheek...

Or your tongue in her cheek, if it works right

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Or your tongue in her cheek, if it works right

So THATS how you got all those kisses from other girls before me

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I had many drinks... err, strategies that I used

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I had many drinks... err, strategies that I used

 

[stormgade4]

Getting a date is like sales. 100% agree with IP. If Cutco or car sales isn't your bag, try selling life insurance. You'll have the skin of a rhino before long.

Some will. Some won't. So what. Who's next?

 

[kingoffools13]

if mot guys did this, they wouldn't be single.

wanna go out sometime Beauty4Ashes? jk (against forum rules)

but you are right, if more would learn to do this (ask person after person until they get a yes, and ignoring the turndowns), there would be a lot less single fellas (and ladies).

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[deliciousBass]

Great advice! I know none of the girls I've gone out with would've asked me out unless I had taken initiative.

Just like anything else, if you practice, you will get better at it. Over time, you kinda get a feeling of who you should ask and who you shouldn't thus raising your success rate %.

 

[die2live]

I worked as a sales person for six months. I still don't have any guts.

I guess it doesn't work for everyone.

It's just as well.

ETA: I also worked in retail for two and a half years, bringing it to three years total of sales related works (and yes, I was successful in both jobs). I guess I'm just destined to live a spineless life.

 

[Gardener101]

I don't think I could ever live on straight commission work.

Take a few risks Luther. The risk takers shall inherit the Earth

 

[die2live]

IP this is actually some pretty decent advice. I used to work retail for 3.5 years at RadioShack ... while i hated the company they do teach you how to sell effectively.

I remember one training meeting i was in where the district manager was telling a story about her brother. She said a sales man should be like her brother, and then told this story about how her brother back in high school used to ask a girl out, get turned down and be devastated ... she said he eventually progressed to the point that he had a little book of numbers and he would call up a girl and be like "hey wanna go out? ... no? ... ok" ... *hang up call the next girl* "hey wanna go out?"

He learned to be undaunted by the rejection and to keep talking to girls until he found one that was interested in spending time with him. I'm not saying to ask girl after girl out ... should be somewhat serious about them before trying to start a relationship, but the salesman part ... the learning to accept a defeat as a part of the greater victory ... good way to look at it.

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I think I have a problem with this. I would like to go out with a guy who had a genuine interest in me, not just because I was the first girl who said yes. Is that kind of arrogant? Feel free to say yes, I know I can be sometimes.

Plus, I don't like the idea of people "selling" themselves. I learned a lot from sales that I've been able to apply to other areas of my life, but sales is about putting on a presentation and often fudging the truth (part of the reason I got out of it). That's not something I would want as part of a genuine relationship.

But that's just me. To each their own I guess (at least on this issue).

 

[Gardener101]

wanna go out sometime Beauty4Ashes? jk (against forum rules)

PM her already! It's how IP got CoG

 

[charlie_hunter]

i was taught that sales in essance is convincing someone to do something that they would not normally do.

lots of life skills can be learnt from sales.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I think I have a problem with this. I would like to go out with a guy who had a genuine interest in me, not just because I was the first girl who said yes. Is that kind of arrogant? Feel free to say yes, I know I can be sometimes.

Plus, I don't like the idea of people "selling" themselves. I learned a lot from sales that I've been able to apply to other areas of my life, but sales is about putting on a presentation and often fudging the truth (part of the reason I got out of it). That's not something I would want as part of a genuine relationship.

But that's just me. To each their own I guess (at least on this issue).

The truth can be told in the best and worst way possible, and sales can be made by using the truth to win over customers. People should sell themselves, because too often they overlook their own good qualities, and thus reject themselves from getting more dates.