singleness

[remy]

A phase, or period of time.

 

[Thithy]

It all depends, but I guess I don't think it's neither. For me at the moment it's just a time for me to be me. It's a good thing. Although, there are times when I wish I wasn't single. however, I don't want to get married right now, so I don't feel like there is any reason for my to date right now. I think that when a person is single they need to see the positive light to it, and embrace it, and be happy that they aren't having to live for anyone else, but can live for them.

 

[collegekid]

It all depends, but I guess I don't think it's neither. For me at the moment it's just a time for me to be me. It's a good thing. Although, there are times when I wish I wasn't single. however, I don't want to get married right now, so I don't feel like there is any reason for my to date right now. I think that when a person is single they need to see the positive light to it, and embrace it, and be happy that they aren't having to live for anyone else, but can live for them.

well said.

 

[en3r0]

being single gives you more time to focus on God...

 

[LovinGod]

I love being single! It's one of the best blessings in my life right now.

 

[jenptcfan]

I see singleness as a gift. I'm not fully prepared to be part of a serious commitment right now, and I can see God underscoring that every day. He knows what He's doing.

 

[aimejl]

I am happy that I am single right now, I can concentrate on school and spending time with my family.

 

[isurrender]

I have been single for almost 3 years now. At times I have thought that it was a curse but I now realize that it is a blessing. I have been able to focus on me. And I have realized that until I become happy with who I am as a person I couldn't make someone else happy. I have learned to LOVE me and I used to not love me. I can now put myself first. I have most importantly come closer with God. I can focus on my family, school, friends and church. And I feel that I am the way that God wants me to be at this moment in time. If there is a person out there for me I will eventually find him but if not I wouldn't rather be with anyone else but myself because I am a great person. There is a season for everything.

 

[tubaboy963]

Depends on the day, but most days I see it as a gift. In fact, I use the logic that I can't date yet because I'm too busy and I'd either neglect the lady or the things and ministries that I do. It wouldn't be fair to anyone.

 

[born2run]

Like most here, I see it both ways. Sometimes I thoroughly love being single, the next day I feel so lonely. It'd be nice to have someone hold me through the rough times. On the other hand, I know God has someone out there for me. This is just the time for me to mature and grow into what He really wants me to become.

 

[Im_A]

do you see your singleness as a gift? or a curse?

being single, i see it as both. a curse in the sense that a part of who you are is not being fulfilled to its fullest extent. the loneliness that it brings and all that stuff.

the blessing of it is, you can get yourself grounded without someone romanticaly involved. meaning there isn't a biased opinion in guiding who they want you to be. and in doing that, i believe your better prepared to give your heart to someone when that special person does come along, (that is at least my hope, haha.)

it's a double edged sword, but it's a double edged sword that i welcome now, so i don't have the stupid and bad relationships i have had due to my lack of accepting and welcoming a temporary single life in my past.

 

[gizmo03]

If I would of answered this a couple weeks ago when I first saw it I would of answered with singleness being a curse... especially, when there is someone out there that you want to be with, but it's the last thing either one of the two need. I was struggling with that for quite sometime.
But now I am leaning more towards the blessing side of it. The main reason being, through my times of struggling I had thoughts going through my head, that I haven't had in quite a few years back when I was going through a lot of emtionally problems and I thought I would 'fix' it. And I hated myself for allowing myself to get like that.. I have worried too much about missing out on that special 'one' in my life that it had taken me through an emotional hell.... So I have been praying for peace and understanding and patience in that area. I am waiting for God to bring my 'special one' into my life if I am not already in contact with him.

 

[HunterJon]

I view it as a blessing because among other things I'm one cheap SOB. I'd lose my mind if I had to buy a girl stuff all the time. I also enjoy the fact that I have no ties, when I get out of school I could go anywhere from Oregon to Georgia to Scandanavia, so I like not being held down anywhere.

 

[Holyjoe]

I see it as neither. I see it as a phase that I am going through right now, to prepare me for the stage of marriage. Do I want to be with someone, of course. Do I want to be with just anyone?- Of course not. Do I like being single?- Well, it has great benefits. Do I want to stay single forever- Of course not. I believe I am still very young- and I will be out of this soon. I might as well enjoy the ride.

brilliant answer!

I heard this one dude preach on relationships - he spoke of the gift of marriage and the gift of being single too - it was really encouraging to hear...but would take ages to write down i guess...