Single Parents

[Meshavrischika]

the argument is essentially offensive to single parents, I agree.

I don't hold with restricting parental options to JUST heterosexuals though. I'm extremely conservative in my views but saying "gays cannot adopt" is just plain stupid.

This sin is no greater than any other sin. If you are perfect, and want to have this standard, by all means, but until someone perfect can come forward to run the thing and take all the kids in, let's just give them homes (whether with single parents, gay parents or any other parents) instead of letting the failed foster system raise unwanted kids.

 

[wanderingone]

Ok. While discussing gay adoption/parenting I keep finding the following argument. *A child needs a father and a mother to have a fulfilling upbringing*. Now you do realise that such argument touches not only gay parents but single parents as well.

So my question to conservatives, do you use that argument because it is the only argument against gay parenting you've got? Knowing full well that there are people who were brought up by a single parent, do you think that they had a *fulfilling upbringing*?

I find that argument downright offencive for both, gay parents and single parents.

I believe that having more than 1 COMPETENT LOVING RESPONSIBLE adult raising children makes parenting an easier task.
I don't believe that means the only way to raise children to become competent, loving responsible adults is to have 2 parents.

I believe that children who have a parent "out there" who has not acknowledged them, who has abandoned them may deal with emotional issues related to abandonment however that doesn't mean their single parent is doing a poor job or that those emotional issues won't be dealt with.

I don't think the issues that children have related to abuse, abandonment, adoption etc.. are fair indicators that having a single parent means doom and gloom, nor do I believe every child raised by a single parent will have big emotional issues.

I think 1 competent loving responsible adult is better than living with 2 parents and one of them is abusive, and neglectful and irresponsible.

I don't think every child with divorced or never married parents has only 1 parent.

I don't think the gender of the parents or single parent is of any importance and I believe declaring no home is better than the home of a single parent or the home og a gay parent is insulting to all those men and women who grew up in homes with a single or gay parent and are now themselves adults who are just fine, not to mention an insult to the parents who put their hearts into raising them.

 

[wanderingone]

Cite?

Hmph... well his study would probably come from one of those people like Cameron.

My own "study" is anecdotal. My cousin and my uncle were lifelong buddies. They worked the farm together, they camped, they went boating. They built all the farm structures together and later they built the 2 houses on my cousins land together... including the one my uncle would live in as he grew too physically weak to care for himself. My cousin and his husband cared for my uncle until he needed round the clock care and then they visited him daily at the nursing home until his death. My cousin's father in law and brother in laws come down 3 times a year for big "men's" weekends with my cousin and his husband. The men in these 2 families are close, and content.

My coworker's Dad and Mom come into town about every other month, they stay with my coworker and his partner and usually have a get together where it's obvious that my coworker and his dad have a great relationship. All gatherings include the usual family stories, of embarrassing and funny moments that make it clear that the father and son have always been close.

Now.. I know that most anti-gay folks are obsessed with male homosexuality but I'll toss in my youngest daughter -- she and I are very close. My husband is always making faces and saying "geez cut the cord already" or if he wants to annoy me he calls us lorelai and rory (after the gilmore girls which is not a favorite show of mine) but he says our relationship reminds him of theirs - ridiculously lpyal and goofy (his words...) my daughter and her dad are sooo close, very typical daddy's little girl stuff (totally nauseating)

I know gay and straight people who have fantastic relationships with 1 or both of their parents.. and I know gay and straight people who have terrible or distant relationships with 1 or both of their parents.