What do you all think of single people who decide (after being financially, emotionally, spiritually, etc. stable) to adopt a child (perhaps one who is stuck in social services) and take on the task of single parenthood?? I'm just wondering . . . I am reaching the point where I can reconcile being single for the rest of my life, but still really want to be a mother one day.
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
Single Parenthood
- Thread starter cnhn9801
- Start date
TriptychR
Investigative Retorter
It's sort of a tricky issue to me. It's great that a single person is willing to take on the challenge of a child. However, will the child have the best possible rearing without the influence of a mother or father-figure there as well?
...But then again, it may be a better rearing than they have in social services.
...But then again, it may be a better rearing than they have in social services.
Upvote
0
gizmo03
Hopeless Dreamer
- Aug 17, 2004
- 1,141
- 38
- 41
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
- Politics
- US-Others
I think that is a wonderful idea! It takes a lot of courage and responsibility to be willing to take on a child by yourself- I respect you a lot for wanting to do something so indrecible. It is something I would do in a heart beat(if I was able to all financially and emotionally like you are) if 10 years from now I am still single and have given up the hope for a spouse, I want a child so much, the love you can give them and what they give in return is enough for a lifetime! Best of luck to you and I hope any and all decisions you make get worked out like you hope.
Upvote
0
One parent is much better than no parents, single-parent adoption is a great idea provided (and it is the case) that not all children can find homes in two-parent households.
Upvote
0
sweetlambofgod
Legend
- Mar 19, 2004
- 31,128
- 980
- 40
- Faith
- Pentecostal
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- CA-NDP
Upvote
0
JPPT1974
SB LX, Valentine's, Winter Olympics 2026
- Mar 18, 2004
- 291,574
- 11,559
- 51
- Country
- United States
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Baptist
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- CA-Conservatives
Many single people are adopting babies to raise on their own. And also that is very popular in Hollywood. The not married but adopt baby trend. Most women adopt from China as well.
Upvote
0
As long as it wasn't done for selfish reasons, I would have a great amount of respect for someone who is willing to give of themselves in that manner - parenthood requires a lot of self-sacrifice.
Upvote
0
Sketcher
Born Imperishable
Freakin' suicide. Kids need a mom and a dad, I'd rather not try to be both. Do you know any single parents? Have a chat with them about this decision, and about the stress of being a single parent so you know what you're getting yourself into.
Also, you're 24. Not too old to get married by any stretch. It may be easier for you to get married if you don't have a kid running around, it's less stress on the would-be dad, and the kid.
Also, you're 24. Not too old to get married by any stretch. It may be easier for you to get married if you don't have a kid running around, it's less stress on the would-be dad, and the kid.
Upvote
0
wvmtnkid
Order of the Candle
- May 29, 2002
- 7,488
- 153
- 56
- Faith
- Methodist
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Republican
I have mixed feelings about this. Our prior youth director did this. He became a foster parent, at one time had 4 young boys, and ended up adopting 2 of them. The other 2 were placed with other family members. While I admired the fact that he wanted to give of himself to these young children who were being tossed around the system, I also seen the toll it took. He came close to losing his job because he was constantly divided between being a dad and being a youth director. There were times when the youth needed him but the children came first. Which they should, but there wasn't a spouse there to help him with those situations. We were on a mission trip this summer and he had to leave the trip and come home to attend to his children.
It's a tough decision. I am not saying it cannot be done and I am sure there are those that are doing it successfully. I am sure though that they have a very strong support system around them that pitches in to help out. I don't know. If I have children, I want to be the one to raise them, not my support system.
It's a tough decision. I am not saying it cannot be done and I am sure there are those that are doing it successfully. I am sure though that they have a very strong support system around them that pitches in to help out. I don't know. If I have children, I want to be the one to raise them, not my support system.
Upvote
0
fluffy_rainbow
I've Got a Secret ;-)
Just my .02 for what it's worth. I think adoption is a very admirable decision, not one to be entered into lightly. I feel God has called me to adopt, but under the condition that He puts a godly spouse in my life first. There is alot of psychology involved in te adoption process, especially if you adopt a child as opposed to an infant. There are also culture and language barriers if you go with an international adoption. I am of the opinion that children are always better off with a married mother and father. Being a single parent is not easy. Be in serious prayer about it.
Upvote
0
I
Inperfected
Guest
I personally agree with the decision... I really want to agree, and if you are suitabily ready y not? But i would have a suggestion... get them to be close to a male from birth, and try to have it with someone who isn't going to be moving in a year or two... Maybe a best friend, or a friends husband, or even a brother or what ever because that way they have a male figure, even tho they don't have a dad 
Upvote
0
Sketcher
Born Imperishable
My whole objection is with all the girls who are single moms who didn't intend to be through a deadbeat "dad", and all the pressure they face, why would anyone sign up for that? It's crazy. It may feel noble, but when you have a woman who is going to school and working full time because she needs to keep her baby's mouth fed, with the obvious baby on top of that, it becomes clear that it is way too much for one person to handle. God never intended this in His design for childrearing.
Upvote
0
Cordelia
Temperamental Girl of God
- Apr 14, 2004
- 1,935
- 116
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Christian Seeker
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- UK-Labour
I know how you feel about wanting to be a parent, yet picturing yourself single! I definitely feel called to be a mother, much more than to be married. And I really respect single parents. My mum was a single parent by choice (to me and my brother) and we were a very happy family (with many supportive relatives and friends!). Maybe two parents is the ideal, Biblically and otherwise, but it is not the only way, or always the right one!cnhn9801 said:
But...you're so young. Surely you've not given up on the idea of marriage? Are you certain marriage isn't in God's plan for you? Do give it a good few more years before you make your decision.
Upvote
0
twistedsketch said:
While I agree that obviously it would be easier for two adults to raise a child than for one to raise a child, I think that there is a big difference between a young woman who isn't yet financially stable and perhaps not even done school suddenly having a baby to care for on her own and a grown person who is financially secure, finished school, and ready for parenthood choosing to adopt and raise a child as a single parent. I also agree that the ideal situation for a child is a loving home with both a mother and father, but a loving home with one parent is certainly preferable to being a ward of the state. Adopting a child is something that anyone should think long and hard about before deciding, as parenting is a major commitment. But if a single person feels that is what God would have him or her do and goes through with it, I think that is admirable.
Upvote
0
LightHearted
No Storm Can Shake My Inmost Calm
Thank you for asking this question. I have been wondering the same thing recently, and look forward to hearing all the responses on this topic.cnhn9801 said:
Upvote
0
Similar threads
