Divinesong - I posted messages close to the author of the loneliness post months ago, and had my feelings minimalized. Told to go out and get involved in hobbies, activities, ministries, volunteer, or spend time with my family and friends. Truth be told, I have been doing that with the only couple friends I have hours away (I have no friends in this area), and have been putting myself out there. You know what...it is even lonelier, because as you put yourself out there it is not filling the immediate emotional need you have to BOND with someone, it is only making yourself busy and temporarily getting your mind of things. Once these people have a moment of quiet in their life, their friends are not around, family doesn't have time for them, or they will see the emptiness is their busy schedule, they will then realize what it is truly like to be alone. They are in denial, putting a bandaid over the fact that loneliness is the human condition, and pointing fingers that "you shouldn't feel that way!" Actually, yes you should it is a normal human emotion that happens from time to time, to singles, marrieds, widoweds, etc. I have no idea why as a society, both Christians and non-Christians, everybody like to make a person who actually admit to feeling of loneliness feel so lousy about the way they are feeling, and encourage the "busy" factor. It is NOT getting to the root of the problem. And for some people the root of the problem may be not having a close enough relationship with God. But for others, it stems from not having enough close bonds on this planet, and there are some people like that.
God did not mean for man to be alone, and some people are more emotional and analytical creatures than others, and can see through this busy behavior and all the "action" of the day, and become emotionally discontent at the fact that they lack emotional bonds with others, and without it, life can be very empty and lonely sometimes.
I get lonely a lot, but I am coming to terms with the fact I feel lousy about it because society makes me feel lousy about it. It is not socially acceptable. How I help that is my outlets, but try to IGNORE people who do not feel the same way. That's right, you are lonely, but IGNORE others. You are in an emotional state that is fragile, and you do not have to have negativity around you. You need to surround yourself with uplifting people, or no one. If it has to be the latter, once you get through the period you will be thanking yourself and stronger for not letting others with a different mindset bring you down.
It isn't easy having a very analytical personality and think about these things, you dig beyond the surface and get to the details of everything! I recognize this pattern because I have it myself, and there is nothing wrong with it. I see that you have this gift, as well as the other poster for discontentment thread. Don't lose that sense of perspective that you have, that you can see the forest for the trees in life. However, do not let others bring you down and tell you that you are wrong for feeling that way. There are instances of loneliness in the Bible. Think of it as 40 days in the desert x 70! You will get through this, you will! I am not going to give you advice on everything you SHOULD be doing to get through it, but will say this...you have the strength inside you to get through it, and every person is different (especially us analytical people). You will find your own way of getting through this, but for now you need to accept that you are lonely and where you are at, and realize it is natural and the human condition. There is nothing wrong with you for feeling this way...remember that!
With many hugs and prayers I will end this message...you are in my prayers!
