Should I Tithe to the Church I Have a Dispute With?

[Sara50840]

I’m an employee at my home church and have an issue with something going on. You’re welcome to go read my last thread for all of the details, but basically another employee us harassing me and the church isn’t doing enough about it. I’ve done all I can do on my end to try and stop it, but the matter has escalated to the where I have gotten church leadership involved to get him to stop.

It has come to the point where I have told my pastor I am considering resigning. I was going to resign right then, but after a discussion with him, I’m giving the church one more shot to make it right, and if they don’t, I’m leaving. (This issue has gone on for months and this man’s sin has not properly been reprimanded. He’s been encouraged by the church: He still prays over the offering and is spoken highly of by everyone, even those who know the situation.)

I have gotten income from the church that I haven’t tithed yet. I’m also expecting more money coming in from different sources in the next few days. Should I tithe to the church I have a dispute with, or should I donate my tithes to a Christian organization until the matter is resolved/I move churches?

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

 

[PloverWing]

If you are uncomfortable supporting your church financially in the present situation, I think it's quite reasonable to direct your tithes to another organization or church for a while.

I hope the church leadership is able to resolve this firmly, and quickly. The situation you've described in your other posts is terrible, and it sounds like the church leaders aren't taking it seriously enough.

 

[Blade]

I’m an employee at my home church and have an issue with something going on. You’re welcome to go read my last thread for all of the details, but basically another employee us harassing me and the church isn’t doing enough about it. I’ve done all I can do on my end to try and stop it, but the matter has escalated to the where I have gotten church leadership involved to get him to stop.

It has come to the point where I have told my pastor I am considering resigning. I was going to resign right then, but after a discussion with him, I’m giving the church one more shot to make it right, and if they don’t, I’m leaving. (This issue has gone on for months and this man’s sin has not properly been reprimanded. He’s been encouraged by the church: He still prays over the offering and is spoken highly of by everyone, even those who know the situation.)

I have gotten income from the church that I haven’t tithed yet. I’m also expecting more money coming in from different sources in the next few days. Should I tithe to the church I have a dispute with, or should I donate my tithes to a Christian organization until the matter is resolved/I move churches?

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

I give to where God wants me to give. I remember this Church needed money so the preacher prayed. He said two huge angels appear and said "we are waiting for the command". No we as men do not can not ever command angels. Took him a few min to figure out what they meant for that is all they said. He then understood and read something from the word of God that GOD said and they vanished. About week later this man comes in drops this bag of money very hard on the table and said "I don't like you but God told me to give this to you". It was exactly what the Church needed.

Take with a grain of salt but.. so many times we are blinded by only what we see with physical eyes and never being able to see the heart. They can be 100% different. So many times God will say "ooh but you don't know all the good they do for me". That part SO TRUE. So pray and you give where you get a peace.. your giving to HIM..

 

[Strong in Him]

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

Having read your previous post, your situation sounds horrific.
I don't know what it's like where you are, but over here we take safeguarding, grooming and unhealthy relationships very seriously. The church should be setting an example, modelling best practice and not allowing this sort of behaviour, or protecting perpetrators.

If you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to leave the church and make your reasons for doing so, clear.
If you are prepared to give the leadership another chance to sort it out, that's up to you. You still have a right to withhold your voluntary donation to them. In fact, being cynical, it could be that hitting them financially might cause them to sit up and listen.

As to where to give it - that's up to you too. Another church? A charity close to your heart?
Or tell the leadership that you're supporting a charity for abuse against women - see what they say.

 

[splish- splash]

The issue on whether or not we should even be tithing in the first place, is another topic on it's own. Hope things improve for you though, at your church.

 

[Gentle Lamb]

I’m an employee at my home church and have an issue with something going on. You’re welcome to go read my last thread for all of the details, but basically another employee us harassing me and the church isn’t doing enough about it. I’ve done all I can do on my end to try and stop it, but the matter has escalated to the where I have gotten church leadership involved to get him to stop.

It has come to the point where I have told my pastor I am considering resigning. I was going to resign right then, but after a discussion with him, I’m giving the church one more shot to make it right, and if they don’t, I’m leaving. (This issue has gone on for months and this man’s sin has not properly been reprimanded. He’s been encouraged by the church: He still prays over the offering and is spoken highly of by everyone, even those who know the situation.)

I have gotten income from the church that I haven’t tithed yet. I’m also expecting more money coming in from different sources in the next few days. Should I tithe to the church I have a dispute with, or should I donate my tithes to a Christian organization until the matter is resolved/I move churches?

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

As the Bible says, treat them as unbelievers and bring your tithes elsewhere, especially a place where your mind is at rest/peace.

 

[Sara50840]

I ended up leaving the church and tithing to the Gideons. Ironically it was my largest tithe yet because of a new job.

 

[returntosender]

Why should we give christian sinners leeway? Or should we?

 

[Aussie Pete]

If you are uncomfortable supporting your church financially in the present situation, I think it's quite reasonable to direct your tithes to another organization or church for a while.

I hope the church leadership is able to resolve this firmly, and quickly. The situation you've described in your other posts is terrible, and it sounds like the church leaders aren't taking it seriously enough.

I’m an employee at my home church and have an issue with something going on. You’re welcome to go read my last thread for all of the details, but basically another employee us harassing me and the church isn’t doing enough about it. I’ve done all I can do on my end to try and stop it, but the matter has escalated to the where I have gotten church leadership involved to get him to stop.

It has come to the point where I have told my pastor I am considering resigning. I was going to resign right then, but after a discussion with him, I’m giving the church one more shot to make it right, and if they don’t, I’m leaving. (This issue has gone on for months and this man’s sin has not properly been reprimanded. He’s been encouraged by the church: He still prays over the offering and is spoken highly of by everyone, even those who know the situation.)

I have gotten income from the church that I haven’t tithed yet. I’m also expecting more money coming in from different sources in the next few days. Should I tithe to the church I have a dispute with, or should I donate my tithes to a Christian organization until the matter is resolved/I move churches?

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

Fundamentally, you should tithe to whever you are receiving spiritual help. You can give over and above that to those in need. Above all, be led by the Lord. If the church fails to deal with the issue this time, yes, take yourself and your tithe elsewhere.

 

[returntosender]

As the Bible says, treat them as unbelievers and bring your tithes elsewhere, especially a place where your mind is at rest/peace.

The issue on whether or not we should even be tithing in the first place, is another topic on it's own. Hope things improve for you though, at your church.

I don't think it's an issue for "we".

 

[anetazo]

You might be par takers of thier sins. I would be very careful who you tithes too. Second epistle John, if sound doctrine isn't taught at any church, get out fast. God hates false teachings. Zephniah chapter 3, the priests have polluted the sanctuary. Sadly, many pastors and priests are compromised. They sold out for salary, pension plan and position. The deacon board has the final word. Bottom line. Does the church teach tradition of men or sound doctrine. Hosea chapter 4:15, were warned not to go to Beth Aven. It means house of emptiness. God will not bless anyone involved with Beth Aven. Get the picture. Be careful who you tithes too.

 

[I's2C]

I’m an employee at my home church and have an issue with something going on. You’re welcome to go read my last thread for all of the details, but basically another employee us harassing me and the church isn’t doing enough about it. I’ve done all I can do on my end to try and stop it, but the matter has escalated to the where I have gotten church leadership involved to get him to stop.

It has come to the point where I have told my pastor I am considering resigning. I was going to resign right then, but after a discussion with him, I’m giving the church one more shot to make it right, and if they don’t, I’m leaving. (This issue has gone on for months and this man’s sin has not properly been reprimanded. He’s been encouraged by the church: He still prays over the offering and is spoken highly of by everyone, even those who know the situation.)

I have gotten income from the church that I haven’t tithed yet. I’m also expecting more money coming in from different sources in the next few days. Should I tithe to the church I have a dispute with, or should I donate my tithes to a Christian organization until the matter is resolved/I move churches?

In Matthew 5 it says to leave your tithe and reconcile with your brother before offering your gift to God. But I’ve done all I can to reconcile: the man won’t stop harassing me and the church isn’t doing their duty to make it stop. My relationship with God is fine, if not better than it was when all of this started. So what should I do with my tithe?

2 Corinthians 9:7

Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. I have always been led to believe if you do not give with a joyful heart and with thanks to GOD all HE has given you, then HE want accept it. Dont sound as if you would be given with a joyful heart. You should always give to a church where you are being taught if the church is not teaching you the WORD of GOD than. If a church does not teach the WORD of GOD than why is any one there? Church is suppose to be a candle that gives light if the church is not giving light it is in the dark and therefore sinful, therefore partaker of sin. I tithe to a Church because what they have taught me I want others to know and learn so I give joyfully with thanks to GOD. I know what they teach verse by verse chapter by chapter is true WORD of GOD and therefore I gladly with all my heart give to them so the WORD of GOD can go out in the light they give to others.