Should I just say what's on my mind?

[Jupiter Drops]

Often times, I hold my tongue whenever someone does something wrong to me.
But I don't think that's working anymore.
I hold my tongue because:

1. I don't want to make my life more complicated.
2. It leaves bad taste in my mouth.
3. I hate conflict over stupid things that in the end is petty.

Still, it doesn't make me feel good to let them win and keep doing the same crap to others.

What's the option here? Should I just say whatever is right?

 

[High Fidelity]

I think it's best to always be honest, even if the other person isn't going to like it. That's not to say go and be horrible to people and, of course, some tact goes a long way, but if I have something to say then I'll say it.

Some people love that quality and transparency, a lot of people don't. I personally like brutal honesty and to know where I stand, but a lot of people it seems like things sugar coating(Which is bad because it leaves room for ambiguity and interpretation), so it is what it is.

Honesty is the best policy for me. Some things just need to be said and it really bugs me when something obviously needs to be said and people skirt around the problem because they don't want to be the one to deal with it. The problem with that is that the person or persons doing whatever it is that's wrong or annoying will just keep doing it because they either know no differently or just need to be told how it is.

 

[Nanopants]

Loose lips sink ships.

Now, if only a few other women from my past would have held silence in such high regard... I'd likely have someone to make me a sandwich right now.

 

[Toro]

Often times, I hold my tongue whenever someone does something wrong to me.
But I don't think that's working anymore.
I hold my tongue because:

1. I don't want to make my life more complicated.
2. It leaves bad taste in my mouth.
3. I hate conflict over stupid things that in the end is petty.

Still, it doesn't make me feel good to let them win and keep doing the same crap to others.

What's the option here? Should I just say whatever is right?

I think you should always speak your truth.

How you say things are the important issue.

If people cant handle truth, then.... so be it.

Holding things in only make it worse for you. Not only do you carry the burden of how they wronged you, but the burden of silence as well.

If its a misunderstanding. They may apologize and keep another instance of it happening again.

 

[MehGuy]

I used to speak my mind. Over time it wore me down..

Sometimes it's nice to not be the freak and just sit in the corner by yourself.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

I think it's best to always be honest, even if the other person isn't going to like it. That's not to say go and be horrible to people and, of course, some tact goes a long way, but if I have something to say then I'll say it.

Some people love that quality and transparency, a lot of people don't. I personally like brutal honesty and to know where I stand, but a lot of people it seems like things sugar coating(Which is bad because it leaves room for ambiguity and interpretation), so it is what it is.

Honesty is the best policy for me. Some things just need to be said and it really bugs me when something obviously needs to be said and people skirt around the problem because they don't want to be the one to deal with it. The problem with that is that the person or persons doing whatever it is that's wrong or annoying will just keep doing it because they either know no differently or just need to be told how it is.

So speaking up is honesty?
I guess direct communication brings success anywhere.
Thanks. I'll try to follow that policy.

Loose lips sink ships.

Now, if only a few other women from my past would have held silence in such high regard... I'd likely have someone to make me a sandwich right now.

I think you should always speak your truth.

How you say things are the important issue. Not only are you holding on to the wrong they did to you, but, the burden of silence as well. If it is a simple misunderstanding and you speak up. They might just apologize and prevent such things from happening again.

If people cant handle truth, then.... so be it.

Holding things in only make it worse for you. Not only do you carry the burden of how they wronged you, but the burden of silence as well.

If its a misunderstanding. They may apologize and keep another instance of it happening again.

You're right.
It is wearing me down.
I was so tired before whenever I used to speak up. Now I'm tired of holding back.
I need to find my balance and communicate better.

I used to speak my mind. Over time it wore me down..

Sometimes it's nice to not be the freak and just sit in the corner by yourself.

There's some truth to that.
I used to be forthright. I toned it down because it was pushing people away from me.
But now that hold my tongue more often, it's wearing me down.

 

[Nanopants]

Does it even really matter? If I don't support your decision, you may be offended at my not being supportive. If I do support your decision, you may be offended for supporting your submission to patriarchal ideals. Check mate.

I however, anticipated this and arrived at the only winning position: do what you want (and I can only hope that it has something to do with sandwiches).

 

[Jupiter Drops]

Does it even really matter? If I don't support your decision, you may be offended at my not being supportive. If I do support your decision, you may be offended for supporting your submission to patriarchal ideals. Check mate.

I however, anticipated this and arrived at the only winning position: do what you want (and I can only hope that it has something to do with sandwiches).

Please just stop.
This is getting pathetic.

 

[Nanopants]

Lol. Did you just invent a reason to be offended out of thin air?

 

[Nanopants]

There's like no way to respond to that. I think you might have broken a few laws of physics on that one.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

Lol. Did you just invent a reason to be offended out of thin air?

There's like no way to respond to that. I think you might have broken a few laws of physics on that one.

Well, okay then.

 

[Nanopants]

It's all good though, because you were saying exactly what was on your mind, which is exactly what I though you should do, or something.

 

[Toro]

You're right.
It is wearing me down.
I was so tired before whenever I used to speak up. Now I'm tired of holding back.
I need to find my balance and communicate better.

So THAT'S where my first edit went to.

I thought I had hit cancel on accident.

Sorry, didnt mean to repeat myself

*Note to self...... look UP stupid after you edit a post..... sometimes you hit the type button above where you thought you did.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

So THAT'S where my first edit went to.

I thought I had hit cancel on accident.

Sorry, didnt mean to repeat myself

*Note to self...... look UP stupid after you edit a post..... sometimes you hit the type button above where you thought you did.

No worries.
I didn't even notice.

 

[redblue22]

ever so full of love for others, speak away.

 

[Stravinsk]

My spidey sense is tingling. I sense a private conversation that maybe should be kept private.

Just a feeling. Never mind me. I'm the forum dufus.

 

[Deidre32]

I too am not a confrontational type, but every now and then, you need to speak up if something is bothering you or people are trampling over your boundaries. Staying silent doesn't always work.

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

I feel the same way as you, Jupiter Drops, and for the same reasons. I used to confront every little thing head on, charging like a bull. Now I'm like a timid cat in a corner.

I used to think of it as picking my battles, but I was losing way too frequently. I'm trying to work on speaking up when it's necessary and realizing that my feelings matter. Plus some things are just not okay.

 

[William67]

Often times, I hold my tongue whenever someone does something wrong to me.
But I don't think that's working anymore.
I hold my tongue because:

1. I don't want to make my life more complicated.
2. It leaves bad taste in my mouth.
3. I hate conflict over stupid things that in the end is petty.

Still, it doesn't make me feel good to let them win and keep doing the same crap to others.

What's the option here? Should I just say whatever is right?

Honestly is always the best policy. Even if it can be painful at times.

 

[goofypusher837]

I believe that life is too short to continuously accept abuse(physical or mental). On the other hand, if you can prevent what somebody says or does to you from getting under your skin, then just let it roll off your shoulder. Matthew 5:44 and James 1:22 come to mind