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Should I change churches?

blerg1234

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well I have decided to stay... due to reasons that I feel it is Satan trying to make me find reasons to leave - such as making me mentally amplify little problems to seem larger...

And I also find that I actually tolerate stuff a lot more when she is there . But seriously though, this isn't a 'crush', I actually feel really strongly for her in a way I've never felt for anyone else...

Anyway yeah... I'm staying here, and I think things are actually starting to improve in the church as well.

The music director hasn't been giving me grief for a while either, which is good, I think he sort of took the hint when I walked out halfway through the practise before a service a couple of months back when he was being highly unreasonable... The worse thing was it was right in the middle if one of my depressive mood swings and I was kind of REALLY upset the whole day ... but anyway yeah we're both over it.

So uhh... thanks for everyone's input...
 
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LOL,

[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] man, are you me? HAHAHA. Listen up, I am the drummer of my church. I got saved because I started dating my current wife (when we were both in the world) but she was forced to go to church cus she was living with her uncle who was the Pastor at the time. So that's how God hooked me, by the girl So I don't necessarily think that that in itself is wrong. God has ways we don't understand. Granted, your situation is different because you are already a Christian but hey, you have feelings. Ask God to bless you, to show you if she's the person for you!

Now, back to church and music. I also felt frustrated immensly because the worship leader (although a VERY spiritual man) lacked a lot in the music aspect and sometimes is very frustrating. Our church went through many things, and 75% of the time I felt I wasn't getting fed, but you know what? a church is not a restaurant You go there to have fellowship and if the food is bad, you go behind the kitchen, because it is your God given responsability. Also, feed yourself. The bible clearly states that the Spirit will teach us everything and PRAY and TALK to the elders, point out to them your problem and yuour perspective, without disrespecting the authority God trusted them with.

God puts us in a church to work. You as a drummer are a minister. You know what that word means? Minister means to serve. (i.e. a government minister serves the people in a specific area). So you serve God, you help others with the same needs you have. Talk to the pastor, to your worship leader and most importantly to God.

After all I can tell you that today I'm so happy. The worship leader tpday is a blessing beyond belief, the word that is preached in my church is such a BLESSING and I can honestly say that I stuck with it and didn't whine and complain, I helped it be what it is now, and there is nothing as rewarding as that. All the glory be to God.

I applaude you staying there, but now is the time to pray, read the word and work. Like nehemiah work with a hammer in one hand and a sword in the other one!

God Bless you,
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believe me, I've done a bit of thinking out... I've invited my friend (the one who goes to the other youth group I go to) to come visit my church with her boyfriend (also my friend ) sometime, and they haven't had the opportunity yet, ie. one or the other has been rostered on for something... Anyway... she mentioned to me that she is a leader at the church (I didn't actually know she was beforehand, and I still don't know what she is a leader of) and that that church is her home... she's happy to come visit my church if we have a guest speaker or something, but she would feel uncomfortable there otherwise. Which I can understand, and that she also has responsibilities as a leader there... Which got me thinking, so I prayed about it and I believe that God wants me in my church, and that it needs to be my main priority.

Also some other stuff has come up - there is going to be a new 'thing' with a bunch of churches in the small area I live in (something like 3 or 4 churches or something) where we are going to start a big youth night thing at a PCYC (Police Community Youth Centre or something) hall on the first friday of every month, where we have bands and stuff... Cos like seriously, the area I live in has the highest suicide rate in the world (the area I live in has the highest rate in the central coast, which is the region with the highest suicide rate in Australia, the country with the highest suicide rate in the world... it's quite a sad statistic)

Anyway... so yeah... And I'm also going to be in my church's over 18s group, and that will be on Friday nights as well which is the night the other youth group is on. But since this is where I believe God wants me, then the over-18s here is my priority to the other youth group.

What I'm really interested in is music ministry... I'm getting a guitar soon (I'm getting a 2nd hand Les Paul standard copy, which I think is an Epiphone version for AU $495) and I'm gonna learn to play guitar... I want to be the first artist in the world to write odd-time Praise and Worship songs consistently . I'll probably also be leading the music in my youth group (which is pretty small, so I'm pretty much the leader in it anyway since I have the most knowledge and experience of music... I'm not being arrogant or anything that's just the way it is). But when I start writing songs, muahahaha!

So yeah I have a few goals which I believe God is going to help me achieve... I was prophesied to that I would see thousands give their lives to Jesus and I believe that I'm going to see that through music ministry because that is where my heart is.
 
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