should i be less friendly online?

[ferozt]

im overall a pretty friendly guy, when i talk to someone new im nice and dont really have any problems communicating...and in real life this seems to be fine.

but online, people always seem to be rude to me. they always make fun of my grammar or find something to rip on me about. it is frustrating. Another example, on a different gaming forum i go to, i was taking part in a gaming discussion, and i sent someone a PM about a game we have in common, and he just totally ignored it and its been a week and no reply, and yeah he has been online and participating.

it wouldn't bother me much, but it seems to happen all the time, i always seem to get ignored. It seems like i cant be myself online, i like to talk lightly, but people only seem to like you if you talk serious and with perfect grammar.

another example, i made a video on youtube telling the story of a romance in a video game, and i shared it on a forum and everyone ignored it, then one guy replied and was making fun of it. personally i thought the game had a great story and i thought my video was nice, but no one agrees with me and idk what im doing wrong.

 

[Gracchus]

Your "problem" is not that you are too friendly. You care about what people think of you, but not enough to change.

If it really bothers you, you might try improving your grammar. Capitalize the first word in a sentence. Punctuate properly. Use a spell checker. Such things might not matter to you, but if it matters to others, and you care about their opinions, take the trouble.

If not, don't.

 

[Crandaddy]

Unfortunately, the seclusion of the internet and the anonymity of pseudonyms give some cowards the feeling of protection they need to show forth the true ugliness of their character. But fortunately for you, folks around here don't seem to be that way. I, for one, don't care about your grammar as long as I can understand what you're saying.

 

[ferozt]

Unfortunately, the seclusion of the internet and the anonymity of pseudonyms give some cowards the feeling of protection they need to show forth the true ugliness of their character. But fortunately for you, folks around here don't seem to be that way. I, for one, don't care about your grammar as long as I can understand what you're saying.

Yeah people seem friendly here, except maybe the singles section, but that's kinda self explanatory lol.

Thanks guys for the input.

 

[Received]

I used to be concerned about what people said about me. Then I got really interested in other things going on in the world. Then it was easy to come back to people who previously made fun of me and realize they were dumb and not really worth the consideration to begin with.

 

[Gadarene]

Be friendly if you want - but it doesn't mean you're owed friendliness back or are going to receive friendliness back.

 

[ferozt]

I used to be concerned about what people said about me. Then I got really interested in other things going on in the world. Then it was easy to come back to people who previously made fun of me and realize they were dumb and not really worth the consideration to begin with.

Yep

 

[ferozt]

Be friendly if you want - but it doesn't mean you're owed friendliness back or are going to receive friendliness back.

Right on, also people who take subtle blows are annoying, but as mentioned earlier - cowards.

 

[Paradoxum]

To b honest I didn't really notice any big problems with your grammar while I was reading your post. But as someone else said, capital letters might help.

As well as the anonymity, other problems are the distance and de-humanisation of the internet. Because you aren't standing in front of someone waiting for an answer it makes it seem acceptable not to reply. And the fact that you can't see a human in front of you makes it harder to empathise and therefore easier to say harsh things.

I'm not sure what the solution to your problem is, but I guess you could think yourself luck you are ignored online, not in real life. Perhaps you aren't being ignored much more than anyone else is anyway.