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KeepTheFaith15

Thats Me whats can i say?
Friday night my friends, sister's best friend died in a car accident...by a drunk driver, he walked away without a scratch but she didnt, she's dead and she wasn't saved, or at least i dont think she was. we dedicated our choir concert to her tonight..she was a four year choir member. she's gone. i just ask that you pray for my friends and her family..they are hurting...

     FRIENDS DONT LET FRIENDS DRIVE HOME DRUNK.
 

KeepTheFaith15

Thats Me whats can i say?
i have good news. she was saved. but being saved is not enough..i dont know if she lived the life that would get her into heaven from what i know is that if you dont live the life that god wants even tho your saved it doesnt mean you gonna get into heaven..am i right? her funeral is tommorrow...most of the seniors and some of the teachers will be gone...i dont know what to say..what do you say to confort the family and friends of this girl..what do you say...why her..why did this happen to her...right now i cant forgive that drunk driver...i know it's better to forgive and forget but this girl had her whole life taken away at the hands of some fool who drank and drove..THAT'S why i dont drink, or smoke. i dont want to have the risks of hurting myself or others....thanks for your prayers it means alot. also if you could pray for my other friend...she cut herself....on sunday, she tried to kill herself before the glass got to deep she stopped herself because she thought of who all she would be missed by if she took her life...she's been to church with me a couple times even said she wants to get saved. she has a bad family life and she thinks she doesnt do anything right becauseof the way her father treats her..he makes her feel worthless and she's into a guy that makes her feel worthless, what do i say to her to help her see that people care...i just im at a loss for words these days. i just dont know what the world is coming too.
 
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KTF, I have a very similer situation (about people cutting themselves). I recently discovered two of my close friends do self-mutilation, but I've only seen one since, and she's struggling, but I think she'll make it through.

Well, I've been through the suicide stage, and the self-mutilation stage, and I know how it feels to feel worthless. I still struggle with that -- I don't think you can ever totally get rid of it. I also have voices in my head sometimes, telling me what to do -- like crazy things. Like jumping off a low bridge, etc. Just random things. But I don't listen anymore.

This is mainly because I saw how many people loved me, and the understanding from my peers. If it ever happened again, I'm not so sure I would find a way out, because all the kids my age here are not friendly and most aren't Christian.

So just show the family and the girl with the self-mutilation that you love her, show her how others love her and would miss her if she did something to herself.
 
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