she wanted 2 die

[I'M100%AJF]

Hello all
I no i'm new but i need people's help.
This is my problem;
My GF wanted 2 kill her self last weekend, but thanks 2 one of her friends (who is suffering depression) talked her out of it. Then during the week she got a house key and started scraching @ her arm and ended up with a cut about 8cm long on her left arm. After talking 2 her a bit (with some other friends) on MSN we thought that she was ok, and she told us that she wouldn't do it again. so we were (By this time i was shaking when we where talking about it.) But she had lied 2 me, The next day @ school she came 2 to school with more marks on her arm.
I don't know what 2 do can someone please help.
thanks
Bob
p.s she calls her self an anti christ (she dosn't/dosn't want 2 belive that there is a god.)

 

[SlowRoasted]

ok ive had the exact same thing happen to me. I was dating a girl for a while that i thought was ok and then i started seeing scratches on her arms that she admitted were self inflicted. When things get to this point you seriously need to get her some professional help. Talk to her about going to a counselor, and if she is against it talk to her parents about whats going on and try to get them to get her to a counselor. If all that fails, refer her to your pastor and pray pray pray.

 

[seebs]

Counselor, counselor, counselor. This is screaming "depression", and in 90% of cases, depression of this sort is a medical condition; it's an illness which is unusually likely to be fatal.

 

[I'M100%AJF]

thanks, i'm parying all the time 4 it. I just got some good news, she said that she wasn't going 2 do it again, but i think 4 some reason that she might do it again.

 

[seebs]

TALK TO A COUNSELOR.

We're not kidding. Seriously. It's a big deal. People who even start to try to commit suicide are almost always ill; untreated, this is OFTEN FATAL.

 

[Hewitt]

Listen to seebs! You can't do anything more than you already have. She needs some professional help now and you have the responsibility of making sure she gets it.

 

[Teal]

make er go kicking abd screaming if you must

 

[msjones21]

It sounds like she's crying out for help. I don't think she'll kill herself (mainly because most people who genuinely want to take their lives don't talk about it) but she has issues with self-mutilation. Cutting is a serious addiction that stems from a certain level of depression. She needs help. Tell her parents, they have a right to know.

I know this may sound bad, but maybe you two shouldn't be dating, especially since she's an Atheist. You need to exemplify the love of Christ, but the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. She could be a bad influence on you. I do commend you on your willingness to help her out. Keep praying and seek adult guidance on this matter. It's too big of a problem for you and her friends to try and tackle alone. She needs professional help.

 

[Risen Tree]

Note: If for some reason you ever see her suddenly seem to snap out of it, and she hasn't seen a counselor or other form of help, THIS IS BAD. It usually means that suicide is imminent.

 

[Mrs K 2004]

My best advice would be to talk to someone (ANYONE) a professional! School counselor, teacher, or call a local hospital and ask for a referance to a local psychologist/psychiatrist.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Ditto seebs.
Self Injury is a problem she can't control. There are a lot of self-injurers here at this site.
The girl needs to get some help. This problem is bigger than you are. She needs help.
When cutters get carried away, sometimes they cut through an artery and bleed to death unintentionally.

 

[I'M100%AJF]

this is great, what u guy are telling me is that she is this [] clos 2 killing her self and i she stop going out with her. I think that that would make it worse, one of the only guy she has ever loved (and i love her 2) breaking up would almost SHUT HER DOWN! But i'm going 2 try & get her 2 go 2 a porfessional.

@ least 1 good thing about this is that it brought me closer 2 god, i'm never pary so much in my life.

 

[Hopeful]

i don't think you should stop going out with her but you have to understand that ... i have no idea how to put this but she needs help. she can't just stop self-injurying. its an addiction and a way to feel better. i have self-injured for close to 6 six years now and not even medications helped. if you are willing to be with her then you have to know what you you should expect. she needs professional help and the sooner then better.

 

[msjones21]

It's great you are willing to get her help. But let me tell you this, it is not good to date anyone who isn't a Christian. I know it sounds harsh but being afraid someone will kill themselves just because you break up with them is not a good enough reason to stay with them.

One of my best friends recently found this out the very hard way. Sometimes in life we try to hard to walk around on eggshells so that someone else won't be hurt, and while it's wonderful to look at for someone else's feelings, our relationship with Christ comes first and foremost. Sometimes we have this hero complex, we want to be the one who rescues a person from their own self-destruction.

My friend started dating a girl who was 5 years older than him. She go married at 17 to get out of her parent's house. She was uneducated, depressed, and used people for money. Because he felt sorry for her he persued a relationship with her and he fell in love not with her, but her helplessness. He loved the fact that she *needed* him. She'd cry about her past and how bad her homelife was. She'd whine about not having rent money so he'd give her hundreds of dollars at a time. In the end he was in love and she confessed she had never loved him and was leaving him to date another guy. When I asked Mike why he stayed with this girl he said "because if I leave her it will kill her". That's not a good enough reason to let someone else drag you down. There's a very ood reason the Bible says for Christians not to date non-Christians. It's because 9 1/2 times out of 10 they will drag you down rather than you brining them up. Just be careful. I'm not saying this to be mean because I really do commend you for standing by her when she needs people's help. Just don't let that be the reason you stay with her as her boyfriend.

 

[GirlForChrist]

TALK TO A COUNSELOR.

We're not kidding. Seriously. It's a big deal. People who even start to try to commit suicide are almost always ill; untreated, this is OFTEN FATAL.

I agree here. My sister had the same problem when she was 15.....

 

[I'M100%AJF]

what even happened 2 spreeding the good news?

 

[msjones21]

what even happened 2 spreeding the good news?

You don't have to persue a relationship with eveyrone yuo share the good news with. What I'm saying is, alot of times people say "oh, I'm going to kill myself" to keep someone babying over them. I'm very sensitive about this because my cousin committed suicide and everyone was shocked because he never talked about it. People who so flagrantly parade around scratching themselves in front of people and say "I'm going to kill myself....oh hahaha I was just joking, oh no, now I want to kill myself again. Okay I promise I won't" offend me because my cousin had no hope. He really wanted to die and he had no one who paid enough attention to his situation or cared enough to help him feel his worth. The worst part, none of us even know if he was saved.

Anyway, all I'm saying is that it's important to share the love of Christ with others and intervene when someone we know is doing things (or threatening to do things) that will uhrt themselves. But...don't let the threat of suicide keep you in ANY relationship, especially one that is harmful considering the fact she's not a Christian and claims to be the anti-christ. She sounds like she thrives on attention.

 

[SlowRoasted]

i totally and completely agree with msjones on that one.

 

[I'M100%AJF]

It sounds like she's crying out for help. I don't think she'll kill herself (mainly because most people who genuinely want to take their lives don't talk about it) but she has issues with self-mutilation. Cutting is a serious addiction that stems from a certain level of depression. She needs help. Tell her parents, they have a right to know.

I know this may sound bad, but maybe you two shouldn't be dating, especially since she's an Atheist. You need to exemplify the love of Christ, but the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. She could be a bad influence on you. I do commend you on your willingness to help her out. Keep praying and seek adult guidance on this matter. It's too big of a problem for you and her friends to try and tackle alone. She needs professional help.

hello,thisistheAtheist. WHAT RIGHT DO U THINK U HAVE TO TELL US WE SHOULDN'T BE TOGTHER. I LOVE HIM AND I DON'T NEED UR APROOVAL. aTHEIST OR CHRISTIAN. IT DOESN'T MATTER. If he wants to go out with me, he can.

mY Girl friend just wanted 2 say the above.

 

[SlowRoasted]

my gf[/i]] WHAT RIGHT DO U THINK U HAVE TO TELL US WE SHOULDN'T BE TOGTHER.

Actually i think God gave us right and the granted us the job of telling other Christians when they are going astray, whether it be in just an area or their entire life. Of course she isnt going to understand, she lives by a different standard than we do. We go by what the Bible says and it has clear directions about dating/marrying non-christians

2corinthians 14-17 - read it