I am a christian. I had been struggling to achieve my dream since 10 years ago. There has been ups and downs. I believe in God along the way. Putting my faith in Him that everything will be fine as long as i put my faith in Him. However, now, my dream has shattered. Everything i worked for is gone. I worked so hard for 10 years to realize my dream and everything is gone. I ended up being a failure as a son to a father. Have i prayed not enough? I read that not only we christian experience the power of prayer but other religion too like catholic, etc. Is God real? I am confused. Is faith real? Is God there for me? Am i a demanding follower? I only hope to make my parents proud and now i disappointed them terribly. Is it God's will to make me disappoint them?
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I don't think there's a universal answer to your question except for this: God is there for us, not always in the way we want or expect, but in the way we most need, whether we know that or not.
I've been shattered many times in life, my life is just now getting good. And I've grown in faith, wisdom, and intimacy with God through it. But I've also failed at things that were really important, including a marriage and a job.
God does not promise us success as the world sees it. He promises us himself. He does not promise a logical answer to every question we might have. He does tell us that he is the way. He is God, cling to him.
And don't wallow in self-condemnation. Jesus himself is our advocate before the father. If our hearts condemn us, God is greater than our hearts.
I know, that's easy to say. It's going to take time for you to live into what God is teaching you, but open your ears and your heart as God gives you grace to do this. He rewards those who earnestly seek him. It takes time.
Do you have people who can pray for you and support you?
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It sounds like you are from a culture where people work very hard to please their parents. This is not true everywhere in the world. Most people will honor and respect their parents, but not stress so much over their approval, especially as an adult.
God loves you, no matter what you do.
There is no occupation you could take on that would make God love you more or less. His request is communication, faith, and love.
If you lived on the streets and ate only tree bark, God would still love you.
God loves you, no matter what you do.
There is no occupation you could take on that would make God love you more or less. His request is communication, faith, and love.
If you lived on the streets and ate only tree bark, God would still love you.
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iggy123
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Faith isnt really about you achieving worldly goals. Failing in one area does not mean you cannot succeed in others. Living a moral life and dedicating your time to the betterment of yourself and your family is perhaps the greatest goal of all. Succeed in that and you have succeeded in life.
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If you are done going after your dream maybe its time to look at God's desire for how you should spend your life.
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Your life is not your own. You don't get to make the choices and expect everything to be good. God is the one who owns you and He is the one who makes the decisions and the choices in your life.
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no, my parents do not place such demand on me. The reason that i felt guilty is because i believe that they deserved so much better after the effort and the sacrifice they had made. They had been supporting me all these years without failure despite of my repeated failures because they believe in me and I loved them so much. For the money they spent on me, they could have spent it for something which is better. Not on a useless son like me.
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All you have been through has brought you to where you are now in preparation for what is before you. If you have down time relax. God will let you know when the time to act has arrived. When the time comes be ready.
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Proverbs 16:2 "A mortals whole conduct may seem right to him, but the Lord weighs up his motives. "Commit to the LORD all that you do, and your plans will be successful." Are you doing your dream only for yourself? Is your goal to commit your dream to God? Are you including God in your agenda in the future? What does it do for God? How does it benefit both you and God at the same time? Is it a job that does good for others, for you and for God? These things are important to ask yourself. If it is not for God, it will not succeed. Commit your goals to God, include God in those goals, but do not make your dream a selfish dream that does not include God. If you are doing it for God, it will succeed. Your parents still Love you, do not be sad because you think they are angry with you over not succeeding at a goal. The only success on this world is finding God, everything else is like the wind, it is here on minute and gone the next. Money, homes, cars, retirement funds, land, gold and all other material things and riches are all here one minute and gone the next. Millions spent a lifetime saving up for retirement only to find it was all gone in one day after the stock market crashed, the banks closed their doors in their towns and or a hurricane or tornado took their homes away and spread them across the fields. Only God is lasting. Once you know God and Love God, you are successful in life. Something to bring up to your parents, they have lost things along the way too and struggled many times in the past. They know what is like to lose things. They may hope you will do better than they did, that you will not struggle as they did, but everyone goes through that process. I started over 5 times now from nothing. It is just life. God Bless. God is your success.
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In your culture, I know how you feel. Since you did not state your failed dream. It might be
school. In my culture USA. My parents did not really care what I did. So I blamed them.
But, you blame you. Dreams can be altered or change over the course of time. I would
go to you Earth Father and ask his direction or free yourself from your dream and start another.
It is hard, Time will heal.
school. In my culture USA. My parents did not really care what I did. So I blamed them.
But, you blame you. Dreams can be altered or change over the course of time. I would
go to you Earth Father and ask his direction or free yourself from your dream and start another.
It is hard, Time will heal.
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