Sharing the same path

[boilerblues]

one of the things I figured out about dating is that you have to find someone who shares the same calling as you. Someone whose calling is to work in the inner city and someone who feels called to be a missionary to Africa don't really work well together as far as God's calling for their lives.

I've been dating a wonderful woman for about 3 weeks now and we've been really blessed getting to know each other. One of our struggles in considering the future is that neither of us are really sure about our calling for the future. Her degree is in urban ministry, but she doesn't know what she wants to do. I feel called to be a part of a church plant, but not in the inner city. Neither of us are real sure and this has been a struggle for both of us.

It hit me this afternoon that maybe part of the reason we are both unsure is that if we both shared the same calling then we might fall in love with the calling we both have and never discover if we love each other. So maybe the question mark is to allow us to discover each other and further up the road God will clarify His calling for us.

Just a thought I wanted to work out and share in case others have run into the same thing.

 

[JeremiahJ]

That's a really good insight. I've run into that with my life too. I'm looking at moving 1000 miles away to be a part of a church plant. So that's why I've been considering it. A unity of passions almost seems a prerequisite to me. Except, I've realized I can't let it be because, well... God does some carazay stuff with people. Some very weird couples often end up making very strong couples who are powerful with Christ. An example that is contrary to your thought would be a good friend of mine. He's married to a woman who's always wanted to help children in Africa. He's always wanted to be a youth pastor. He did that for a while, and is now currently considering planting a church. Though their passions do not line up, they're awesome together, but they don't serve in the church very much together. And that's okay! She'll probably do a lot of short-term missions to Africa through the resources of the church that he starts. It's so beautiful the way that the church of God works, but that's another topic. Anyway, one would never think that they were going in the same direction, but they are. Ultimately, I've accepted the fact that it comes down to the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and have begrudgingly given up trying to discern who to pursue solely through wisdom and discernment.

 

[boilerblues]

I think I still hold to the view that the path of two people need to be the same, but maybe God is using the combination of who they are to create a new path that neither considered before. Two people may look at how to transform a house into a home in a completely different way. The reality comes together as they share who they are to create the third reality that may be totally different than each of them envisioned.

 

[JeremiahJ]

maybe God is using the combination of who they are to create a new path that neither considered before. Two people may look at how to transform a house into a home in a completely different way. The reality comes together as they share who they are to create the third reality that may be totally different than each of them envisioned.

Exactly. But that's why you don't necessarily need to see whether you are in the same path in terms of what ministries you want to get inolved in. That kind of stuff can work itself out.

 

[Fatolia]

Fascinating ideas

 

[JPPT1974]

Exactly. But that's why you don't necessarily need to see whether you are in the same path in terms of what ministries you want to get inolved in. That kind of stuff can work itself out.

God uses us for his good and wants us to follow the path and direction of His to increase His will and purposes for his ministry.

 

[winglovesall]

Hm - God has a plan for everybody - has a plan for the ministry - has a plan and that plan is important.

We - by praying - would find answers to some of his plan - it's like solving puzzle pieces to God's answer.