Shacking Up?

[christandisrael]

Now I realize a majority of believers who see couples living together that are not married calls it “shacking up.” Where did “shacking up” come from and where in the bible does it say when a man and a woman live together it’s consider a sin? Now if they are fornicating that’s another story but what difference does it make if they live together or not. They are going to have sex regardless where they live. If couples live together do you think it will hinder God blessings and/or leave a leeway for Satan to come in and destroy their relationship?

It depends on the persons. They must practice abstinence before thay get married.

 

[Krysstian]

I DO NOT CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK. I'm not living with any man but I don't think it's wrong if I go over to his home to spend time with him or any where else. If I was planning on having sex with him or entertain the thought of having sex with him...It would not matter how careful I am or not...it would probably happen. I don't think about that and I do not want to have sex before marriage. We talk about how we feel...and we are staying prayerful and in God's word. If I want to go to his home and spend time with him...I can especially when I know I'm strong enough. I don't play games I know what I can and cannot handle. What's going to happen on Holidays when I go to his parent’s home and spend the night there? I guess I'm in sin there to. According Galatians 1:10 I know what Paul was talking about but I think that scripture is based on any aspect in life. How am I supposed to do the will of God if I’m concern about what men think about me or what they say. I just been delievered from that. I do not care what this world think about me. That’s whats wrong with Christians…they want approval from other Christians and the only approval I need is God. Nothing separate us from the love of God. I’m worthy of all Gods promises.

Romans 8:38-39
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

[whateveristrue]

I DO NOT CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK. I'm not living with any man but I don't think it's wrong if I go over to his home to spend time with him or any where else. If I was planning on having sex with him or entertain the thought of having sex with him...It would not matter how careful I am or not...it would probably happen. I don't think about that and I do not want to have sex before marriage. We talk about how we feel...and we are staying prayerful and in God's word. If I want to go to his home and spend time with him...I can especially when I know I'm strong enough. I don't play games I know what I can and cannot handle. What's going to happen on Holidays when I go to his parent’s home and spend the night there? I guess I'm in sin there to. According Galatians 1:10 I know what Paul was talking about but I think that scripture is based on any aspect in life. How am I supposed to do the will of God if I’m concern about what men think about me or what they say. I just been delievered from that. I do not care what this world think about me. That’s whats wrong with Christians…they want approval from other Christians and the only approval I need is God. Nothing separate us from the love of God. I’m worthy of all Gods promises.

Hey Krysstian, I totally understand where you're coming from. And you are absolutely right... we shouldn't care about what people think, but only what God thinks. But really.. where does God stand in all this?? That's what most of us are trying to get at. And I think people here have given some pretty sound advice on the subject.

No, I don't think you're doing anything wrong either. You're in a relationship, and you spend time together with him sometimes, and you know your limits. Nothing wrong with that. But you need to realize, just because you don't entertain temptation... it doesn't mean temptation is not there. And even if you know in your heart that you are SAFE, you really don't know what the guy is thinking. Maybe you are a temptation to him. The possibility to fall increases especially when it's late at night and the two of you are alone in an apartment.

Let's say you're walking on a road on the side of a mountain. You are confident of yourself that you will not fall... so you decide to walk along the edge of the cliff. The truth is, you never know what's gonna happen. Why increase the chances of falling?

I trust you know what you're doing, and I trust that you're heart is with God. but from one Christian to another... I'm just saying, becareful. Because the enemy is out there, and he wants you to fall.

 

[christandisrael]

Hey Krysstian, I totally understand where you're coming from. And you are absolutely right... we shouldn't care about what people think, but only what God thinks. But really.. where does God stand in all this?? That's what most of us are trying to get at. And I think people here have given some pretty sound advice on the subject.

No, I don't think you're doing anything wrong either. You're in a relationship, and you spend time together with him sometimes, and you know your limits. Nothing wrong with that. But you need to realize, just because you don't entertain temptation... it doesn't mean temptation is not there. And even if you know in your heart that you are SAFE, you really don't know what the guy is thinking. Maybe you are a temptation to him. The possibility to fall increases especially when it's late at night and the two of you are alone in an apartment.

Let's say you're walking on a road on the side of a mountain. You are confident of yourself that you will not fall... so you decide to walk along the edge of the cliff. The truth is, you never know what's gonna happen. Why increase the chances of falling?

I trust you know what you're doing, and I trust that you're heart is with God. but from one Christian to another... I'm just saying, becareful. Because the enemy is out there, and he wants you to fall.

He or she is right but living together has that chance of growing intimacy.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Okay about the intimacy thing-the holding, caressing, kissing, rubbing, whatever. Is that supposed to be a sin-even though it doesn't lead to sex?
I was reading this thread's topic

 

[Krysstian]

Whateveristrue, I understand. Sometimes you think you can do something and then you don't. I've been his friend for 5 years now and if it didnt happen then, I doubt it will. I love him and I love God...so I appreciate the kindness of your heart to tell me these things. He is stronger than me actually, so yes I know his thoughts. Thank you for everyone replies...but I will be fine, i trust the Lord in me....

 

[Krysstian]

I'm a very affectionate person...I think kissing should be very limited...because that can spark up some um fire. Also the rubbing and caressing...can also create some friction...I'm a hugger, cuddle, a kisser (on the temple or cheek), holding hands, etc. Be careful when you get touchy and feely….that can sometimes lead into a bad situation.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Hmm, okay Thanks for the input.

 

[knownbeforetime]

Here's an analogy someone gave me a while ago.

Is there anything wrong with putting your hand on an unlit stove burner? Not really... However, what if, while your hand was on the burner, someone came along and turned the burner on? OUCH!!!

I think that's what some of us are getting at. Right now, you've put your hand on an unlit burner. You're only OK if someone doesn't turn on the burner. But what if someone does? You can't know that. How do you know your boyfriend isn't tempted. How do you know someone else isn't tempted by what you don't do when you spend the night at his place.

Just because there isn't a fire there now doesn't mean there won't be one eventually...

 

[Krysstian]

How about Don't fix what's not broken?