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My life’s a mess and it’s all my fault. My wife and I got involved in sexual sin a few years ago and it’s caused a lot of pain on both sides, but the thrill prevented us from stopping. Recently God started working on my heart and I started feeling convection. We were both saved at the beginning of our marriage 24 years ago and up until we fell into the sin we were faithful to our savior. We were faithful to church and have raised our kids in a Christian home. Now she says she doesn’t know what she believes anymore.
I expressed that I wanted to stop to which she resisted, but agreed to.
She suggested we need Christian counseling, both individually and marriage to which I agreed and started my individual counseling a few weeks ago. We are supposed to start marriage counseling at the end of this week.
I found out a few days ago that she didn’t honor our agreement and has continued to see someone behind my back. This was a dagger to me and I’m really struggling from this betrayal, but she has a self admitted sexual addiction now. She has expressed to me that she doesn’t want to end the “lifestyle” that we were involved in, but has not admitted to seeing anyone behind my back. I found out on my own and have not confronted her about it.
I was planning on confronting her during counseling, however she informed my yesterday that she doesn’t know if she wants to do individual counseling g, only marriage. The issues she has can only be dealt with in individual counseling. She has a great deal of resentment towards me for several things, including leading us into this sin and now she says that she’s very resentful because all of our marriage we have done what I wanted and she got into this because it was what I wanted and now I want out and she resents that I’m trying to shut it down on my terms.
I'm struggling with what I should do. If I confront her now with the affair she’s going to get really mad because I found out by snooping on her. I can try to hold it together until counseling, but unless she agrees to individual counseling I don’t think she will work through the bitter feelings she has towards me. I can also could leave and tell her she needs to make the decision as to if she wants to be committed to our marriage.
I expressed that I wanted to stop to which she resisted, but agreed to.
She suggested we need Christian counseling, both individually and marriage to which I agreed and started my individual counseling a few weeks ago. We are supposed to start marriage counseling at the end of this week.
I found out a few days ago that she didn’t honor our agreement and has continued to see someone behind my back. This was a dagger to me and I’m really struggling from this betrayal, but she has a self admitted sexual addiction now. She has expressed to me that she doesn’t want to end the “lifestyle” that we were involved in, but has not admitted to seeing anyone behind my back. I found out on my own and have not confronted her about it.
I was planning on confronting her during counseling, however she informed my yesterday that she doesn’t know if she wants to do individual counseling g, only marriage. The issues she has can only be dealt with in individual counseling. She has a great deal of resentment towards me for several things, including leading us into this sin and now she says that she’s very resentful because all of our marriage we have done what I wanted and she got into this because it was what I wanted and now I want out and she resents that I’m trying to shut it down on my terms.
I'm struggling with what I should do. If I confront her now with the affair she’s going to get really mad because I found out by snooping on her. I can try to hold it together until counseling, but unless she agrees to individual counseling I don’t think she will work through the bitter feelings she has towards me. I can also could leave and tell her she needs to make the decision as to if she wants to be committed to our marriage.
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