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suzie

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Maybe you should concentrate on teaching God's love and forgiveness for all sins. Then you can move into correct living. Pounding sexual pureness is eventually going to turn some teens away (I know). They need to have a ministry were they are accepted and loved, regardless of which sins they have already committed.



Amen to your posting! Dedicating your life to the Lord will succeed in attempting to live righteously because our desire will be to please Him.

We are transformed from the inside out.

as There is no hierarchy of sins. Fornication is no less pleasing to God than stealing or lying. Yet, I don’t see you putting up a poll that says “Have You Lied?” or “Have You Shoplifted?”

These are also temptations that are great with youth and are equal in the eyes of the Lord. We have all sinned and fallen short of God's glory. The best witness you can give Dave, is to level with those youths in your past and the mistakes you made and how God worked through you.
 
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suzie said:
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Amen to your posting! Dedicating your life to the Lord will succeed in attempting to live righteously because our desire will be to please Him.

We are transformed from the inside out.



These are also temptations that are great with youth and are equal in the eyes of the Lord. We have all sinned and fallen short of God's glory. The best witness you can give Dave, is to level with those youths in your past and the mistakes you made and how God worked through you.

suzie, I agree, and I do that already.

49er, I teach forgiveness, it is awesome.
 
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Even though this is pointed at 49er, I agreed with his comments. That was a moving story, however, that should not detract from what he said. All sin is equal to God. I dont believe he said it isnt an issue, and you were obviously there to teach only about this subject. However, when we teach about being holy for God is holy, all the issues that create turmoil out of sin are brought forth. Is one sin more ugly than another? In our human eyes yes. We see murder, abuse, sexual deviations and promiscuity, etc, however, those who outwardly are looking good, can be in just as bad of shape before God. I believe that was the message he was attempting to put forth.
 
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Pray4Isrel said:
Consider this then:

I would like to share a small testimony of the power of Purity.

As most of you know, I was in Moscow a few months ago doing missionary work. We were part of a youth camp for teens as well as helpers to the Russian missionaries in Moscow. We went to orphanages and the like. While at the youth camp for about 40 teens I spoke at the girls' small group studies. Each night I'd go to a different small group of girls to share about purity. Now in case you didn't know, aids is rampant in Russia, particularly in Moscow. There are several million homeless teenagers in Russia. Orphanages are packed. the average Russian woman has had six abortions. These are big indications of the state of the Russian people. They desperately need people to go there and invest time into them by helping in orphanages and in soup kitchens.
The first night that I was to speak at small groups, I was praying to God alone outside to ask Him for some sort of illustration that I could use for the girls since there was a huge language barrier (Praise God for the translator). I looked around. Nothing to use. Ah, but wait! There were daisies and wild flowers growing in some of the brush. I plucked two daisies.
I entered the group of about twelve girls and had a seat. The girls had gotten to know me thoughout the day already and they very much were interested in this petite american chick. I (through my Godsend of a translator) started to share about my testimony to remain sexually pure until my wedding night. I shared my struggles, my efforts as well as my successes while giving all the glory to my precious Savior. Their eyes were hanging onto my every word for they had never heard of staying sexually pure before. They didn't know it was possible. they didn't know that a guy existed that didn't demand of his girl to have sex with him. I held up a daisy and said that every girl needed to pluck one petal from the daisy and hold onto the petal. They passed the daisy around while I explained to them that they each represent the daisy - pure, pretty, special, unique, still maturing, beautiful, with much worth. I held up the second daisy that was full and had no plucked petals. I held the sad little daisy that had barely any petals left on it. I explained that every petal taken represents a time when each of these girls has given their body physically to a man. I asked "Now which daisy is more whole, more pleasing to behold?". they all pointed to the daisy with all the petals still on it. I went into detail about the effects of sex before marriage. Many started to weep. One girl asked, "But how can we be like the daisy again if we've already given our bodies up?". I said, "Ah, that is the beauty of this story, you see, even though this one daisy has been picked over it can be replanted and grow into a beautiful daisy all over again." They asked, "But how?". I answered, "Through the love of Jesus Christ you can be whole again." I then went into great detail of the love of Jesus. many girls were teary eyed. I said "Jesus is the daddy you never had, the brother you never knew, and the friend you've always wanted." many started to have peaceful expressions. I said, "If I could, I would take each of your faces into my hands one by one and speak of your incredible worth in Jesus." One girl said, "Will you?". Caught off guard but more than willing I went around to each girl and held their sweet faces in my hands and told them how unique, special, beautiful they are." let's just say many breakthroughs occurred that night. There was one very hard-hearted girl there that started to melt when I took her face in my hands. I bowed down on my knees to look beyond her slumped shoulders and gave her the beautiful daisy that had not been picked apart and said "This, precious girl, belongs to you." She started sobbing and hugged me so tight saying "Spasiba, Spasiba", (Thank you, thank you).
I left to go back to my barracks and the girl came running out with the translator to say "I am the new daisy now! I choose the new daisy." I hugged her and we wept.
On the last day as we were all saying goodbye, all the girls came to me to show me they had eached picked daisies to keep. I was the one that cried this time!

Purity.

I have a picture of "my girls" in Russia that I'll try to scan into the gallery somewhere.

God is the God of Second Chances. And this, my friends, I have evidence of.

That is an awesome story.

Sex can wait !!!!

Let's see that picture.
 
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My husband wasn't a virgin wehn we met but I was. We were still in high school and I had always wanted to wait till marriage becasue I had wanted it to be special. Needless to say I didn't wait a month into our realationship I we both messed up. My husband didn't pressure me like I thought he would becasue I was friends with his sister and at first his main reason to go out with me was to try to have sex with me. I found that all out after I was really hurt but got over it becasue all through the steps that led up to it he never pressured me it was my choice to have sex. We both regret not waiting till we were married even though he has been the only one I have been with. He also wishes he would have been a virgin when we got married. I love him adn he loves me but all up to wehn we where married we felt guilty. Our Wedding night was the first time that we didn't feel any guilt.
 
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I messed up before my husband, as he did before me...so when we got together, it wasn't that special sad to say.

But now, after 6 years and lots and lots of time spent in front of the Lord, things that held us apart are now forgotten and time between us is wonderful. All my thanks goes to God and his grace for bringing this man into my life.
 
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AMEN! Thank God for His Grace!

My husband made some "mistakes" before we met. We dated for 2 years and we coudln't wait. I lost my virginity to him.

Before we were married, we prayed together and asked God to restore us to our virginal state for one another. We both wanted Him to wipe away our past transgressions so we could start anew with one another on our wedding night. We stayed true to being pure after our prayer.

God gave us a wedding night and honeymoon that was amazing.
 
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My Husband and I both Did not wait Until we were married Before we had a Sexual Relastionship...Now,As I look back on that ,I wish we had..I always tell my Children Now ,that I would rather they wait til they are married Before they have sex..But,we all Know that May not work out..They have to make their Own Decisions In Life....Now that my Husband and I have been together so Long,It is Pure admiration for eachother and friendship that truely helps Renew Us.God has Opened Doors for us and we Are Greatful for that .:clap:
 
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Uh, we both were weak in the flesh before we were married.

Not so strangely though I knew he would be the one, so I held out as long as I could. Shamefully not until after the wedding. So much for my strength in this area. Thankfully though by God's grace we are forgiven, and it enriches our lives. There is nothing better than the union of marriage when Christ dwells inside.

Even though things get VERY ROCKY sometimes we both love each other very much. Sometimes we fall by the wayside, but the grace of God is always there nudging along. He helps us to overcome.
 
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My husband and I both waited until our wedding night. And water, I love what you said because it is so true:

Even though things get VERY ROCKY sometimes we both love each other very much. Sometimes we fall by the wayside, but the grace of God is always there nudging along. He helps us to overcome.

 
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My exwife and I had sex before we were married. It was a bad move, and also immoral. I now know that because she pushed me to get involved with her before marriage, it was also easy for her to get involved with others after marriage. I was #10 for her, she was #1 for me. Had I stood up and demanded that we live right before marriage, I am confident that we would still be married today.

-Chris320
 
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