Hello, everyone...
There is an issue me and my GF are struggling with that I'd like to discuss with you all.
We are both christians (she is from a christian family and I was converted by her) and we couldn't wait 'till we got married and had sex for the first time after three months of dating. She was a virgin, I wasnt.
So, we tried to stop it more than once, but recently we are almost giving up stopping it. And I feel like I'm the one responsible for this.
It's a weird feeling, lots of mixed stuff...
We do love each other and we'll get married in two years. We are young and brazilian imobiliary speculation skyrocketed prices in Rio de Janeiro. Unfortanately, we can't get married fast and stop sinning...
The two things that bother me the most is that I can't think it's wrong. I feel bad for the way she feels. But I really don't thing having sex before marriage is wrong. I think it's a sin when people do one night stands or have casual sex, things I totally disagree. But when it comes to two people that really love each other? Between two people who really wanna get married? I can't see why would it be wrong...
Even tough I don't agree with it, I tried it for the sake of my GF. We manage to stay two weeks without it and we were almost going nuts. The whole elecricity in the air whenever we kissed, the tension between us whenever we knew both of us wanted and couldn't have it... it was devastating. It was like living under a huge pressure all the time...
And, as a man, I felt crushed. The fact that I couldn't please my woman, that we couldn't even make-out because it would lead us to sex, the fact that she had kissed two men before men (not boyfriends, just short-lived dates) and I would have to stick with "just kissing" like they did... that whole idea brought me more anger than anything. And it didn't matter how much I prayed, I'd still feel like that. I
We tried to stop twice. Once in november and another one in august. Both lasted almost two weeks, but with no sucess. Sometimes I get the feeling that the fact that we had sex for the first time made it impossible to hold on from now on.
What should I do?
There is an issue me and my GF are struggling with that I'd like to discuss with you all.
We are both christians (she is from a christian family and I was converted by her) and we couldn't wait 'till we got married and had sex for the first time after three months of dating. She was a virgin, I wasnt.
So, we tried to stop it more than once, but recently we are almost giving up stopping it. And I feel like I'm the one responsible for this.
It's a weird feeling, lots of mixed stuff...
We do love each other and we'll get married in two years. We are young and brazilian imobiliary speculation skyrocketed prices in Rio de Janeiro. Unfortanately, we can't get married fast and stop sinning...
The two things that bother me the most is that I can't think it's wrong. I feel bad for the way she feels. But I really don't thing having sex before marriage is wrong. I think it's a sin when people do one night stands or have casual sex, things I totally disagree. But when it comes to two people that really love each other? Between two people who really wanna get married? I can't see why would it be wrong...
Even tough I don't agree with it, I tried it for the sake of my GF. We manage to stay two weeks without it and we were almost going nuts. The whole elecricity in the air whenever we kissed, the tension between us whenever we knew both of us wanted and couldn't have it... it was devastating. It was like living under a huge pressure all the time...
And, as a man, I felt crushed. The fact that I couldn't please my woman, that we couldn't even make-out because it would lead us to sex, the fact that she had kissed two men before men (not boyfriends, just short-lived dates) and I would have to stick with "just kissing" like they did... that whole idea brought me more anger than anything. And it didn't matter how much I prayed, I'd still feel like that. I
We tried to stop twice. Once in november and another one in august. Both lasted almost two weeks, but with no sucess. Sometimes I get the feeling that the fact that we had sex for the first time made it impossible to hold on from now on.
What should I do?
