I have been a christian for over 20 years and know the bible very well.
And as yet I cannot see anywhere in the bible that condemns sex before marriage.
Every single verse that christians say condemn it are badly misquoted or mis-translated, as follows:
Fornication is a definition of a sexual sin in the bible which in the dictionary refers to sex outside of marriage.
But if you examine this you will see the original greek work was 'inappropriate contentia/inappropriate contenteia' (which is where the word 'inappropriate content' comes from), which was a shorthand word encapsuating the jewish sexual prohibitions.
Now if we look at those, we see various sins such as incest, inappropriate behavior with animals, homosexuality etc but nowhere does it mention sex before marriage!
So with that one nullified, lets look at an often quoted verse (in John 4) on the subject about Jesus saying to the woman at the well that she had already had 5 husbands and the man she is living with now isn't her husband. The woman was amazed at his word of knowledge and spread the word that Jesus was the son of God.
Nowhere does Jesus condemn her for not being married to her lover, it was simply a word of knowledge and I'm amazed that christians still quote this verse of evidence that the bible condems sex outside of marriage.
Another often quoted verse is Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."
At first glance this appears to be about a married couple, but if you investigate this you will discover that the word for 'wife' in this verse in hebrew is 'ishshah (ish-shaw')' which simply meant 'a woman' and is used elsewhere in the old testament to describe any woman, married or unmarried (there is no actual Hebrew word for wife).
So the verse is basically saying that it is natural for a man and a woman to leave their parents homes and live together in a sexual relationship.
Nothing more.
And no christian can use this verse to say 'one flesh' means that God only wants us to have one sexual partner throught our entire lives, as right through the old testament the great and blessed 'men of god' were polygamous. Even Abraham had many concubines as well as sleeping with his servant girl etc.
You might say well God didn't want them to do that, but you have no evidence because nowhere in the old testament does God condemn them having more than one wife or concubines and he even made laws to govern such acts!
Lastly, in the new testament, Paul does mention briefly in one verse about sex before marriage, 1 Corinthians 7: "But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband".
Again, like the hebrew, the greek word for 'wife' (gunaikos) is the same as 'woman' also the word for 'husband' (andres) is the same word for 'male' or an adult man.
So he is basically speaking against promiscuity which is fair enough, and that each person should have their own partner. We can only guess at what 'immoralities' he was referring to, maybe orgies and bed-hopping?
Also, even if Paul were actually referring to people being legally married, what about the rest of his teachings. Soon after the previous verse he condemns divorced people getting remarried (which most churches nowadays ignore) and many times he sees woman as second class citizens who should not teach a man and must keep their heads covered etc.
So if you choose to obey the previous verse so not have sex before marriage then you do really have to obey the whole of the new testament/god's word and not pick and choose, otherwise you are basically deciding for yourself which bits are right and which are wrong.
So, like I say, I cannot see anywhere in the bible that condemns sex before marriage, but if anyone can show me where is says it, go ahead.
I will believe you if you can prove it to me.
(And please don't just try to justify it moraly, please just refer to the bible)
And as yet I cannot see anywhere in the bible that condemns sex before marriage.
Every single verse that christians say condemn it are badly misquoted or mis-translated, as follows:
Fornication is a definition of a sexual sin in the bible which in the dictionary refers to sex outside of marriage.
But if you examine this you will see the original greek work was 'inappropriate contentia/inappropriate contenteia' (which is where the word 'inappropriate content' comes from), which was a shorthand word encapsuating the jewish sexual prohibitions.
Now if we look at those, we see various sins such as incest, inappropriate behavior with animals, homosexuality etc but nowhere does it mention sex before marriage!
So with that one nullified, lets look at an often quoted verse (in John 4) on the subject about Jesus saying to the woman at the well that she had already had 5 husbands and the man she is living with now isn't her husband. The woman was amazed at his word of knowledge and spread the word that Jesus was the son of God.
Nowhere does Jesus condemn her for not being married to her lover, it was simply a word of knowledge and I'm amazed that christians still quote this verse of evidence that the bible condems sex outside of marriage.
Another often quoted verse is Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."
At first glance this appears to be about a married couple, but if you investigate this you will discover that the word for 'wife' in this verse in hebrew is 'ishshah (ish-shaw')' which simply meant 'a woman' and is used elsewhere in the old testament to describe any woman, married or unmarried (there is no actual Hebrew word for wife).
So the verse is basically saying that it is natural for a man and a woman to leave their parents homes and live together in a sexual relationship.
Nothing more.
And no christian can use this verse to say 'one flesh' means that God only wants us to have one sexual partner throught our entire lives, as right through the old testament the great and blessed 'men of god' were polygamous. Even Abraham had many concubines as well as sleeping with his servant girl etc.
You might say well God didn't want them to do that, but you have no evidence because nowhere in the old testament does God condemn them having more than one wife or concubines and he even made laws to govern such acts!
Lastly, in the new testament, Paul does mention briefly in one verse about sex before marriage, 1 Corinthians 7: "But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband".
Again, like the hebrew, the greek word for 'wife' (gunaikos) is the same as 'woman' also the word for 'husband' (andres) is the same word for 'male' or an adult man.
So he is basically speaking against promiscuity which is fair enough, and that each person should have their own partner. We can only guess at what 'immoralities' he was referring to, maybe orgies and bed-hopping?
Also, even if Paul were actually referring to people being legally married, what about the rest of his teachings. Soon after the previous verse he condemns divorced people getting remarried (which most churches nowadays ignore) and many times he sees woman as second class citizens who should not teach a man and must keep their heads covered etc.
So if you choose to obey the previous verse so not have sex before marriage then you do really have to obey the whole of the new testament/god's word and not pick and choose, otherwise you are basically deciding for yourself which bits are right and which are wrong.
So, like I say, I cannot see anywhere in the bible that condemns sex before marriage, but if anyone can show me where is says it, go ahead.
I will believe you if you can prove it to me.
(And please don't just try to justify it moraly, please just refer to the bible)
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