Seuxal addiction

[delvaughn]

I think I have a sexual addiction. I do know the signs of addiction since I'm a recovering alcohol and addict, and this seems to fit the bill, too.

I've been praying about it and reading everything I can, but I'm still struggling very hard. Is there anyone else here who has fought this battel? What worked for you?

Thanks!

 

[TruthSetsYouFree]

Hi there! I would love to offer some advice! Could you give me a little more background on when this started? Did any of your parents or grandparents or great grandparents have this (or a similar) problem? Do you believe it was something you did that opened up this door or do you feel that it was passed down to you?

In Christ,
Bobby

 

[VivDaGurl]

've been praying about it and reading everything I can, but I'm still struggling very hard. Is there anyone else here who has fought this battel? What worked for you?

What I did:-
- threw away any porn sash I have
- draw myself close to the Lord by reading His Word, submitting my life to Him and praying
- got myself a new hobby which I can spend most of my time on
- got myself an accountability partner whom I can rely on for prayers and support

It's never easy but with God, all things are possible! It wasn't easy for me to get over this at all but I did it! Do PM me if you need someone to talk to or anything at all.

Will also be for you...

 

[psalms 91]

yes, i too struggled with this and what worked for me was a lot of prayer and remembering the damage i would do to my relationship. i like to help people not hurt them. one verse that helped me is greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world.

 

[carmi]

Is there anyone else here who has fought this battel? What worked for you?

I am hesitant to answer because you write: "has fought" and "worked" (past tense) and I am still fighting. But what is working for me right now is to keep my mind busy ... either here on this forum or participating on other forums, keeping a journal, starting a blog.

Reading does not help me much at the moment ... because I noticed that my thoughts started to drift in unwanted directions while reading (even non-fiction).

 

[Genes!s]

Is there a reason this started, I mean like an underlying problem? I had this addiction as a teen, but my problem was my low self-esteem. I started having sex with different guys because I lacked love and attention at home, and didn't have a very high opinion of myself. So once I started, it became a drug (among many) to me. Looking back on it now, I think it was just another way to punish myself, and a way to feel "loved" while in the moment. Probably won't make a whole lot of sense to most, but that's the way I look at it now.

So anyway, I got through it by LOTS of prayer and working through my poor self image and forgiveness of my parents for neglecting me.

I don't know if this will help you, but my advice would be to find out why it started and deal with that first.

s to everyone still struggling with this, I am a PM away if any of you need to talk.

 

[Jason1977]

What I did:-
- threw away any porn stash I have
- draw myself close to the Lord by reading His Word, submitting my life to Him and praying
- got myself a new hobby which I can spend most of my time on
- got myself an accountability partner whom I can rely on for prayers and support

It's never easy but with God, all things are possible! It wasn't easy for me to get over this at all but I did it! Do PM me if you need someone to talk to or anything at all.

Will also be for you...

Excellent post!!!

I can offer a link to a website. www.everywomansbattle.com READ that book!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[de Unamuno]

I've found that recognizing the affects of an addiction, that is, the real physical, emotional, interpersonal, and spiritual damage, helps me to deal with it. Remember that the damage that occurs between your ears is sometimes the most tragic and debilitating, even if no one else is directly affected.

I recommend Theology of the Body for a real mind-blower.

Removing the temptation while you strengthen against it is also pretty critical.

In Him,

 

[Shane Roach]

Is there a reason this started, I mean like an underlying problem? I had this addiction as a teen, but my problem was my low self-esteem. I started having sex with different guys because I lacked love and attention at home, and didn't have a very high opinion of myself. So once I started, it became a drug (among many) to me. Looking back on it now, I think it was just another way to punish myself, and a way to feel "loved" while in the moment. Probably won't make a whole lot of sense to most, but that's the way I look at it now.

So anyway, I got through it by LOTS of prayer and working through my poor self image and forgiveness of my parents for neglecting me.

I don't know if this will help you, but my advice would be to find out why it started and deal with that first.

s to everyone still struggling with this, I am a PM away if any of you need to talk.

While my situation was not identical to yours, it was similar in a lot of senses that you express, especially in how we almost punish ourselves in doing these things. I basically just gave up hope that I was worth the kind of relationship I wanted to have.

You might be surprised how many people share and understand what you went through.

Anyhow, just my two cents.

 

[Arwen Undomiel]

Sexual addiction in women is usually rooted in emotional abuse, physical abuse or sexual abuse. In my life experience, I've found that low self-esteem and the type of relationship, or lack thereof, women have had with their father is a major contributing factor as well. I can recommend Celebrate Recovery as a place to go as a safe Christian environment to work through your struggles. Another online resource is the message board at RSA Ministries as well.

As I mentioned, I have experience in this area so please don't hesitate to PM me. In recovery, sexual addiction groups are definitely gender specific as it's important to feel safe in sharing.