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Setting the date
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AngylBelle
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a) It is appropriate to marry on whatever day you choose! My fiance and I aren't having a wedding so ours will most likely be on a weekday, but traditionally, many seem to favor Fri, Sat, or Sun so people can take time off work. Have you considered a Friday evening wedding? That could be a good choice as well!
b) I don't think it is *inappropriate* to marry on your grandfather's birthday. I personally want my wedding day to be separate from another special occassion, so I would never choose a family members birthday. However, it could be a great way to honor his memory (I assume he's passed). If he's still living, I wouldn't choose that day though.
c) Ok, this is just me, but if I had gotten engaged prior to my friend, set my date, and then when she got engaged she chose the weekend *before* mine, I would be P.Oed. I think it would be stealing the other couples thunder. But think of it this way, if it were you who had been planning your wedding and the other couple suddenly decided to marry the weekend before you, how would you feel? Like I said, I wouldn't be happy, but what is important is what you and your fiance want I guess.
d) The first question that comes to mind is why such a short engagment? Is there a reason your are pushing for end of Feb, early March? Depending on the size of your wedding, I think it is possible to plan a wedding by February, but you'd better get on the ball now, prepare to encounter banquet halls that are booked already, and deal with a little more stress than is involved with planning a little longer. But yes, it is possible. You may want to look into church bookings, dresses, a caterer, photographer, etc and see how booked they are and the best timeline to line up all of them together. It may end up that to get your wedding the way you want with everything you want, you have to wait until April or May. And that's ok too! Whatever you decide I am sure everything will be perfect.
Congratulations to you both!
b) I don't think it is *inappropriate* to marry on your grandfather's birthday. I personally want my wedding day to be separate from another special occassion, so I would never choose a family members birthday. However, it could be a great way to honor his memory (I assume he's passed). If he's still living, I wouldn't choose that day though.
c) Ok, this is just me, but if I had gotten engaged prior to my friend, set my date, and then when she got engaged she chose the weekend *before* mine, I would be P.Oed. I think it would be stealing the other couples thunder. But think of it this way, if it were you who had been planning your wedding and the other couple suddenly decided to marry the weekend before you, how would you feel? Like I said, I wouldn't be happy, but what is important is what you and your fiance want I guess.
d) The first question that comes to mind is why such a short engagment? Is there a reason your are pushing for end of Feb, early March? Depending on the size of your wedding, I think it is possible to plan a wedding by February, but you'd better get on the ball now, prepare to encounter banquet halls that are booked already, and deal with a little more stress than is involved with planning a little longer. But yes, it is possible. You may want to look into church bookings, dresses, a caterer, photographer, etc and see how booked they are and the best timeline to line up all of them together. It may end up that to get your wedding the way you want with everything you want, you have to wait until April or May. And that's ok too! Whatever you decide I am sure everything will be perfect.
Congratulations to you both!
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Absolutely. Any day is fine.LadyBird said:
No reason in the world why not to!
Your weddings are going to be close together in any case. Don't worry about it. There will always be something close or conflicting on the calendar.
I think that 3 months is just about perfect as long as you aren't going overboard with fanciness.
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Thanks for your opinions everyone, it means a lot to me
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The reason why is because we have been dating for over five years. If everything was planned, we would be getting married tomorrow!
.The reason why is because we have been dating for over five years. If everything was planned, we would be getting married tomorrow!
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Well that's an appropriate reason! However, if you've been waiting that long, could you wait another month or on another day to let the other couple bask in the limelight of their wedding?
a) is it appropriate to get married on a Sunday?
Whatever day is fine, however, make sure it won't conflict with the church (if you are having it in one) or people who go to church in the morning.
b) would it be okay to get married on my Grandpa's birthday?
I think it's a great way to honor him and a great birthday present for him... Is he still alive? But either way i think it's a great day...
c) is it okay to get married a week before another couple and some of the people invited to their wedding will be invited to ours?
Ok, yes. But it would be nice for them to do it a week or more in advance or week or two afterwards...
d) and finally, would getting married at the end of February leave us enough time to plan our wedding? We got engaged on the weekend so that leaves us with a little over three months.
Plenty of time if you have the money. 3 months is easy, and i reckon i could do it in a month easily but decided not to try
a) is it appropriate to get married on a Sunday?
Whatever day is fine, however, make sure it won't conflict with the church (if you are having it in one) or people who go to church in the morning.
b) would it be okay to get married on my Grandpa's birthday?
I think it's a great way to honor him and a great birthday present for him... Is he still alive? But either way i think it's a great day...
c) is it okay to get married a week before another couple and some of the people invited to their wedding will be invited to ours?
Ok, yes. But it would be nice for them to do it a week or more in advance or week or two afterwards...
d) and finally, would getting married at the end of February leave us enough time to plan our wedding? We got engaged on the weekend so that leaves us with a little over three months.
Plenty of time if you have the money. 3 months is easy, and i reckon i could do it in a month easily but decided not to try
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I got married on my stepmom's birthday and the day after my husband's grandma's birthday. Why not?
All those ideas sound fine.
All those ideas sound fine.
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Heh and it is hard to set the date isn't it? We went about 4 weeks later than originally planned to accomodate my brothers birthday and church happenings.
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Amy47
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Me and my bf had originally planned to get married at the end of May in 2007 but Because of his new job we may have to push it back at least 1 month because May is the busiest time for the business. Now I was wondering, weather wise, what month would you recommend to get married in, Remembering I live in Ontario, Canada. It's between June all the way to September. We both want to get married as soon as we can, but another thing is my brother and his wife are going to Bible school in Manitoba so since we plan on including them in our wedding party it's going to be hard to involve them in all the planning, cuz they live so far away, BUT they come home for summer break in May, so I guess that would work. Boy am I excited.
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Maeyken
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Hmm... I think any of those months is a good month for a wedding. I'm gettting married in June (the 10th!).
I think it depends on a lot of factors. My family goes on vacation every year, the same week in July. Didn't wanna do it then. My sister's getting married in August, so we wanted to keep it as far from that as we could. We were thinking May, but good friends of ours are getting married in May, so we did June.
My friend got married this past September, outdoors, and it was nice. It was a little chilly at the rehearsal the evening before, but the wedding afternoon was gorgeous, and warm enough.
It all depends on what you want. If you don't care that it's super-hot, or you're in air conditioning all day, then July might be a great option. If you're looking for a little cooler weather (especially for an outdoor wedding) then earlier or later would be better. It sounds as though the summer months are your options- that's what our options were too.
As for family BD's, I'd tend to think that doesn't matter so much, unless you know the person would be put out because your wedding is on their "special day". I can't see many people making a big deal out of it, but it might be a good idea to run it by the person, just sort of a "heads up", and "yes, we know it's your BD too".
I'd suggest trying to narrow it down to a few potential dates, then run them by family members, and anyone else who just *has* to be there. We discovered that one of our possibilities was during a conference that my fiance's dad will be gone to. So that day was out. We had a pretty easy time of it though
I think it depends on a lot of factors. My family goes on vacation every year, the same week in July. Didn't wanna do it then. My sister's getting married in August, so we wanted to keep it as far from that as we could. We were thinking May, but good friends of ours are getting married in May, so we did June.
My friend got married this past September, outdoors, and it was nice. It was a little chilly at the rehearsal the evening before, but the wedding afternoon was gorgeous, and warm enough.
It all depends on what you want. If you don't care that it's super-hot, or you're in air conditioning all day, then July might be a great option. If you're looking for a little cooler weather (especially for an outdoor wedding) then earlier or later would be better. It sounds as though the summer months are your options- that's what our options were too.
As for family BD's, I'd tend to think that doesn't matter so much, unless you know the person would be put out because your wedding is on their "special day". I can't see many people making a big deal out of it, but it might be a good idea to run it by the person, just sort of a "heads up", and "yes, we know it's your BD too".
I'd suggest trying to narrow it down to a few potential dates, then run them by family members, and anyone else who just *has* to be there.
We discovered that one of our possibilities was during a conference that my fiance's dad will be gone to. So that day was out. We had a pretty easy time of it though
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melandshanetria
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LadyBird said:
You got that right! Today while on the phone, me and my SO was discussing the appropriate time for him to propose, (in which he already have a date in mind, but won't tell me). We had already decided on a date to marry which was April 07, 2007...2 days after my baby's birthday, but now he wants it to be June 24th. A day after MY birthday. He said he felt that day would be very special to me and that I would be getting a very good birthday present by getting him as a husband. I am in agreement with both days, but I really wanted it to be in April when my baby turns 4. Since her real dad is not in her life, I thought it would be nice to give her the best birthday present a child could ever ask for and that's a father that's going to be apart of her life....We're both going to pray on those two dates and then come to a decision. I pray that you and your fiance' come up with a date that will work for the both of you. It really is hard to set a date!
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well, it depends on if you want a wedding with all the bells and whistles or just a simple ceremony....weddings have a lot involved, and most places are probably booked when you start out you have one thing in mind but it quickly snowballs, what about a valentines day wedding....
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Setting the date
I never thought that setting the date for my wedding would be so hard! We want to get married in March but my birthday in on the 4th, my Grandpa's birthday is on the 11th and another couple we know is getting married on the 25th (those are all on Saturdays). So that leaves us either with getting married on a Sunday or having our wedding on the 18th, but would it be fair to the other couple? I don't want them to feel like we are stealing their thunder by getting married the week before them. Or we could have our wedding at the end of February. So basically, I'm asking:
a) is it appropriate to get married on a Sunday?
b) would it be okay to get married on my Grandpa's birthday?
c) is it okay to get married a week before another couple and some of the people invited to their wedding will be invited to ours?
d) and finally, would getting married at the end of February leave us enough time to plan our wedding? We got engaged on the weekend so that leaves us with a little over three months.
Thanks everyone in advance for your help. I just feel we're stuck on picking a date and I need some advice
Hi, I'm new here and recently married and just went through all this wedding drama.
-Getting married on a Sunday isn't a bad idea, sometimes venues are cheaper.
-Getting married on your grandfather's birthday isn't bad either, I had a cousin who did something similar and they had a birthday celebration the following day and due to the wedding some people were there who normally wouldn't be there so it was nice.
-I would be livid if a friend got engaged after me and married a week before my wedding. I wouldn't suggest it.
-As far as getting married at the end of February I think you are really pushing it. I was engaged a year and needed every bit of it. There are so many details. I wouldn't suggest getting married with less than 6 months time unless you want a really simple wedding and don't care about buying your wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses off the rack. Three months isn't usually enough time to pick, order and be fitted and have alterations done. I would definately book whereever you want to get married now (if you haven't already). Why not wait till the end of April? It's really only a month more and it might make your planning less stressful. Just a thought. Good luck!
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