Serious topic

[KarrieTex]

I have been looking and there doesn't seem to be a thread that is a bit on the serious side. I don't know why but I am thinking that may be nice.

I am about to turn 36 and it just hit me that I am making that turn into my late 30's...no husband, no children, and it is scary.

Maybe this might be a good one....

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

 

[purpleunicorn_Andi]

one day at a time, realizing that God is in control...
my biggest fear/regret is where we are financially, and that I am strugging with not being where I thought I would be at this time of my life. I work in retail, live in an apartment... I thought by this time in my life I would either have a career, or be a SAHM.... hopefully things will be different when this baby gets here, I plan on trying to atleast find another job while I am on my maternity leave, perhaps I can find something that is not in retail at all

 

[KarrieTex]

one day at a time, realizing that God is in control...
my biggest fear/regret is where we are financially, and that I am strugging with not being where I thought I would be at this time of my life. I work in retail, live in an apartment... I thought by this time in my life I would either have a career, or be a SAHM.... hopefully things will be different when this baby gets here, I plan on trying to atleast find another job while I am on my maternity leave, perhaps I can find something that is not in retail at all

I can understand that. I thought I would be married with 2 kids, house, sahm ,on and on. Nope, I am single, no kids, and not in my own place.

Same days I just wonder what God is up to with my life.

 

[5stringJeff]

I have been looking and there doesn't seem to be a thread that is a bit on the serious side. I don't know why but I am thinking that may be nice.

I am about to turn 36 and it just hit me that I am making that turn into my late 30's...no husband, no children, and it is scary.

Maybe this might be a good one....

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

I pray for wisdom and think through it. I am also fortunate enough to have a wife to talk through these things with, and we are great compliments to each other.

 

[KarrieTex]

I pray for wisdom and think through it. I am also fortunate enough to have a wife to talk through these things with, and we are great compliments to each other.

Yes you are blessed. I don't have that blessing...YET.

OH by the way...Ya'll it's OUR not are.

 

[faithgoeson]

Originally Posted by gopjeff I am also fortunate enough to have a wife to talk through these things with, and we are great compliments to each other.

KarrieTex: OH by the way...Ya'll it's OUR not are.

Huh? Not in my English book. It's kind of rude to correct people's typing on here, especially if you're not even correct. Just my opinion. Not trying to cause a debate.

 

[KarrieTex]

Originally Posted by gopjeff I am also fortunate enough to have a wife to talk through these things with, and we are great compliments to each other.

KarrieTex: OH by the way...Ya'll it's OUR not are.

Huh? Not in my English book. It's kind of rude to correct people's typing on here, especially if you're not even correct. Just my opinion. Not trying to cause a debate.

UHMMM go back and look at what i typed and you will see I am correcting MYSELF.

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

SO, I guess I am being rude to myself. Hmm wonder what I can do to apologize to myself? Maybe a new pair of shoes??

 

[AngeliaTurner]

I am turning 33 in 2 months. I do have a husband and 3 kids but I thought I would have a great career and a house by now. At the moment I am working for Project Recovery on the Mississippi Gulf Coast but it is only a temporary job. The trailor that we live in I do own but I want a house. I have lived in trailors just about all my adult life. I am so ready to be in a brick home with more room.

 

[5stringJeff]

Yes you are blessed. I don't have that blessing...YET.

OH by the way...Ya'll it's OUR not are.

Well, God lifts up others in our lives to comfort and support us when we need it. So hang in there!

And BTW, I knew you were correcting your original post. It's all good!

P.S. Go Longhorns! (from a Native Houstonian)

 

[JPPT1974]

I am single, never been married, no children
Yes it does get lonely but it doesn't bother me
Like it should. Because God takes care of me
As he does all of you
Just take it to Him in prayer
He will uplift those burdens and that
God knows what He is doing!

 

[kristalball]

I have been looking and there doesn't seem to be a thread that is a bit on the serious side. I don't know why but I am thinking that may be nice.

I am about to turn 36 and it just hit me that I am making that turn into my late 30's...no husband, no children, and it is scary.

Maybe this might be a good one....

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

I am older than you and in the same situation (but I do live on my own). I am so totally cool being where I am in life. I don't "need" a husband or children to make my life "complete". I am not saying I would reject anything that God put in my life, but I am the happiest I've ever been right now. I volunteer to teach bible study at church, so I have the kid connections there and with my friend's children. As far as how you handle it, you just have to give it all to God.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

I presume that other fears besides being alone are allowed ...
Well, I'm not sure about maturity ... that is one of my fears - will I ever be "mature?" I'm struggling with becoming someone responsiible and motivated, and I fear that I will never achieve anything of substance.

 

[KarrieTex]

I presume that other fears besides being alone are allowed ...
Well, I'm not sure about maturity ... that is one of my fears - will I ever be "mature?" I'm struggling with becoming someone responsiible and motivated, and I fear that I will never achieve anything of substance.

Oh goodness this may be long. I have so much on my mind.

With losing...letting go...of someone I love dearly, I have seen that maturity is forged by life experiences. For one of the first time, I have no anger in me for this man. I am so sad about this and hurt. However, I am constantly worried that he is not finding the strength to deal with this.

My fear of being a mature individual is somewhat abated because I can face the pain without the anger. I believe I have reached the door of the maturity. Now do I want to take that step in?

I have never defined myself by who I am dating or what relationship I am. I am very thankful that my parents have instilled in me a strong sense of security and independence. But right now I feel such a sense of lose that I am not sure how to explain it. It is like the other half of me is gone and I feel incomplete.

I know and depend on God being my strength and my rock and I am complete in Him. However, I also believe that He made us to want that person who is designed to be our mate and there is a little hole left open for that person to fill.

My hole that my SO filled is slowly being reopened and I am crying for that.

Before the SO I was happy, and I am sure if God wants us to stay apart I will be happy again. But now...now I am mourning and crying out for Him.

I know that is so depressing at this time of year but it is how I am feeling. And it is my fear that it will never go away.

 

[eoj]

I have been looking and there doesn't seem to be a thread that is a bit on the serious side. I don't know why but I am thinking that may be nice.

I am about to turn 36 and it just hit me that I am making that turn into my late 30's...no husband, no children, and it is scary.

Maybe this might be a good one....

how do we in are maturity deal with the fears that each of us are facing?

Well, we draw closer to God and He will draw His Joy, Peace, Love and Light more into us.

I love Jesus and I am so very thankful to be here at CF spreading His LOVE & His most wonderful LIGHT!

THANK YOU FATHER! I LOVE YOU!

EOJ {thanks for the thread) I will keep you in my prayers my friend. God bless you.

Keeping all of you in ALL my prayers. God bless!


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[Oblivious]

I'd say just be happy with who you are and where you're at in life. Sure being married is great, but there's a lot of great things that can be said about being single too!

 

[drifter5]

Never forget that God does have a perfect plan for your life .You can be sure of that, sister. It can be so difficult being single, but The Lord does say that this is the better choice, as you have more time to devote to your walk with The Lord. ONLY GOD CAN COMPLETELY SATISFY, no human can do that.

 

[MellieMoo]

I just wanted to add that every one of us has a "cross" to bear. Yours might be "being single." Mine might be "being married." Someone else's may be "being poor." And yet another may be "having no friends."

What I've learned is that God is truly concerned about our crosses, so much so that he says to "deny [your]self and take up [your] cross and follow [him]." (Matthew 16:24).

I guess I take that to mean rely on God in whatever situation He has placed you in. It's not always easy but this is where growth happens.

Hang in there! He IS with you!!!

 

[JPPT1974]

When we accept Christ as Savior and Lord
Repent of our sins
We are never the same as we
Now are conformed in God's image
As we look at things through God's eyes
Putting things in perspective of Him!

 

[clycleader]

Hey!
I'm 36 now and had my first boy when I was 35. No biggie. I got married about a year before we got preggers. It's all good. Like somone said, it's on Gods time, not ours. I knew I was a late bloomer and wanted to wait until things were right. When you bump into the right person to marry, you'll know. When it's right to have kids, you'll know that too. God will tell you. Maybe not in so many words, but he will.
I enjoy being somewhat of a rebel and doing things later in life. We still plan on havign at least one more child. Whenever God tells us it's right that is.

 

[JPPT1974]

There are always pros and cons to being
Either married or single but what you do with
It is up to you.