Serious relations?

[RaeDev]

I have a serious relationship with my boyfriend. Theres just one thing I cant stand. More like one person. His youngest sister. He has two by the way. The older one is alright but I never talk to her really. Hes the oldest so he feels obligated to take care of the young sister that I can't stand. She is wreck less to me. Last night she got mad at ME of all people.
Heres the reason why. I work with her baby's daddy's g/f(who also has a kids with him). Every time they get into it, he goes back to my boyfriend's sister. His other baby's mom called her and said I spilled the beans. What beans were there to spill? Supposedly Brandi the (other baby's momma), wasn't supposed to know they were dating. My boyfriend's sister gets mad at me and throws a soda some splashes onto my nice, clean hair. She gets out of the car because she doesn't want to ride with me in it. My boyfriend was supposed to bring her home from work.
The story goes on. Shes 20 by the way. I thought she would be a little more mature about the whole thing, especially since she never told me what I said. So apparently Brandi never told her. I didn't say anything that would potentially damage her relations with her baby's dad. Its just "baby-momma drama". I think Brandi wanted to use me as an excuse. And of course, she got her man back. I'm in the middle here so that makes me the culprit. My boyfriend is really stressed at this point.. Shes still not telling us what the heck I even said. She doesn't know either.
I'm beginning to wonder if I'm gonna have to put up with Devan's sister for the rest of my life!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!!

 

[Weasel7711]

Find someone else?

 

[penNpaper]

Find someone else?

Yeah that really 'helps' her out for advice man..

I can pray for you situation

And hope that everything will be alright in the end result

Regards,
Drew

 

[RaeDev]

My boyfriend isn't the problem, its his sister.

 

[RaeDev]

thanks Drew and thanks weasel I appreciate your comments on the whole thing. I just wish she would move out already. lol

 

[Weasel7711]

Just know if you guys get married she will be part of your life forever.

 

[Blank123]

your boyfriend needs to have a talk with his sister. If she wants to play out this huge soap opera drama, whatever. but if she's dragging you into it thats not right and someone needs to tell her that. Your boyfriend may not wanna do that but that would be his place since this is his sister - if you said anything by this point she would just turn it into a big catfight. he needs to tell her that she has to grow up and treat you with some respect and fix her life without using other people as a scape goat for her own problems.


if no one is going to talk to her about how she treats other people then i'd say find another guy because she probably won't stop causing problems, people like that usually thrive on drama.

 

[RaeDev]

Thanks so much little tigress That is so true. And weasel, I see your point if shes gonna be around forever and I cant stand her it wouldn't be the best idea to stay with him. I appreciate your comments on this whole thing. I would really like him to tell her off. Or maybe just tell her how important I am to him. Maybe she will understand. Or maybe I'm not that important. Either way maybe I will find some enlightenment in this going on 2 yr. relationship. thanks again friends.

 

[RaeDev]

I feel safe to say this on here also.....

Shannaha (b/f's sister) she kicked me! can you believe it? Im the nicest person you will ever meet. She kicked me right in the chest when I knealt down to ask her what I said to hurt her like that. I think shes getting punished in her life enough anyway. No need for me to get her back. My step dad told me next time she comes after me to kick her really hard in the knee caps.I hate his sister enough to break up with him. I love him though. But I definately dont want that fat, loud, rude, lazy, BRAT in my life!!! I dont know Im so confused I really love my Devan!!

P.S.

SORRY FOR THE MEAN WORDS!I wouldn't say them if they werent the exact words to describe her.

 

[Sunburst]

Part of being with somebody is always going to be family and it comes with him. Patience and acceptance will keep you together because he can't help his sister's situation.It just has to be hard though.Whew,I had to read twice to understand things myself.

 

[Blank123]

I feel safe to say this on here also.....

Shannaha (b/f's sister) she kicked me! can you believe it? Im the nicest person you will ever meet. She kicked me right in the chest when I knealt down to ask her what I said to hurt her like that. I think shes getting punished in her life enough anyway. No need for me to get her back. My step dad told me next time she comes after me to kick her really hard in the knee caps.I hate his sister enough to break up with him. I love him though. But I definately dont want that fat, loud, rude, lazy, BRAT in my life!!! I dont know Im so confused I really love my Devan!!

P.S.

SORRY FOR THE MEAN WORDS!I wouldn't say them if they werent the exact words to describe her.

umm... first returning hate for hate is wrong. returning blow for blow is wrong. don't give in to that kind of thinking. As a Christian you're representing Christ to her. She might be hard to love and i understand that but that sort of behaviour is never warranted for a Christian regardless of the situation.

If its really come to the point that hatred is starting to sink into your heart i'd say just break it off. there's no point in continuing things if you cannot have any love in your heart for his family. sunburst is right. you take the man with the family, you'll never separate the two. so if you hate his family that bad, find someone else.

 

[RaeDev]

I didnt find anyone else but your right lil tigress, We needed to break up. Its a good thing. Thanks sunburst for understanding my situation. Hes the one that broke up with me today actually. hah. It turns out that his sis is going to check on the guy that started the whole fight. I guess his other babys mom pushed him out a window. Devans sister is happy she gets her man back. Shewas trying to be friends with me at they're Grandma's funeral I should have had a little compassion but once I do that it will be like she was never hurtful to me. I dont want to trust her again. I dont want to trust him again. He has to get his life together first. Get a good job and stuff. Maybe one day I will see him and already have a great life going and he will want me back but it will be too late hehehe.

 

[ShadeSpeCtre]

Whew......Well, in all honesty I might not have gotten all of that straight, but I get the basic idea. I have to agree if you are unable to keep up an attitude of kindness even if she is treating you terribly, you might have to break it off. Doesn't need to be forever, but until you can work out that bitterness. Take some time to cool off and talk with God about it.