Paraphrasing "You're a great person in my eyes and you've helped me a great deal. I really value your friendship and insight. You deserve someone great and I do too".
If you have helped the person to become more for real with Jesus and how to relate in love with any and all people, including ones who do not love you . . . you have helped the person a truly great deal.
And if you have been honest with the person, you have challenged the person to make sure with God about who the person really belongs with. And this means the person might not be guided to you. But be honest with her; encourage her to make sure with God about who she belongs with; and honor our Heavenly Father and how He guides her.
You say you would help her to have her dreams come true; well, she needs to have dreams which are God's desire for her. If you really help her and others, you have helped someone to have God's dreams for the person come true. And if you are real with God, like this, He will trust you with whomever you really belong with.
And appreciate what you really have with each person; trust God to manage all which He wants you to share with each one. And because you are trusting Him, you will be satisfied
He knows what is right for you, now.
"casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)
Now if I'm so great and we both deserve someone great...hello, I'm right here in front of you! This makes zero sense to me that someone would say this kind of stuff and totally miss that there is someone right in front of you that would make sacrifices for you and support you in your goals and dreams, and you're really great...but yeah just not you. GAH!
Well, even if you are not the person's dream . . . support the person to find all which is really good for that person.
Be appreciative of all you do have with each Christian lady. Each one is your own sister in Jesus. Each one already is your own family! And our Groom Jesus loves all of them dearly.
But they are not perfect; so you can discover things wrong with them. And we need to have compassion and forgiveness ready. Or else,
if we can't handle certain nonsense things, now . . . how are we going to be able to manage things which we discover about a lady later in marriage?
If we believe in unmerited favor, we don't get too concerned about who and how much we deserve. We want to do God's will . . . God's loving with each other person.
If the reality is you do not trust each other so you can make sense out of things > I would say we should not get too interested in anyone unless we clearly trust one another. If someone doesn't trust you, never mind why an imperfect person does to trust us. We need to pray and trust God to change our character so He is satisfied with how He wants us to be trustworthy. And do not have an attitude that anyone has to trust us, do not lord ourselves over people with expectations which we are dictating >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
A lady needs to be able to make sure with God about who she needs to trust in marriage. She needs to become able to obey how the Holy Spirit leads her. So, if the Holy Spirit is not satisfying and guiding her to marry you, this is all you need to know. Be good to her, trust her to God, enjoy however God blesses you to share with her.