TO EVERYONE:
I think this will be my last post on the subject. I've come to a conclusion:
He has been physically abusive in the past as well as emotionally/mentally. Before we were married it was alot worse than it is now. He was not faithful before we were married, but has been since. He also has been a gambler the entire time we've been together which has hurt us greatly. He is not trustworthy. He isn't physically abusive anymore and since his legal trouble, he isn't abusive in any way. Alot of people say he's just being like that because it's a time of crisis and he's just being nice to keep me around. Could be true but how will one know that unless they stick around until after the crisis is over? That is the kind of regret I don't want to have....the whole "what could have been regret".
As far as putting anyone in danger, that may not even come to pass. It depends on if the powers that be even want to go that route. Right now, it's only something that he suggested to his lawyer. The prosecutor might not even be interested in such a conversation. But if it comes to that, obviously I will do what I have to do to protect myself and my family as that will come first regardless of my relationship with my H.
I think I originally wrote this post because I basically wanted to know if it was wrong to separate and/or divorce according to the Bible...that's all I wanted to know. From reading all the posts, I've come to the conclusion that there is no black or white. I feel that basically, divorce is wrong in general, but that there are exceptions to that rule, such as abuse or infidelity. On the flip side, I think I'm safe in saying that the exceptions also include instances, some of which I've noted here, like putting a spouse/family in danger, consistent lasting for years abuse, etc. because I believe that God wants an abundant life for us in every way possible. If you are yoked with someone that is stopping you from having the life that God planned for you, then how can it be wrong to leave? That being said, the decision to leave is also not one that should be made in haste and should be made after counseling has been consulted and prayer has been made etc etc etc. Mine refuses to go to counseling or church so that is not a viable option for me.
So I guess in a nutshell, I have received the answer I was looking for.
I thank all of you who have responded.
God Bless,
K -
I think this will be my last post on the subject. I've come to a conclusion:
He has been physically abusive in the past as well as emotionally/mentally. Before we were married it was alot worse than it is now. He was not faithful before we were married, but has been since. He also has been a gambler the entire time we've been together which has hurt us greatly. He is not trustworthy. He isn't physically abusive anymore and since his legal trouble, he isn't abusive in any way. Alot of people say he's just being like that because it's a time of crisis and he's just being nice to keep me around. Could be true but how will one know that unless they stick around until after the crisis is over? That is the kind of regret I don't want to have....the whole "what could have been regret".
As far as putting anyone in danger, that may not even come to pass. It depends on if the powers that be even want to go that route. Right now, it's only something that he suggested to his lawyer. The prosecutor might not even be interested in such a conversation. But if it comes to that, obviously I will do what I have to do to protect myself and my family as that will come first regardless of my relationship with my H.
I think I originally wrote this post because I basically wanted to know if it was wrong to separate and/or divorce according to the Bible...that's all I wanted to know. From reading all the posts, I've come to the conclusion that there is no black or white. I feel that basically, divorce is wrong in general, but that there are exceptions to that rule, such as abuse or infidelity. On the flip side, I think I'm safe in saying that the exceptions also include instances, some of which I've noted here, like putting a spouse/family in danger, consistent lasting for years abuse, etc. because I believe that God wants an abundant life for us in every way possible. If you are yoked with someone that is stopping you from having the life that God planned for you, then how can it be wrong to leave? That being said, the decision to leave is also not one that should be made in haste and should be made after counseling has been consulted and prayer has been made etc etc etc. Mine refuses to go to counseling or church so that is not a viable option for me.
So I guess in a nutshell, I have received the answer I was looking for.
I thank all of you who have responded.
God Bless,
K -
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