Separating to resolve our issues, and more

[Tankboi]

I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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[Kirbyjade]

I'm not a fan of people leaving a marriage to "find themselves". We get married for a lifetime and with God we grow. We change. We live. That's life. That's the way it's supposed to be. We live in such a "feel good" society. When things don't feel good anymore we move on to fInd the next thing. Marriage isn't about finding "the one" it's about being "the one". We can't change people's choices but God is always for marriage. It's up to us to wake up and choose to be I love with our spouse.

I really pray strength. Honor. And courage over you

 

[Tankboi]

I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
This topic is CLOSED!

 

[dayhiker]

Hi Tankboi,
Welcome to CF. Quite a few people find some meaning here that helps them.

I don't think there is any magic pullet. It would be nice if you two could say to each other lets do this growing up together. I think its great you two want to stay friends. So do you feel she is saying she needs space and you need to bet some independence by being away from her?

What are you two doing about college/work?

 

[Kirbyjade]

It also sounds to me. She may be crying out for some romance or to feel like you are really choosing her not just doing the right thing. When she says she wants you to discover if you really love her. In not sure if you have heard of the love dare. Or fireproof the movie. I would strongly recomend it. Try shOwing her she is worthy. At least you know then you have done everything you can do. And like I said. We can't change people's choices. It's then up to her.

 

[Tankboi]

I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
This topic is CLOSED!

 

[Tankboi]

I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
This topic is CLOSED!

 

[Kirbyjade]

Oh you Poor guy. Just know God has won this battle for you. And He will make sure your more then just ok. I don't know how she can say she want to focus on God while breaking her covenant with you. . The bible clearly says divorce is murder to the soul. But that's not on you if this her choice.

 

[Tankboi]

I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
This topic is CLOSED!

 

[dayhiker]

Well, its tough. But life goes on and it will for you as well.

I'm thinking you can't hold her in your hand as she will fight to be free even more.
So open your hand, give her her freedom, but let her know your always there for her to come land on your hand again.

Back in Feb. I said to my GF of 4+ yrs that she had too many rules and was breaking up with her. I really liked her and I'd like to be friends. Well, she couldn't handle being friends after a breakup. But would consider it after some time passed. Last week we played golf and went and got pizza afterwards.

So since you can't hold her against her will, let her go. Go get a job, make some friends and work on being a friend to her that accepts her for who she is and is interested in what she does. Don't judge her, just accept her. Love the new person she becomes as she goes thru this stage of maturing.

At least that's one way to handle it.

 

[Tankboi]

Thanks dayhiker,
thats how I'm hoping things go.

 

[Easyk]

Tough one, if she has walked away. Why not give her a date for a decision whether to stay with you and get back to God or not. The day comes and she makes her choice, you than can finally move on... Two years is a bit much IMHO I would of given it a month tops maybe two..guess I am tougher that way, but she is hurting you as well as herself, she is allowing temptation to knock at your door and you are trying to fend it off, tho sorry to be frank... But sooner or later you will fall, even the strongest man shall fall..