I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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Separated and going downhill, need advice!!!
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I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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Don't let her walk all over you. She has an active relationship going and you are having conversations where she says maybe someday, she will work it out. If she wants a man to prevent her from doing bad stuff, tell her she is going to come home, and never see that man again. Don't coddle her. Don't follow her around begging her to come back, while she tells you how much she loves her partner in adultery that she is cheating on you with. If she's mooching off you, tell her she doesn't get a dime from you unless she cuts it off with the guy right away and goes with you to counseling.
Go pay him a visit and tell him to stay away from your wife. Take a recording device. If he threatens you or hits you, get a restraining order against him. Then you can go hang around her if he is supposed to pick her up, and call the police. Does your state have adultery laws? If so, see if your DA is willing to prosecute your wife and her boyfriend. You could mention that to your wife, at least. Do you have any kids.
Do you want your wife back if she isn't going to repent? The problem of an adulterer who claims to be Christian is not a lack of love for one's spouse. It is a lack of love for the Lord. If she loved the Lord as she should, she wouldn't be sinning against him by committing adultery. She needs to know how bad this is. If I were you, when I spent time with her, I'd show her those verses about adultery being a death penalty crime in the Old Testament, and explaining to her how badly she'd sinned against the Lord, and yourself. It needs to hit home. She needs to repent. If she does, take spiritual leadership in the home seriously when you reconcile, praying with her and reading the Bible with her daily. They say less than 1% of Christian marriages where the couple regularly prays together break up. Then, you need to be the husband who keeps her in line and keeps her out of trouble, not the one who coddles her. I'm not talking about doing illegal stuff that would make you the bad guy in a Lifetime move. But there are some people who are so disagreeable, you just try not to cross them, without breaking the law. Then there are people who are only that way when someone is about to do something wrong. That seems to be what she wants from you, and it seems to be what she actually needs.
Go pay him a visit and tell him to stay away from your wife. Take a recording device. If he threatens you or hits you, get a restraining order against him. Then you can go hang around her if he is supposed to pick her up, and call the police. Does your state have adultery laws? If so, see if your DA is willing to prosecute your wife and her boyfriend. You could mention that to your wife, at least. Do you have any kids.
Do you want your wife back if she isn't going to repent? The problem of an adulterer who claims to be Christian is not a lack of love for one's spouse. It is a lack of love for the Lord. If she loved the Lord as she should, she wouldn't be sinning against him by committing adultery. She needs to know how bad this is. If I were you, when I spent time with her, I'd show her those verses about adultery being a death penalty crime in the Old Testament, and explaining to her how badly she'd sinned against the Lord, and yourself. It needs to hit home. She needs to repent. If she does, take spiritual leadership in the home seriously when you reconcile, praying with her and reading the Bible with her daily. They say less than 1% of Christian marriages where the couple regularly prays together break up. Then, you need to be the husband who keeps her in line and keeps her out of trouble, not the one who coddles her. I'm not talking about doing illegal stuff that would make you the bad guy in a Lifetime move. But there are some people who are so disagreeable, you just try not to cross them, without breaking the law. Then there are people who are only that way when someone is about to do something wrong. That seems to be what she wants from you, and it seems to be what she actually needs.
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I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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I have received some serious council from the Lord. Thanx for the support and keep praying.
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