Self confidence

[supermagdalena]

Ever since about the sixth grade, I have been deathly afraid of social situations where there were no close friends around. I just freak out, I feel self conscious, and I feel like everyone's looking at me (which I know they aren't, come on, I ain't that special ). You can probably imagine how terrifying it was for me to start a new church this summer. But I had several close friends there, so it wasn't really a problem. Until now. You see, it's Spring Break here and all of the people I really know are gone. I need many prayers for tomorrow morning, because I'll be going to youth anyway. I'm very nervous, and I hope not to clam up and freak out.

Right now it's sleep time.

 

[amie]

I am praying for you my dear, you will do just fine. Right before you walk in take a deep breath, all will be well! You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Much love to you and best of luck!

Amie

 

[futuresoldier]

It may well be a god idea to tell the people in 'youth' (thats another US thing I don't understand). It's like, if you see a girl you really like at a party, sometimes it takes a lot to tell your friends, especially if she is not popular, but if you do it's much easier to 'go up to' her. So, don't be afraid to admit to others in your youth that you feel akward with your friend's missing- surely they'll understand.

 

[supermagdalena]

It worked marvelously. Thanks for you prayers.

Now mind is I dump something else on ya'?

My church encourages "accountability partners" in which two people agree to call eachother and talk and ask tough questions. This started in September. I haven't had one until two weeks ago. out of the three people I really knew well enought to do this with at the time, two of them picked the other and no one wanted me. A couple of weeks ago one friend said she needed more accountability and told me she would do it with me. But she hasn't called me, and I can't reach her, and tonight she told my other friend that she really need to talk to someone tonight. It's clear to me that she did it out of pity, not because she needed accountability. It opened up new wounds, you know? I'm pondering on telling someone, but there's no one to tell it seems. Except one person I could trust, but she's the accountability partner everyone wants. I feel so rejected in the worst way...no one trusted me enough to do want to do this with me. It hurts. Any advice?

 

[solo66 man]

Hang in there and God will do wonders through you. If anyone asks advise or wants to use you for accountability,
no matter what the reason, simply do your best as though God sent them to you. He may have and they don't even know.
Give them good, God center counseling. Do it in a loving way though and they may well find they need you more than they ever dreamt possible. In the meantime, stay in prayer.
It can't hurt. And it will help.
God Bless You.

Originally posted by supermagdalena
It worked marvelously. Thanks for you prayers.

Now mind is I dump something else on ya'?

My church encourages "accountability partners" in which two people agree to call eachother and talk and ask tough questions. This started in September. I haven't had one until two weeks ago. out of the three people I really knew well enought to do this with at the time, two of them picked the other and no one wanted me. A couple of weeks ago one friend said she needed more accountability and told me she would do it with me. But she hasn't called me, and I can't reach her, and tonight she told my other friend that she really need to talk to someone tonight. It's clear to me that she did it out of pity, not because she needed accountability. It opened up new wounds, you know? I'm pondering on telling someone, but there's no one to tell it seems. Except one person I could trust, but she's the accountability partner everyone wants. I feel so rejected in the worst way...no one trusted me enough to do want to do this with me. It hurts. Any advice?

 

[StogusMaximus]

Praying.

 

[forjesus]

I have what we call a prayer partner, we meet once a week, or that is we try to. I was scared at first because i was a new christian and my prayer partner was the pastor of my church. I had no expierence at all with being a prayer partner, and when put with someone with his knowledge of The Bible, and everything else it was pretty scary. Then as we met and voiced our problems, and prayer requests, it became such a learning, and fulfilling friendship. I love to meet with him still. I suggest pick an older person in your church, and you will be surprised what you learn, and also what you teach. Go into it with an open mind, and ears, and heart, because sometimes praying with, and for other people is pretty emotional. God Bless keep me posted.

 

[supermagdalena]

It all worked out. Thanks for your prayers on this one.

 

[FOMWatts<><]

Well...I personally don't know you, but I promise if you are a Child of God you are definetly something special. God loves you and wants you to be confident in Him. So do not try to have confidence in flesh (yourself included) it will only let you down. Have confidence in God and seek the peace you are looking for in Him because to be honest that is the only place you will find it anyway! Much love peacew and blessings to you friend!

FOMWatts <><

 

[supermagdalena]

FOMWatts: Thank you for your encouragement

 

[amie]

yes, you are very special! and I would have been proud to have you as my "accountability partner". I am praying for you! always! Much love to you and many blessings!

Amie

 

[supermagdalena]

Thank you, amie! Thanks for your prayers, as well. God is making this all well...yay!

God Bless.

 

[forjesus]

I'm so happy for you sister, God Bless