Self condemnation/self pity/guilt

This looks like a self-confidence problem.This is what causes people to be overly concerned about what people think of them.You should adopt John the Baptist as your role model.Jesus said he was the most holy man on earth during his life.One of the primary reasons that Christians are accused of hypocrisy is that they are afraid to stand up for Jesus' teachings.Why do you suppose we are at war when Jesus taught us how to deal with terrorism?("DO GOOD TO THOSE WHO HATE YOU")Why do you suppose that a survey has shown that a full ninty (90) percent of the girls who took vows of chasity,decided to then engage in fornication?Christians are commanded to take up their cross daily and follow Jesus regardless of what other people think.

One of the best ways to increase your self-confidence so you're not overly-concerned about what other people think about you,is to just refuse to worry about other people's opinions.Most of the so-called Christians you'll meet,doin't even know what Jesus' teachings are.In fact I filed a complaint of blasphemy against a moderator on this website.You're going to have to base your behavior and decisions on Jesus' teachings recorded in the Bibe and not on what other people tell you.Refusing to criticize yourself,knowing that God forgives us for our mistakes,IF WE KEEP ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS,is another very important step to take so that you'll become a bolder,stronger and true Christian.

You are forgiven, according to 1 John 1:9.

You will get better. You're only a week old in the Lord, He's got plenty of time to remake you in His image. Just keep walking with the Lord and He will sanctify you.

"May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it." - 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24

"being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."- Phil 1:6

You sound like I used to be torwards people. I tended to tell people hurtful things, but the difference between you and I is that I would do it intentionally thinking that hopefully harsh words would make them snap out of what I thought was stupidity. That is the wrong way!

You can change the way you are, but know that it will take some time. Don't be mad or disappointed in yourself if you continue to do these things. Just ask Jesus to help you out and believe me, He WILL. Just never forget to ask Him for His help and forgiveness.

I am also struggling with confidence issues, but an old friend of mine that I met up with last Saturday said to me something that stuck with me and I hope it does with you too and it is that only YOU have the power to allow others to bring you down. Just as an example, let's say you're dating someone and all of a sudden they have lost interest in you and don't want to speak to you anymore. Who's fault is it if you break down? It's yours, not theirs. Why? Because you and ONLY you have the power to control your emotions.

Next time you stop to think about what others may think of you, remember that we are all the same whether we admit it or not. We all go through the same confidence problems, we all have our own little insecurities. Just because a few people may think something "bad" about you, it doesn't mean the whole world does. And here's what matters the most: GOD'S THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU! I challenge you to be confident in all you do and do it in His name, without caring what everyone else may think.

So, be yourself... if you feel like cracking up at a joke that no one else is laughing at, go ahead! Live for you and for God, no one else!

As we deny self and take after the Spirit that abides in us, God's Holy Spirit, the works of the flesh are overcome. This takes considerable effort and grace to achieve. This is why we are given God's grace to grow in and the blood of the lamb to cleanse us of all unrighteousness towards others. If we are sincere and continue to grow in His grace, we are forgiven of our sins, but God cannot be mocked by insincereity, on our part, to not repent of and confess our sins, continuing to keep trying to overcome - or then, if we fail to repent and sincerely try to fight the good fight between the flesh and the spirit, we reap what we sow.

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Acts 3:19 Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;

Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Romans 6:1 ¶ What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death?
4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.