Self-Bondage

[sraddha]

From the time I was five years old I have liked to tie myself up. Hardly a day goes by when I don’t do it. Over the years, and since I live in an apartment alone I have refined my methods. It is virtually impossible for me to free myself until three hours. I have tried to break myself of this habit. I am always thinking about my next session. Any advice?

 

[Danielof the Island]

Before I can aide, would you please tell us why you tie yourself up? Do you do this for the solving a difficult puzzle aspect, is it for pleasure, or do you have some other reason for doing so?

Have you considered the dangers of doing this, mainly the risk of burning to death in a fire or being caught helpless by a home intruder? Whut if a friend walked in?

When you say you tie yourself up... do you mean like tieing your hands together with rope and then timing yourself on escaping?

This could be self bondage for pleasure, or it could simply be a desire to be an escape artist. Which is it?

 

[sraddha]

I do it for sexual pleasure. I explained this in my original post, but it was heavily edited.

 

[meh]

As Daniel pointed out, the risk of accidental death does exist here. If this is bothering you and you want to stop, I would suggest finding a therapist to help you get to the root of why this act brings you pleasure. Don't be scared or afraid to tell them. They'll work with you.

 

[Danielof the Island]

Find a close friend or family member who you know will dissaprove, but not freak out. Spill the beans, tell them you realise it's a sin, then ask them to help you bring an end to it.

 

[englishrayne]

The only reason this would be worriesome that I can find is if it was indeed putting you in danger. If it's putting you at risk, then do seek help.

 

[Mling]

Safety issues are certainly a concern (my mind is now flooded with all the what-if's--fire was mentioned, illnesses with sudden onsets, falling and breaking/dislocating/lacerating something...). For that reason alone, it is a bad idea to perform self-bondage unless there is somebody around who knows what is going on.

Second concern--three hours, almost every day with most of the rest of the day devoted to thinking about the next time, is a lot of time to be spending on a fetish. I see no reason to think that bondage, in and of itself, is a problem, but if you are neglecting other areas of your life in favor of spending time alone with your rope, that is cause for concern. In that case, I would recommend seeing a counselor. Or...have you tried just keeping really busy? Obviously, I don't know what your schedual is like, but if this is simply a "kink" and not an addiction, just devoting time to something else could help.

Also, if you are doing this as a replacement for bondage with partner, then finding a willing partner could help. Obviously, that would depend on what else, besides bondage, would be included in such a session, and what your feelings are about doing such things outside of marriage. But, I'm thinking, if being tied by/with a partner is more satisfying than doing it alone, that might reduce the need to do it quite as often.

other, more wacky idea (take with a grain of salt): if you have the time, and only if there is somebody around to help you out, get yourself tied up really, really well, more often, for a week or so--anything gets boring if you do it too much.

If it is really bothering you, or interfering with your life, and you can't break it yourself, than I would recommend a counselor. Like I said, I see no reason to think that bondage is a problem, in and of itself, but anything can become and addiction and interfere with a person's life.

 

[Paulos23]

I can't add much to what has already been said here.

Good luck with this.