Seeking advice from Christian Men

[Xalith]

After reading this thread, I've been thinking about what exactly is defined as "lust".

I'm not trying to downplay sin, I just want to have a clear understanding of where exactly the line is, so that I needn't worry unnecessarily, but yet stop myself from crossing that line.

What I mean is, when Person A sees the girl and looks away, he is obviously not committing lust; he doesn't have anything to feel guilty about.

Person B sees the girl, doesn't stare at her, and thinks in his mind "she's attractive, but she really should wear more clothing" and continues about his way and doesn't envision sex with her, doesn't fantasize about what she'd look like naked, etc...

And then Person C sees the girl and fantasizes about her, stares at her, tries to look down her shirt, etc, etc.

Person A is probably not sinning whatsoever.
Person C is obviously sinning, no question about it.

Person B, however, is where I think a lot of Christian men fall. If it is sin, then I of course accept God's just judgement on that. However, if it is not sin... then it'd only be silly to unnecessarily worry about it (which drains our energy and gets distracting as it is so commonplace).

Just some curious musings.

 

[bigo1984]

After reading this thread, I've been thinking about what exactly is defined as "lust".

I'm not trying to downplay sin, I just want to have a clear understanding of where exactly the line is, so that I needn't worry unnecessarily, but yet stop myself from crossing that line.

What I mean is, when Person A sees the girl and looks away, he is obviously not committing lust; he doesn't have anything to feel guilty about.

Person B sees the girl, doesn't stare at her, and thinks in his mind "she's attractive, but she really should wear more clothing" and continues about his way and doesn't envision sex with her, doesn't fantasize about what she'd look like naked, etc...

And then Person C sees the girl and fantasizes about her, stares at her, tries to look down her shirt, etc, etc.

Person A is probably not sinning whatsoever.
Person C is obviously sinning, no question about it.

Person B, however, is where I think a lot of Christian men fall. If it is sin, then I of course accept God's just judgement on that. However, if it is not sin... then it'd only be silly to unnecessarily worry about it (which drains our energy and gets distracting as it is so commonplace).

Just some curious musings.

I don't believe A or B are Lust

 

[now faith]

it is a blessing that these younger girls dont attract you at your age. I know many men your age and older that still have lust problems with younger women.

Lust is a lot more than just looking anyway.

Lust is fantasizing about adultery if your married or fornication if your not.

I know men stricken with lust,in listening to their comments and watching them move around the women I know they are seriously trying to have them.

Personally I believe when lust is conceived it is acted upon.

Our Lord said if we have lusted by looking on a woman,we have committed it.

I believe he knew such a person would act on his lust if he could,so they are sinning due to their intentions.

The man who sees a beautiful Woman and stares at her beauty ,even her certain curves would not always commit adultery if even he was seduced.

I guess what I am trying to say is looking is not always lust, unless a man would do something given the chance.