Second thoughts?

[Leanna]

Do you guys ever have second thoughts? Sometimes I think, "its so easy with just David, and I get to focus on him and play and we just got past the baby stage and he's finally talking...." On the other hand, I know I don't just want one child total, so I suppose sometime I gotta take the jump. I'll "leave it in God's hands" or something to that effect.

 

[Linnis]

I know this might not exactly be the same but I didn't want to leave your thread unanswered.

After about six months of TTC I came to the idea, maybe it would be best not to get pregnant. DH and I can enjoy the freedom of being childless for a while after I stop watching my nephew. Then on the other hand I knew I'd like to have at least one child before my healthy got to the point where it would be unwise to carry a child.

I'm hoping this pregnancy isn't too difficult so that when # 1 is David's age(or older, maybe 3) we can begin TTC for # 2. I have recently met a woman who's carried 2 children with fibromyalgia and lupis in full swing. She ended up really sick and her babies were taken early but both children are doing great now and thriving. Okay, rambling...

Edit: I noticed some spelling errors.

 

[littlesister]

I'm thinking kind of the same thing about baby #3...except the part about it being 'easy' right now...my boys are 2 and 18 mos. It isn't easy having two this little...but I'm pretty convinced I do want another one. Actually I wasn't sure, and then we had a little 'slip up' last month and I thought I was pregnant (I was wrong). I was amazed how quickly I went from being worried about it to being totally psyched and knowing 100% that God would give me the grace to be a mommy of 3, despite our current state of craziness

Anyway, for what it's worth, my husband has 3 brothers all within about 3-4 years of each other. They're very close and get along with each other and they were never without a buddy growing up. That makes these crazy times worth it to me, knowing my boys will have each other forever (if God wills).

I'll pray that God will lead you in your decision and you'll know for sure and have peace about whatever you decide.

 

[Leanna]

I know this might not exactly be the same but I didn't want to leave your thread unanswered.

Aww, that's so nice.

 

[Neenie1]

he, he, just go for it. I had 2nd thoughts too, but they came after I was pregnant and I thought, oh no! What have I done. But it was too late.

Nothing that is worth having is ever really easy.

 

[Leanna]

he, he, just go for it. I had 2nd thoughts too, but they came after I was pregnant and I thought, oh no! What have I done. But it was too late.

Nothing that is worth having is ever really easy.

Yes, you're right, I just have my moments. I like not feeling nausea, and I like getting sleep at night.... that sort of thing. I know that I want more than one though, and the baby age is precious, its just so demanding! I think I am just having too much fun now so I question changing things.

 

[Singin4Him]

Yep second thoughts are completely normal. Into our 7th month of trying I decided I'd had enough and I wanted to take a break from it. I thought maybe because we hadn't gotten pregnant yet it was God's way of saying we weren't ready for it yet. Well, a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant . God has a plan but I think he's just waiting for us to let go and stop trying to make it happen ourselves.

 

[Chrystal-J]

I have only one child (who is a teen) and I'm very happy with my situation. We have so much fun together. I don't feel pulled in two directions and I can totally focus on my teen instead of feeling split. You have to have as many children as you feel happy with and that you feel you can handle. (And you're only 25--so you have plenty of time to think about it.) I grew up in a household of 5 kids and the stress was always so high and each child had a hard time getting their needs met as both my parents worked. I wouldn't worry about how far apart the kids are in age because I got along best with my brother who was 7 years older than me. And I fought non-stop with my sister who was only 2 years older than me. So, just because they're close in age doesn't mean they will automatically play together or get along well.
Do what you feel is best because you're the one who has to live in this situation day after day.
Take Care
C J