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i am scared to be happy because i've been sad for so long? i don't understand myself. i want to be happy but inside i think i am scared to be happy because i've known myself as sad for so long , i am worried how happy would feel like.

does anyone have any encrouaging words or anything?

i don't udnersatnd myself.
i want happiness so much though .
it's so strange how i feel this way.
 

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the only thing i know, is that you can only find true happiness through Jesus Christ! I have gone through someting kind like this. I was depressed, but i didn't do anything to make it better. I would just continue to be sad and i wouldn't let God use me. Yet, the day Jesus made me new, i had joy that i never felt before. God Bless you! Ill be praying!
 
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Please allow me to encourage to call out to God. Explain to Him exactly what you feel in detail. He intimately cares about the depression, confusion and sadness that we all feel. Focus your attention to Him. If it is possible, if you have a bible, open it up to the new testament, beginning with the book of John, and just read about the character of Jesus and who He is. You will quickly begin to see that God is our loving, accepting Father who desires more than anything to know us, to love us and to bring us to a place where we can have relationship with Him. As we get to know Him, we will begin to experience deep joy, we will begin to know who we are and why we were made and depression, confusion etc.. will begin to diminish to be replaced with the peace that knowing God and being adopted as His child brings.
 
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myquestions said:
i am scared to be happy because i've been sad for so long? i don't understand myself. i want to be happy but inside i think i am scared to be happy because i've known myself as sad for so long , i am worried how happy would feel like.

does anyone have any encrouaging words or anything?

i don't udnersatnd myself.
i want happiness so much though .
it's so strange how i feel this way.
Hi and welcome! The Lord so wants you to be happy. Unfortunately, this world can bring alot of sadness but if we focus on Jesus he can give us a hope and peace the world can't take from us. Ask Jesus to help you see yourself as he sees you, a precious child of God that he wants to give his entire Kingdom to, which is coming after this valley of tears that we sometimes experience. I read in your other thread about being turn off by christians who are mean, that is very sad because they could do so much good for Jesus if they would just imitate their Master. Actions speak louder than words, there are many christians out there that you would recognize as belonging to Jesus. You too can be one who brings Jesus to others by your example which does have an effect on the world. I would get a bible and start reading even just a little and talk to Jesus as you would a dear friend for that's what he wants to be in your life besides being your Lord and Savior, let us know how your doing , God bless.
 
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Once, there was a tremendous flood in a large city. The waters covered yards, cars, streets, and yes, even the homes themselves, so only the rooftops could be seen. Many climbed to their rooftops, awaiting help. One man prayed to God to save him from this predicament.

In the midst of his prayer, rescuers paddled a raft over to him, and beckoned him inside. The man shook his head, and merely stated "God will save me." So they left.

The man continued his prayers, and this time he was interrupted by some people in a rowboat. "Come with us," they said.

But the man refused, saying, "God will save me." And they left him there to pray.

A third time he was interrupted by a helicopter dangling a harness. "Strap yourself in," they called over the noise. The man shook his head, and the helicopter flew away.

After a few hours, the man began shouting at the sky. "God! Why do You leave me stranded? Why haven't You taken me away from this horrible place?"

And then the voice of God reverberated through the man's spirit. "My child, three times I sent aid for you, and three times you turned it away."

The lesson in this parable is that God can and does work through humans. Once a person realizes this, he can begin to see the real works of God in his daily life. There is another side to this coin.

Once, there was a man who worshipped God with all his heart. One day, however, he felt as though his life were falling apart. He felt alone, and confused, and so he prayed to God, but it didn't seem to help.
The man went to his church, and spoke with the preacher. With a compassionate tone, the preacher told the man that so long as he continued to trust in God, all would be well. Somewhat consoled, the man returned home.

On the second night, the man felt worse than before, and so he prayed and sought out the preacher. "God cares for all His children," said the preacher. "Turn to Him for guidance, He will not let you down."

On the third night, again he prayed, and again he visited the preacher. "My son," said the preacher, "I have already told you, no one is more able to help you than God Himself. He knows what is best, trust in Him." And the man went home.

Years later, the preacher met a woman on the street whom he recognized as the depressed man's wife, and inquired as to her husband's health. She informed the preacher that her husband had killed himself one year past, then walked away.

The preacher turned his eyes to heaven in grief and said, "Oh Lord, why did he not take my advice and turn to You? Why did he have to take the easy way out?"

The voice of the Lord rumbled within the preachers spirit. "Three times he prayed to me, and three times I sent him to you. Three times, you turned him away in My name."

Christians are so fond of saying "God works in mysterious ways". By this, they generally mean that God doesn't do things directly. On the other hand, when they address someone in need, they instruct them to turn to God as if they should be expecting a miracle any day now, instead of BEING the miracle themselves.
 
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myquestions said:
i am scared to be happy because i've been sad for so long? i don't understand myself. i want to be happy but inside i think i am scared to be happy because i've known myself as sad for so long , i am worried how happy would feel like.

does anyone have any encrouaging words or anything?

i don't udnersatnd myself.
i want happiness so much though .
it's so strange how i feel this way.

This sounds a bit like a caterpillar who is afraid to convert into a butterfly as that would be an entirely new experience for it and so a little fear is present. The solution here may be found simply by observing all of the other butterflys darting around and having a good time with their new found experience. Don't dump a bottle of glue on every yesterday that you have known to insure that they will adhere to all of your todays and so forestall a beneficial tomorrow. Go ahead...Let yesterday go, you can live without it. Don't be afraid of new ground just because it is new to you. Drop that cocoon and spread your wings! Others have done it and so can you.
 
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it takes courage to change our state of feeling.
when we are used in being sad, happiness seems to be something very strange and it can scare us like most unknown (to us) things.

we have to try and make the first tiny step towards happiness and towards the unknown.
this will free us ...

let yourself be happy, feel the freedom...
 
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disenchanted said:
Christians are so fond of saying "God works in mysterious ways". By this, they generally mean that God doesn't do things directly. On the other hand, when they address someone in need, they instruct them to turn to God as if they should be expecting a miracle any day now, instead of BEING the miracle themselves.


one has to observe if they want to understand what's going on in this life.

of course Christians instruct people in need to turn to God... but this is only ethical advice (if i use the word ethical correctly).

there are of course Christians that try to do more than instructing others. this is a procedure that needs efforts, commitment and love. not all Christians can have all of these "virtues" all the time, unfortunately.

only people that have a personal experience of God can be very good observants and can allow themselves to be lead by the Holy Spirit for the benefit of their neighbour.


keep the spirits high!
 
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Don't dump a bottle of glue on every yesterday that you have known to insure that they will adhere to all of your todays and so forestall a beneficial tomorrow.

that's beuatiufl!

.......has anyone else felt this way do you think?
beucase i feel to 'stupid' for feeling this way!!!!

WHO WOULD WANT TO BE SAD! i don't!
but why do i feel like this?

thanks for your comoments all so far, it's helping me understand MYSELF!

i am goign to start thikning postiive. i need to. ...
 
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Don't dump a bottle of glue on every yesterday that you have known to insure that they will adhere to all of your todays and so forestall a beneficial tomorrow.

that's beuatiufl!

.......has anyone else felt this way do you think?
beucase i feel to 'stupid' for feeling this way!!!!

WHO WOULD WANT TO BE SAD! i don't!
but why do i feel like this?

thanks for your comoments all so far, it's helping me understand MYSELF!

i am goign to start thikning postiive. i need to. ...
i cna't stay like this forver, but someitmes it's so hard. ..i've just got to try try again! i don't want to be a quiter!
 
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Many have felt that way, friend. The fear of the unknown, even if it looks good. But the result is worth it.

I have led many Christian recovery groups, and have seen this over and over - don't know if this applies to you, but as they lay aside their poor habits, viewpoints, etc., they experience a fear that there will be nothing left of them - that they will feel like they no longer exist. But we are PEOPLE, not HABITS. To God, we are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS. The more we put off the old sinful ways or negative thinking and put on the new godly habits, the more we will become like the person that we were created to be in the first place. Then we will truly know peace and contentment. I know - I've experienced both extremes myself, and have seen many others do the same.

The basis of all this profound change is that we make the decision to rely on Christ alone to pay for all our sins and to get us to Heaven one day, without relying at all on our good works or promises. The moment we make that decision, the Holy Spirit comes in to indwell us forever and to fulfill us. I pray that you will make that decision too, friend. I've never known a person to be sorry they did.

Please let me know if I can help, friend
Aloha in Jesus
 
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myquestions said:
Don't dump a bottle of glue on every yesterday that you have known to insure that they will adhere to all of your todays and so forestall a beneficial tomorrow.

that's beuatiufl!

.......has anyone else felt this way do you think?
beucase i feel to 'stupid' for feeling this way!!!!

WHO WOULD WANT TO BE SAD! i don't!
but why do i feel like this?

thanks for your comoments all so far, it's helping me understand MYSELF!

i am goign to start thikning postiive. i need to. ...
Hi again, your on your way my friend, if you can start seeing the positives in life that itself is uplifting. Know all your pain and suffering you don't have to carry alone. Jesus knows everything and is by your side and will help you in all situations. Nobody can take Jesus away from you, nobody can take away your everlasting inheritance which Jesus is going to give you, nobody can stand in God's way as he will renew this earth and separate good from evil forever, every day leads up to when God will be completely glorified and he wants you to be apart of his life and Kingdom forever. You're on you way, anytime anything makes you sad give it to Jesus and ask him to help you and to always move forward , knowing the past is gone, the future is ahead, the present is what you make of it, God bless, hope to hear from you again.
 
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hi, thanks for all those uplifting msgs. i am starting to feel better about myself a bit. i kind of feel like a bad person though, that i have to ask for help. hm. :o i feel stupid that i can't do it myself.

but thanks for everyones words :blush:

i'll be reading your msgs again and again. thankyou once again.
 
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myquestions said:
hi, thanks for all those uplifting msgs. i am starting to feel better about myself a bit. i kind of feel like a bad person though, that i have to ask for help. hm. :o i feel stupid that i can't do it myself.

but thanks for everyones words :blush:

i'll be reading your msgs again and again. thankyou once again.

Hi again friend-
So glad you are feeling better about yourself. But you are wise to ask for help. I wish I had come somewhere like this when I was seeking answers. It would have made my journey a lot shorter and more painless.

A Bible College prof of mine used to say: "The wisest man is not the person with all the answers, but the man who knows where to go with his questions."

BTW, the first step in Christian recovery is realizing "I can't do it on my own."

Aloha in Jesus
 
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myquestions said:
hi, thanks for all those uplifting msgs. i am starting to feel better about myself a bit. i kind of feel like a bad person though, that i have to ask for help. hm. :o i feel stupid that i can't do it myself.

but thanks for everyones words :blush:

i'll be reading your msgs again and again. thankyou once again.
Hi myquestions, know the Lord is on your side, he only wants the best for you and wants to forever be apart of your life. God bless on your journey with Jesus, the Savior and hope of all men and women. :crossrc:
 
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