Scared / confused / totally wrong, I don't know what...

[Buskanaka]

only 30, 000 in my town, I think I have you beat!

 

[Gardener101]

only 30, 000 in my town, I think I have you beat!

NO, No, No!

Repeat after me.


"Wow, 30,000 in my town! Awesome!!!"

 

[Buskanaka]

the female to male ratio at my uni IS something like 6:1

pity not many are christians

 

[PrincessFromOz]

LOL... all the males at my uni are Christians (I'm studying at Bible College), but I never see them (coz I study online). hehe...

 

[violetpen]

I know where you're coming from somewhat since I'm also 23 and shy.

Everyone offered some good suggestions - trying to get to know him as a friend more is good. If you don't know him that well yet, he probably doesn't know you well either! So it would be unrealistic for him to take the step of asking you out (and I definitely prefer guys doing the asking!) unless he knows you better.

One thing I would caution you against is considering him "second-best". God has him in your life for a reason, and whether he will be "the One" or a friend who will help you grow and become less shy to prepare for "the One" is really up to God. Just concentrate on getting to know him and allowing him to get to know you, and see where it goes from there. If you're subconsciously "settling" for him it will probably show in your actions and words, and that's not a strong foundation for any type of relationship.

 

[Luther073082]

I think you have a lot of shy people here. I beat shyness for the most part but I'm still afraid of being rejected. I can talk to a woman now, ask her to dance, flirt with her even. I can give speeches and dance in front of hundreds. But the fear of rejection still controls my heart in some ways.

 

[PassionateOne]

One thing I would caution you against is considering him "second-best". God has him in your life for a reason, and whether he will be "the One" or a friend who will help you grow and become less shy to prepare for "the One" is really up to God. Just concentrate on getting to know him and allowing him to get to know you, and see where it goes from there. If you're subconsciously "settling" for him it will probably show in your actions and words, and that's not a strong foundation for any type of relationship.

oooooo, I like!! Rep points for you!!

 

[PrincessFromOz]

If you don't know him that well yet, he probably doesn't know you well either! So it would be unrealistic for him to take the step of asking you out (and I definitely prefer guys doing the asking!) unless he knows you better.

One thing I would caution you against is considering him "second-best". God has him in your life for a reason, and whether he will be "the One" or a friend who will help you grow and become less shy to prepare for "the One" is really up to God. Just concentrate on getting to know him and allowing him to get to know you, and see where it goes from there. If you're subconsciously "settling" for him it will probably show in your actions and words, and that's not a strong foundation for any type of relationship.

That's really good - you're right. Thanks again everyone

 

[PrincessFromOz]

Guess what I did?

I went up and talked to him, lol... Yay for me!

Still praying...

 

[PassionateOne]

Guess what I did?

I went up and talked to him, lol... Yay for me!

Still praying...

Good job!!! It's a start!

 

[PrincessFromOz]

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