Salvation: Divorce and Adultery...Will those who remarry go to Heaven?

[Lady Donna Marie]

There were Jews that accepted Jesus as God. Just not all of them. Mary His mother is from the Jewish faith. The Apostles were Jews. He didn't divorce Himself from all the Old Testament faithful or the New Testament either. Only those that didn't want to accept Him as God.

 

[NeedyFollower]

[QUOTE="GaveMeJoy,

Dear GiveMeJoy,

You mentioned that if your wife would come back you would take her back, but I have known the scriptures say something else. I don't want to burst your bubble and yet you seem like someone that takes your life in Christ seriously. So I thought I would share a couple of scriptures that focus on what you are talking about. I hope you are able to hear the words of the Lord so that it can bring light to your situation.
God's many blessings.



1 Corinthians 7:15
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.

Deuteronomy 24:1 - 24:4

1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house.

2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's [wife].

3 And [if] the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth [it] in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her [to be] his wife;

4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that [is] abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.

And yet God continually took Israel back and also is seems one of King David's wives was taken from someone else who went weeping after her ( not Abigail for her husband was dead . ( I'll have to look it up . )
I think the brother can take her back if she repents and is a new creature in Christ . It does not sound like she ever was since she left .

 

[Once Upon A Time]

My husband divorced me. He wasn’t happy and wanted to date other women so he left me. I believe I can remarry without it being considered a sin. Though I haven’t found anyone. It’s so hard to find men my age that are Christian where I live.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

My husband divorced me. He wasn’t happy and wanted to date other women so he left me. I believe I can remarry without it being considered a sin. Though I haven’t found anyone. It’s so hard to find men my age that are Christian where I live.

I was deserted by my first wife and it tore me apart at the time. It took me seven years of storm and stress for me to really get over it. I did everything I could to save my marriage, but my wife was adamant that she had made a mistake (which she disclosed only after either years of marriage. So she either became depressed and that altered her perception, as it does, or that she lied to me for eight years!).

I had a good shouting match at the Lord over it, after an elder said that I could never be married again. I argued with the Lord that it was not fair that me, being innocent, should be punished in the same way as the one who actually broke the marriage covenant. I expected the big thumb to come down from the sky, but instead the Lord said to trust Him and He would work things out for me. I went through the storm and stress years because I didn't trust Him as I should have, and tried to meet my need for a replacement in my own way, and had to be bailed out of some relationships that the Lord didn't want for me.

Then I found out that my first wife had married again. When, after seven years I decided to give up trying to find another partner, within three months I met my present wife and we have been happily married for 30 years now. She was a widow whose husband had passed away with cancer three years before I met her.

So, because my first wife had married again, I was effectively free to marry again, and I believe that is why the Lord delayed for seven years before He could allow me to find another partner. Also, my second wife was a widow, so I didn't marry a divorced woman, so I didn't cause her to commit adultery.

So the prohibitions that some performance-based religious people want to put on divorced people doesn't apply to me at all. When I realised that, the condemnation bombs that the devil tried to drop on me were neutralised.

Also, the Lord required me to forgive my first wife, and I asked how can I do that. He said to pray for her that her faith fails not, every time I think about her (which is almost every day). A faithful minister friend told me that I needed to view my first wife in the light of Calvary, because if I didn't, then I would become angry and bitter and take it out on every other woman I met. That was great advice, and the Lord confirmed it as a witness in my spirit.

So, there is life and meaning after divorce, and celibacy is a special gift for very few people. I believe that that the default is for men and women to have a partner in life. If you put your trust in the Lord, forgive your ex-husband and pray for him every time you think of him, and not limit the Lord in who He brings across your path, then you will be amazed at what He can do for you. With God all things are possible, and when He decides it's time for you to meet someone, you will turn a corner, and there he will be, and the spark will happen between you and the rest will be history!

 

[Once Upon A Time]

I was deserted by my first wife and it tore me apart at the time. It took me seven years of storm and stress for me to really get over it. I did everything I could to save my marriage, but my wife was adamant that she had made a mistake (which she disclosed only after either years of marriage. So she either became depressed and that altered her perception, as it does, or that she lied to me for eight years!).

I had a good shouting match at the Lord over it, after an elder said that I could never be married again. I argued with the Lord that it was not fair that me, being innocent, should be punished in the same way as the one who actually broke the marriage covenant. I expected the big thumb to come down from the sky, but instead the Lord said to trust Him and He would work things out for me. I went through the storm and stress years because I didn't trust Him as I should have, and tried to meet my need for a replacement in my own way, and had to be bailed out of some relationships that the Lord didn't want for me.

Then I found out that my first wife had married again. When, after seven years I decided to give up trying to find another partner, within three months I met my present wife and we have been happily married for 30 years now. She was a widow whose husband had passed away with cancer three years before I met her.

So, because my first wife had married again, I was effectively free to marry again, and I believe that is why the Lord delayed for seven years before He could allow me to find another partner. Also, my second wife was a widow, so I didn't marry a divorced woman, so I didn't cause her to commit adultery.

So the prohibitions that some performance-based religious people want to put on divorced people doesn't apply to me at all. When I realised that, the condemnation bombs that the devil tried to drop on me were neutralised.

Also, the Lord required me to forgive my first wife, and I asked how can I do that. He said to pray for her that her faith fails not, every time I think about her (which is almost every day). A faithful minister friend told me that I needed to view my first wife in the light of Calvary, because if I didn't, then I would become angry and bitter and take it out on every other woman I met. That was great advice, and the Lord confirmed it as a witness in my spirit.

So, there is life and meaning after divorce, and celibacy is a special gift for very few people. I believe that that the default is for men and women to have a partner in life. If you put your trust in the Lord, forgive your ex-husband and pray for him every time you think of him, and not limit the Lord in who He brings across your path, then you will be amazed at what He can do for you. With God all things are possible, and when He decides it's time for you to meet someone, you will turn a corner, and there he will be, and the spark will happen between you and the rest will be history!

Thank you so much! This is advice I will most certainly take!

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

Thank you so much! This is advice I will most certainly take!

During my storm and stress years I thought I would never find a partner I could spend the rest of my life with. It was when I changed cities as part of my job and joined a new church, that I first met my present wife, and I first thought that she was not the one for me. She didn't fit my ideal. But the pastor invited the church secretary to dinner (I was boarding with the pastor at the time), to try and match-make her with me. She was very attractive, but the spark didn't happen. My present wife was invited to lunch the next day, and when she had to go home alone, I said I would look after her for the rest of the day, and by the end of the day, the spark happened. Then she went on a five week tour to Australia which was already booked, and I missed her like mad! I then knew that she was the woman for me, and I told her so. We got married on January 6 1990, and have a 28 year old daughter whom we are very proud of.

So it happens when we least expect it. It showed me that I had to kiss a few toads first before I met my wonderful princess!

I also learned that sitting at home waiting for the person to come to me doesn't work. I had to get out there and meet people. I calculated that there are 4 million people in my country. 2 million are the same gender as me so that limited my options to 2 million women. At least 1 million would be either too young or too hold, so that left 1 million. 500,000 women wouldn't like me, so that left 500,000 possibilities. I calculated that I wouldn't like 250,000 of them, leaving 250,000. And what if 125,000 were gay? Then that would leave 125,000. What if 100,000 of them lived in other towns and cities? that would leave just 25,000 eligible prospective wives who would make a very happy marriage for me. All I had to do was to meet one of them!

The key is to get involved in social and church situations where you could meet as many prospective partners as possible, but without giving the impression that you are a 'hunter'. When I was a young Christian I noticed a fellow in the church who seemed to have a lost and lonely look. A friend told me, "He is looking for a wife". It was no surprise that the single women in the church steered clear of him!

The other problem that many have is that they single out someone and become obsessed that "this is the one God has for me". That can cause a disaster. One guy in a church become obsessed with a girl named Grace. He was sure that this was God's choice for him because he found the Scripture, "Grace be unto you from the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ!" When Grace turned him down, he concentrated on another young woman named Joy, and he got the Scripture, "Weeping may endure for a night, but Joy cometh in the morning". It nearly wrecked his faith when Joy turned him down!

 

[Carl Emerson]

During my storm and stress years I thought I would never find a partner I could spend the rest of my life with. It was when I changed cities as part of my job and joined a new church, that I first met my present wife, and I first thought that she was not the one for me. She didn't fit my ideal. But the pastor invited the church secretary to dinner (I was boarding with the pastor at the time), to try and match-make her with me. She was very attractive, but the spark didn't happen. My present wife was invited to lunch the next day, and when she had to go home alone, I said I would look after her for the rest of the day, and by the end of the day, the spark happened. Then she went on a five week tour to Australia which was already booked, and I missed her like mad! I then knew that she was the woman for me, and I told her so. We got married on January 6 1990, and have a 28 year old daughter whom we are very proud of.

So it happens when we least expect it. It showed me that I had to kiss a few toads first before I met my wonderful princess!

I also learned that sitting at home waiting for the person to come to me doesn't work. I had to get out there and meet people. I calculated that there are 4 million people in my country. 2 million are the same gender as me so that limited my options to 2 million women. At least 1 million would be either too young or too hold, so that left 1 million. 500,000 women wouldn't like me, so that left 500,000 possibilities. I calculated that I wouldn't like 250,000 of them, leaving 250,000. And what if 125,000 were gay? Then that would leave 125,000. What if 100,000 of them lived in other towns and cities? that would leave just 25,000 eligible prospective wives who would make a very happy marriage for me. All I had to do was to meet one of them!

The key is to get involved in social and church situations where you could meet as many prospective partners as possible, but without giving the impression that you are a 'hunter'. When I was a young Christian I noticed a fellow in the church who seemed to have a lost and lonely look. A friend told me, "He is looking for a wife". It was no surprise that the single women in the church steered clear of him!

The other problem that many have is that they single out someone and become obsessed that "this is the one God has for me". That can cause a disaster. One guy in a church become obsessed with a girl named Grace. He was sure that this was God's choice for him because he found the Scripture, "Grace be unto you from the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ!" When Grace turned him down, he concentrated on another young woman named Joy, and he got the Scripture, "Weeping may endure for a night, but Joy cometh in the morning". It nearly wrecked his faith when Joy turned him down!

Well it's not the same for everyone...

My first wife deserted me for my best friend.

Then I waited 10 years for the wrong lady and the Lord then led me to my present wife of 35 years.

Some folks insist I should never have married again.

However, Paul speaks of the unbelieving partner leaving and the believer not being bound.

My present marriage was born in heaven and our callings combine to His Glory.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

Well it's not the same for everyone...

My first wife deserted me for my best friend.

Then I waited 10 years for the wrong lady and the Lord then led me to my present wife of 35 years.

Some folks insist I should never have married again.

However, Paul speaks of the unbelieving partner leaving and the believer not being bound.

My present marriage was born in heaven and our callings combine to His Glory.

Well, the Lord is not limited in how He can meet our needs. It is not always the journey, but the outcome.

 

[Dave L]

The New Covenant does not provide for divorce. So any separation does not destroy the marriage bond. We are married for life. Paul says if the unbeliever leaves, you no longer need to submit (are not bound) to them. Also believers fled violence should that be the reason in separating.

 

[Jermayn]

My wife cheated, gave up Christianity and left me for the other dude. Life comes at you fast.

Even though I have a biblical divorce (which I still didn’t want and fought even after the infidelity and apostasy), I still love my wife and hope she returns to Christ, and if she does I will take her back.

If I remarry then I can’t do that, even if God works a miracle. That’s where I land on this now.


Tough thing will be to figure out what to do if she remarried, which would then fully release me scripturally and eliminate ability to reconcile. Then IdK.


Regarding the OP no sin is unforgivable. Also, the interpretation of most of these scriptures on remarriage is not agreed on by majority of theologians and pastors anyway. Therefore some people are wrong and others are right but no way to tell who is who.

This reminds me of Hosea and Gomer, where God tells Hosea to buy back his adulterous wife in a time when she should have been stoned to death. What you are doing is a perfect example of Ephesians 5:25-26:

"25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word."

I believe you a laying up a great treasure friend.

 

[JacksBratt]

Romans 10:8-11 (NKJV)
8 But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.”

-Many quote Romans, that once you confess and believe, you are saved, and others to the point that no matter how you live after that, you will always be saved BECAUSE ITS IN THE BIBLE.

Matthew 19:7-10 (NKJV)
7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for [a]sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”.

-Which brings up the main point, divorce and remarriage. Is it adultery if you remarry and your reason for divorce wasnt sexual immorality? Most of the devout Christians I know that divorced, was pretty much because they couldnt stand each other or get along, and many of them have all remarried, and some cases, remarried multiple times.


-Some examples from scripture of those that will not get into heaven if they live or practice a certain lifestyle.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 New King James Version (NKJV)
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:19-21 New King James Version (NKJV)
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: [a]adultery, [b]fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, [c]murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Revelation 21:8 New King James Version (NKJV)
8 But the cowardly, [a]unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”


-So if you trust and believe on Christ Rom 10:9-11 to be saved BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE and many believe the sexually immoral like homosexuals or or just plain fornicators would go to hell due to sexual immorality BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE, would that mean all these believers that divorced for reason other than sexual immorality and remarried might go to hell, BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE that that is adultery and no adulterer will go to heaven?

Heaven will have divorced people, thieves, liars, murderers, charlatans, cheats, slanderers, gluttons, gossips, slothful people, rich, poor and any other form of questionable souls..

All washed in His blood and will appears righteous and white as snow.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

The New Covenant does not provide for divorce. So any separation does not destroy the marriage bond. We are married for life. Paul says if the unbeliever leaves, you no longer need to submit (are not bound) to them. Also believers fled violence should that be the reason in separating.

Doesn't apply to grace-based Christians. The New Covenant is not between us and God, it is between the Father and Jesus, and provides guaranteed salvation for those who have faith alone in Christ, without works of any kind. It recognises that at our best we are miserable sinners, deserving of hell, and that in our flesh we will never be able to comply with the Law, even God's moral law (which includes divorce and remarriage). Just one infraction of God's moral law condemns the natural man to hell because those who live by God's moral law are required to comply with it perfectly or suffer the penalty of God's wrath and hell. The law itself is holy and righteous, so the problem is the sinfulness of man which prevents him from complying with the law. It is not in man's nature.

So those who condemn divorced and remarried people, will have the finger of God pointed at them for their own failure to comply with His moral law. His comment will be: "Why are you condemning others for their failure to keep My moral law, when you don't keep it yourself?" That's the issue that Jesus had with the Pharisees.

Mixing faith with law is more RCC and SDA doctrine than Reformed, which is based on Justification by Faith Alone.

If a person says that they are able to keep God's moral law blamelessly, then Jesus said that the whole law is encapsulated in "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength, and your neighbor as yourself". This is to be done with perfection from youth up. How many believers have ever been able to keep to that standard continuously without a single failure? One single failure in this means the failure to keep the whole law.

So someone who criticised a divorced and remarried person could be faced by God who will tell him, "You haven't always loved Me with all your heart, soul and strength, and you haven't always loved your neighbor as yourself, so you are in exactly the same state as the person you are criticising!"

So, if we judge people according to their performance, whatever it is, we will be judged by the same measure of performance. Because our performance is never be up to scratch, it might suck to be us in the Judgment!

But if we hold to that we are saved by grace through faith, not of ourselves, but it is the gift of God, not of works lest any should boast in them, then we are trusting in the perfection of Christ who kept God's moral law and took our penalty for our failure on Himself when He died on the cross.

So, my view is that if a person says, "I am better spiritually than you because I have never been divorced and remarried like you", he or she is boasting in their works and bringing damnation upon themselves.

 

[Bruce Leiter]

Romans 10:8-11 (NKJV)
8 But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.”

-Many quote Romans, that once you confess and believe, you are saved, and others to the point that no matter how you live after that, you will always be saved BECAUSE ITS IN THE BIBLE.

Matthew 19:7-10 (NKJV)
7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for [a]sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”.

-Which brings up the main point, divorce and remarriage. Is it adultery if you remarry and your reason for divorce wasnt sexual immorality? Most of the devout Christians I know that divorced, was pretty much because they couldnt stand each other or get along, and many of them have all remarried, and some cases, remarried multiple times.


-Some examples from scripture of those that will not get into heaven if they live or practice a certain lifestyle.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 New King James Version (NKJV)
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, nor [b]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:19-21 New King James Version (NKJV)
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: [a]adultery, [b]fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, [c]murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Revelation 21:8 New King James Version (NKJV)
8 But the cowardly, [a]unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”


-So if you trust and believe on Christ Rom 10:9-11 to be saved BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE and many believe the sexually immoral like homosexuals or or just plain fornicators would go to hell due to sexual immorality BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE, would that mean all these believers that divorced for reason other than sexual immorality and remarried might go to hell, BECAUSE IT IS IN THE BIBLE that that is adultery and no adulterer will go to heaven?

God can foregive any and all sins except for the unforgivable one (a lifelong rebellion against him). It takes faith and repentance as God's gifts by grace. Repentance is a complete turning around from a life of sin to a life of righteousness. However, only God can judge such a lifechange because he alone knows people's hearts. Greed is just as bad in God's sight as adultery and sexual immorality, according to Paul.

We're all going to hell when we are born unless God saves us (Ephesians 2:1-10).

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

God can foregive any and all sins except for the unforgivable one (a lifelong rebellion against him). It takes faith and repentance as God's gifts by grace. Repentance is a complete turning around from a life of sin to a life of righteousness. However, only God can judge such a lifechange because he alone knows people's hearts. Greed is just as bad in God's sight as adultery and sexual immorality, according to Paul.

We're all going to hell when we are born unless God saves us (Ephesians 2:1-10).

In our natural mortal bodies, the Scripture: "There is none righteous, no, not one" applies to us. The Scripture also says that our own righteousness is as filthy rags before God". This is who we are. Paul recognised this when he said, "In me, that is in my flesh [my mortal body] there dwelleth no good thing". Therefore, it doesn't matter how good we try to be, we will never be good enough to be acceptable to God. But we need a righteousness greater than that of the Scribes and Pharisees, who were able to achieve a greater degree of moral and religious perfection than any of us, to be part of the kingdom of God. So, trying to improve our "Christian" performance will still leave us in a sinful state, heading to judgment and hell.

So what is the answer? There is a righteousness outside of our own that is fully acceptable to God. Jesus Christ's own righteousness. He kept the moral law perfectly, therefore He was totally and perfectly righteous in Himself. This is why He was the perfect substitute for us, and when He died on the cross He took the penalty for our unrighteousness. Then, when we received Him as our Saviour, He bestowed His perfect righteousness on us, and it is through that righteousness that we are adopted into the family of God.

We have received the righteousness of Christ through our faith in Him alone, and not through any performance of our own. If we are trying to be more spiritual or closer to God through trying to be better performing Christians, then the righteousness of Christ has no effect for us. We have reverted to our own righteousness which is actually unrighteousness because of the sinfulness of our mortal bodies.

Therefore it is important that we discard our desire for performance, and trust in the righteousness of Christ, and allow the Holy Spirit to transform us in the persons God wants us to be.

 

[Carl Emerson]

The New Covenant does not provide for divorce. So any separation does not destroy the marriage bond. We are married for life. Paul says if the unbeliever leaves, you no longer need to submit (are not bound) to them. Also believers fled violence should that be the reason in separating.

Dave can you expand a little...

If a believer is divorced by a non-believer, Paul says that person is no longer bound.

Being no longer bound, but rather in peace leaves no obligation to the previous marriage - Yes?

Are you saying women should stay in an abusive marriage?

If an unbelieving partner breaks the marriage covenant the marriage is broken - Yes?

 

[Dave L]

Dave can you expand a little...

If a believer is divorced by a non-believer, Paul says that person is no longer bound.

Being no longer bound, but rather in peace leaves no obligation to the previous marriage - Yes?

Are you saying women should stay in an abusive marriage?

If an unbelieving partner breaks the marriage covenant the marriage is broken - Yes?

You are substituting the word "married" for "bound" thus rewriting scripture.

 

[Dave L]

Doesn't apply to grace-based Christians. The New Covenant is not between us and God, it is between the Father and Jesus, and provides guaranteed salvation for those who have faith alone in Christ, without works of any kind. It recognises that at our best we are miserable sinners, deserving of hell, and that in our flesh we will never be able to comply with the Law, even God's moral law (which includes divorce and remarriage). Just one infraction of God's moral law condemns the natural man to hell because those who live by God's moral law are required to comply with it perfectly or suffer the penalty of God's wrath and hell. The law itself is holy and righteous, so the problem is the sinfulness of man which prevents him from complying with the law. It is not in man's nature.

So those who condemn divorced and remarried people, will have the finger of God pointed at them for their own failure to comply with His moral law. His comment will be: "Why are you condemning others for their failure to keep My moral law, when you don't keep it yourself?" That's the issue that Jesus had with the Pharisees.

Mixing faith with law is more RCC and SDA doctrine than Reformed, which is based on Justification by Faith Alone.

If a person says that they are able to keep God's moral law blamelessly, then Jesus said that the whole law is encapsulated in "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength, and your neighbor as yourself". This is to be done with perfection from youth up. How many believers have ever been able to keep to that standard continuously without a single failure? One single failure in this means the failure to keep the whole law.

So someone who criticised a divorced and remarried person could be faced by God who will tell him, "You haven't always loved Me with all your heart, soul and strength, and you haven't always loved your neighbor as yourself, so you are in exactly the same state as the person you are criticising!"

So, if we judge people according to their performance, whatever it is, we will be judged by the same measure of performance. Because our performance is never be up to scratch, it might suck to be us in the Judgment!

But if we hold to that we are saved by grace through faith, not of ourselves, but it is the gift of God, not of works lest any should boast in them, then we are trusting in the perfection of Christ who kept God's moral law and took our penalty for our failure on Himself when He died on the cross.

So, my view is that if a person says, "I am better spiritually than you because I have never been divorced and remarried like you", he or she is boasting in their works and bringing damnation upon themselves.

Divorce is not an option for the believer in the New Covenant. People are married for life.

 

[Carl Emerson]

You are substituting the word "married" for "bound" thus rewriting scripture.

That is a serious claim...

I quote the scripture...

1 Cor 7:15
if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.


1Cor 7:39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, as long as he belongs to the Lord.

In no case did I substitute the word bound for marriage as you claim.

Please answer the questions I posed below...

If a believer is divorced by a non-believer, Paul says that person is no longer bound.

Being no longer bound, but rather in peace leaves no obligation to the previous marriage - Yes?

Are you saying women should stay in an abusive marriage?

If an unbelieving partner breaks the marriage covenant the marriage is broken - Yes?

Your answer would be much appreciated rather than claiming I misquote scripture...

 

[Carl Emerson]

Divorce is not an option for the believer in the New Covenant. People are married for life.

If the unbelieving partner divorces the believing partner, the believing partner is not bound to the marriage as 1 Cor 7:15 clearly says...

Let the scripture speak to the issue, not our traditional thinking...

 

[Dave L]

If the unbelieving partner divorces the believing partner, the believing partner is not bound to the marriage as 1 Cor 7:15 clearly says...

Let the scripture speak to the issue, not our traditional thinking...

Not bound but still married for life.