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[Brax]

I wanted to put this in the advice area but it said it was for Christian people only so I didnt know whereelse to go.
2 days ago my mom tried to kill herself and she has been in the hospital ever since, I heard today they dont know how long she will have to stay there. This is not the first time it happened. I tried to visit my mom and they wouldnt let me, I tried to call my mom and they wouldnt let me talk to her. Why not? wont it help the patients to talk to family members? I have a stomach ache over this and my dad is so stressed. I dont know what to do. I will be staying with my aunt for a few weeks just to get out of everyones way since my moms family is coming from out of state to try to help my dad with my mom and little brother. My mom has been depresed for a long time. Maybe I am part of the reason she is so sad all the time. I dont know how to make her better. She even started using medicines that are suposed to help depression go away. Nothing worked.

So here I was all ready to wallow in my sorrows with my aunt and cousins and then my aunt was in a car accident last night. everything tht sucks happens at once. I was hoping that some of you might be able to tell me what exactly happens when someone has a concussion? I went to a medical site but I was confused on what it is exactly. It said it is a head injury but it did not say why someone would have to be woken up all night. Amie was ok (we thought) other than her sore neck, her friend was hurt bad and is in the hospital. The car was all messed up. But this evening she started throwing up so my dad took her to the emergecy room and they said she had a concussion and she needs to be woken up alot. They say she'll be ok but then why does she have to be woken up all night if "she'll be ok"? I feel worried because she had a bad head injury before. I'm scared she will die while she is sleeping. How long do concussions last?
My dad is sitting in the living room crying, my mom is in the psychaitric floor locked up like a prisoner, my aunt Amie is going through this ordeal from the accident, throwing up, headache and neck ache and worried about her friend who had a ruptured splean and I am sitting here at the computer feeling sick over all of this. The only ones who are doing good is my little brother Louie and my cousing krissy who are sleeping. I feel lousy.

Auntie (I hope you remember me from a few months back) if you happen to read this will you let me know what you think I should do? I dont know what to do to help any of my family and I feel helpless and just sick about my mom.

 

[TruthTraveler]

WOW, that is crazy how your world is just falling apart around you.

All I can say is Pray to God, even if your not Christian he will listen.
or better yet ask your Dad to take you to a Church and see if they will pray with you.

 

[Jenna]

First off, doll, you can't make your mom better. If she is on medication, it is probably for a good reason, which means that what is making her sad goes far beyond the average trivialities of the day. I know that it is hard for some people to understand, but a lot of times there is nothing that you can do to ease the pain of a person who is deeply and/or chronically depressed. I know, as I'm one of those folks. lol Sometimes it helps to have family members around to talk to and see, but at other times it can actually just make the person more wound up. It has nothing to do with you. You aren't a bad person to have around or anything, it is just that right now they are trying to help her get her head on straight and calm down. Besides, with the limited knowledge that I have of the situation, I don't know if you would like talking to her right now anyway. It can be very disturbing to experience how the drugs affect some people, and most times they do make sure that folks are medicated. At least that is how it was when my sister sucked down a bottle of pills. I know that it can seem scary, like everything is out of your hands. Helplessness is one of the most frightening things. I am sure that she knows that you love her, and as she gets help, it will be a great sanctuary for her.

Just because a person is medicated, that doesn't mean that they are recieving the right meds, the right dose, or the right combination of medications. It is kidn of hit and miss at first. I ran into this problem while the docs were trying to figure out if I was just depressed, or if I am bipolar. Wacky brain.

Don't worry too much about your aunt. Lots of people take nasty bumps to the noggin and are just fine. They want to make sure that she doesn't lose conciousness, which is why she has to be woken up frequently. The brain can swell, just like any other bit of soft tissue in the body, so they have to make sure that that ISN"T happening while everyone just thinks the person is sleeping. Anywho, it doesn't take long for the initial swelling to cease to be a problem, so please don't fret. Give your worries up to God. His burden is light, and He can definitely shoulder the pains better than you can. Whether it is your mom, your aunt, or any other person, there is very little that any one person can do. However, there is great power in prayer.

Lastly, I know how you feel, and I empathize. I feel lousy with ya. My mama tried a number of times to kill herself also, not to mention that situation with my sister. It stinks, that is for sure, and I know that sick feeling that you get in the pit of your stomach. I can't really make it better for you, but you surely aren't alone. All in all, I believe that THAT is why I feel so deeply about sharing God's love and our salvation with people, especially those I love. You can't change whether a person lives or dies, or what circumstances they might face. However, it is a great comfort to know that there is no such thing as a 'bad ending' when someone goes home to God. Even in sadness, I can be happy then.

God bless you and gift you with comfort in your time of vulnerability and need......

 

[Brax]

Thank you both for being so nice to me. not something I have gotten alot of today around here so I appreciate it. Jenna it helps to talk with someone who's been in my place. It feels lousy. I still havent been able to talk to my mom, they wont let me at the hospital.

 

[Auntie]

Brax, I just now saw your post today . I'm so sorry to hear about your mom and Amie . A week has past since you made your post, so I'm hoping that things have improved since you posted last. Sometimes trouble comes in bunches.

Yes, I remember you, sweety. I hope your situation with your dad is better. But right now, I'm praying your mom & Amie are okay. You've had a lot of tragedy hit you all at once. I'm sorry I didn't see your post earlier, but I hope things are better now.

I'm sending you a PM.

Love, prayers, & hugs,

Auntie.

 

[sr. scholls]

I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through, Brax. My mom has been in the exact same situation as yours is right now, so I know exactly how you feel. I wish I could speak as eloquently as Jenna has, but all I can offer you is the little solace in knowing that others know how you feel. And most importantly, God knows how you feel.

Matthew 11:28-30
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest in your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

 

[layne]

I'm sorry to hear how cruddy things have been for you. I can relate too. When I was 10, I got this gross disease, and was hospitalized a few months later and had major surgery. A day after my operation, my dad and sisters were in a car accident, my grandma died and my mom had a nervous breakdown. I of course felt like it was all my fault because my dad was driving home from the hospital when he was hit, and my mom couldn't go to her mother's funeral because of me, and had her breakdown.

Believe me, life does go on. I still have some things in my life that stink, but I have so many good things to make up for the bad.

I will pray for your situation, and I hope you honestly do the same. Hugs!

 

[desi]

Hang in there and pray for God's to help you through this time. Try to spend time with your family to help each other.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Hey bro.
*hug*

 

[ukok]

Brax, i'm so sorry to hear about the problems that your mum is having and also about amie, I gather from what i read the other day that amie, is also a Cf member, yes ? I have interacted with amie here, and i will pray most sincerely for your aunt amie and for your mum. You are having to shoulder a great deal at the moment and it seems so unfair that you should have so much to endure at such a young age.

I can't really offer any advice concerning the medical request for information, but i can tell you that depression does not have to continue indefinately, i can attest to that fact personally.
Praying for you and your family.