I am posting for sincere advice and prayer. I have been married to my husband for 3 years. Last year (August 2012) we lost our first child due to still birth. The next day his best friend was murdered. My husband accepted his call to the ministry in January of 2012. Before that time our marriage has suffered some tremendous hardships. After he accepted his calling, I got pregnant and he got permanent employment. Sadly, our life took a turn for the worst after that child died. He began to go out to clubs more and began seeing another woman. The woman is 6 years our older and has 4 children. She flourishes him with gifts and frequent trips.
In January of 2013 I asked my husband to leave because I caught him on the phone with her. He came back in March repenting of his sin but later he decided to continue the relationship and to leave again in April to go on a trip with her. He mysteriously came back home in May after I purchased a new car and stayed for 2 months and left again on July 1, 2013. In May I became pregnant and this other woman and I spoke and she said that she too was pregnant. This was going to be her 5th child. She decided to abort it. I am having my child. There is no other option.
Since July 1, 2013. My minister husband has been frequenting clubs, going on trips with his girlfriend, and partying around the city. His posts about the ministry have become slim to none and he does not contact me at all. To my knowledge he has not spoken to his family about the true state of our marriage because the contact me and ask me to attend functions. He also has his own place and refuses to tell me where he lives. He often posts pictures on facebook of him having a good time out of town and at local events. Meanwhile, I am home praying, reading, and pregnant with our 2nd child in a very high risk pregnancy.
I feel abandoned, rejected, betrayed, and confused and hurt. I am fighting myself to understand whether or not I should stand for my marriage or should I divorce him once the baby arrives.
Please assist me with advice. I'm hurting.
Thanks!
In January of 2013 I asked my husband to leave because I caught him on the phone with her. He came back in March repenting of his sin but later he decided to continue the relationship and to leave again in April to go on a trip with her. He mysteriously came back home in May after I purchased a new car and stayed for 2 months and left again on July 1, 2013. In May I became pregnant and this other woman and I spoke and she said that she too was pregnant. This was going to be her 5th child. She decided to abort it. I am having my child. There is no other option.
Since July 1, 2013. My minister husband has been frequenting clubs, going on trips with his girlfriend, and partying around the city. His posts about the ministry have become slim to none and he does not contact me at all. To my knowledge he has not spoken to his family about the true state of our marriage because the contact me and ask me to attend functions. He also has his own place and refuses to tell me where he lives. He often posts pictures on facebook of him having a good time out of town and at local events. Meanwhile, I am home praying, reading, and pregnant with our 2nd child in a very high risk pregnancy.
I feel abandoned, rejected, betrayed, and confused and hurt. I am fighting myself to understand whether or not I should stand for my marriage or should I divorce him once the baby arrives.
Please assist me with advice. I'm hurting.
Thanks!
